...Biological marvel par excellence, no? Transplant any large organ from a different host, and unless you poison the recipient life long with serious drugs, it gets rejected. Not the Placenta. The nine months changes women forever, many say, but can it also change committed, present, caring dads?
Vierkaesehoch: ...Biological marvel par excellence, no? Transplant any large organ from a different host, and unless you poison the recipient life long with serious drugs, it gets rejected. Not the Placenta. The nine months changes women forever, many say, but can it also change committed, present, caring dads?
I don't know. Men grow up through being a dad but even amongst the idiots you can often tell beforehand who will and who will not make a good dad, and in this time there is that spell of trying to be a better person which normally expires by aged 50 and people default on what they were before being a parent. I don't know about change per se, maturity is something you had all along and it is discovered under the stress of necessity and then forget about in due course.
Rachie14Stafford, Staffordshire, England UK2,330 posts
Vierkaesehoch: ...Biological marvel par excellence, no? Transplant any large organ from a different host, and unless you poison the recipient life long with serious drugs, it gets rejected. Not the Placenta. The nine months changes women forever, many say, but can it also change committed, present, caring dads?
Of course it changes people, well some recognise the responsibility of having another human being. There is a natural defence instinct that kick in to protect your child but also to enable them to grow within the world and understand their environment. Children are no longer children and innocent for long sadly, it would be wise to teach them them. But also allowing them to be children.
Is it a marvel, hmmm in that 9 months it varies for different men and women. Those 9 months were not a pleasant experience for me personally with hyperemesis gravidarum. But there are women that glow in pregancy and men that even get the cravings. Some guys are completely commited to their kids and they have my respect for that.
Vierkaesehoch: This is getting a little too detailed for us squeamish fellas. What did I start? I recall with revulsion our family days with the breast pumps!.
Nah no pumps for me and no breast feeding even though my chest was big enough breast feed all of Ethiopia.
There are people who become bad parents even if they seem to have a nice personality... Some mums are reading way too many "clever" books about parenting instead of following their natural instinct and listen to what the child is trying to say (even before it starts speaking)... It's not the nine months of pregnancy that changes you, it's the thought of what is after that...
And not because I am one but I believe older mums make better parents... They have more patience and tend to treat the kids with more understanding, listen more and respect more... They balance better their time and are not that obsessed with their work...
Vierkaesehoch: ...Biological marvel par excellence, no? Transplant any large organ from a different host, and unless you poison the recipient life long with serious drugs, it gets rejected. Not the Placenta. The nine months changes women forever, many say, but can it also change committed, present, caring dads?
My ex was jealous, of my eldest, seeing the amount of time I spent with the little one, breastfeeding for over 9 months. My sons r my life.....
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