What is our experience of Emotional intelligence ? ( Archived) (116)

Thank you.
I am going true my thoughts, for what should I appologise myself for... but it must be something I said in over reaction lol and you being so kind to cross this bridge and shake hands ...it's gentlemen way of honouring and I am.pleased to give you back welcoming hug. You make me feel, I am happy to appologise for what ever I said that might be offencive replay to you too, in my likable over reaction on you're exuberance / teasing.

Lookin was banned from my thread and that was exceptionally great emotional intelligence move.

Exercising to express my feelings stright forward does feels good.

Where where we....lol
I appologise for this nusence disturbance, it was only a fly that needed to be quickly sprayed - not to buzz around, making usless noise.

Great post Rainbow and interesting contributions. In my opinion, I believe that emotional intelligence is something that is learnt throughout life. Many will question the why, where, when, who, what, and how of an emotion that is causing conflict within themselves to gain extra knowledge and understanding in order to deal with it. Men for the most part inhabit environments geared to the macho male where emotions don’t exist (tongue in cheek). However, I found from research that men are far more vulnerable than women! Knowledge is power and emotional knowledge will ensure that the hurdles on life’s journey are so much easier to overcome. All of life’s coping skills should be taught in schools from an early age including emotional intelligence.

I agree with you MsC.
Especially the last line.
I think kids can do with less of learning how to colour within the lines and more of reading between them.

An overhaul on the education system would be an ideal..to build stronger more adeptable kids.

The education system throughout the world does not reflect the age we live in or the needs of society. It was designed for the Industrial Revolution and is 200 yrs out of date! However, I expect due to the person to person communication at that time emotional intellegance was everyday thinking! Our young generation are being robbed!

I could answer this question but I'm emotionally unavailable at the moment

#1. I APPRECIATE the courtesy, Rainy! But (with ME, anyway), you NEVER "need" permission to state your thoughts/feelings. It makes MY life easier, IF I don't have to ASK for them!

#2. I DIDN'T KNOW you worked with children! What age group? And in what way?

#3. I'm NOT familiar with any work, on eye contact. But it's VERY OLD news about "quality time" improving the development of children. (At least, primate and mammalian children.) SOME LONG time ago (I can't dredge up the date, or even the study, off the top of my head, now), a study was done with both human and primate babies. And it's a documented fact that children who aren't held and interacted with, show poor development, and adjustment to "social norms". And, with primate babies, it was shown that if a child was removed from contact with other entities (it's own species, or others) at an early enough age, even though it received food and water, it would die. Humans and primates, at least, REQUIRE "emotional" sustenance, just as much as they do food and water! And I SUSPECT that THAT is true of many OTHER animals, as well. ESPECIALLY the higher mammals, ie: whales, porpoises, bears, elephants, etc.

#4. I can understand you statement "the key is consistency", Rainy. But I have some thoughts of my own, on that topic, that you might want to consider. Consistency is good, in that it provides a framework within which, one can "build" a/their life. But, as I'm sure you're aware of, life can toss you curve balls. Even though you've got your life well "organised", you've have created a satisfactory "routine", life has a tendency to throw monkey wrenches into the BEST well oiled machines! We, here in America, have what we call "Murphy's Law". And Murphy's Law states that "If something CAN go wrong, it WILL go wrong! And USUALLY at the WORST POSSIBLE moment!" and a person needs to be prepared to deal with those "emergencies". And, if one has become USED TO/DEPENDENT on that routine, the "consistency" of their life, dealing with life's EMERGENCIES can be problematic. So a person NEEDS to learn how to "ad lib". "Think on your feet", as the old saying puts it. NOT be constrained in their thinking, by the "consistency/organization" they've created, in their life. So, while I agree that having a consistent format, in/to their life, they ALSO need to experience BREAKING the rules! Consistency teaches moral values (among other things). But life is FULL of "judgement" calls. Where there ISN'T any clear cut choice. So a child ALSO needs a little "chaos" in their life, in order to prepare them for those UNSCRIPTED moments, in life. To get them USED to making those judgment calls. So that they won't be stuck, trying to figure out what to DO, when ACTION is required, RIGHT NOW! it's all about LEARNING HOW to make choices, and MAKING those choices! One problem I perceive, in a LOT of people, NOT just children! They DON'T KNOW HOW to make choices, for themselves! So they get dragged along by the weight/momentum of OTHERS! INSTEAD of choosing what BEST FITS THEIR circumstances! And THAT will OFTEN land them in trouble. Out of letters!