GENTLEMEN ONLY...Would you have a problem with this? If so, why? (40)
I've never had that done to me, then again I've never really travelled abroad to meet a woman. Once to Paris and twice if Wales counts as abroad. But then again and again I've been talking to a number of people who do live abroad and never felt like I would be unwelcome in their home if they were willing to ask me to travel hundreds if not thousands of miles.
But then again I have a trustworthy face and I don't have an ulterior motive. A lot of the time people import a wife for a not nice reason, it doesn't scream of romance it screams of something to be got by it. One or even both sides using the other. Not necessarily, but yes there is the stench of desperation in the air.
Anyway, I still think you're both better staying at one of your friends. It doesn't just save money, you get a second opinion of the guy which you don't get from a hotel.
But then again I have a trustworthy face and I don't have an ulterior motive. A lot of the time people import a wife for a not nice reason, it doesn't scream of romance it screams of something to be got by it. One or even both sides using the other. Not necessarily, but yes there is the stench of desperation in the air.
Anyway, I still think you're both better staying at one of your friends. It doesn't just save money, you get a second opinion of the guy which you don't get from a hotel.
Well if you re cooking we have a saying that the easiest way to a man's heart is through his stomach 
But if we didn't click I would nt expect to be waited on
But if we didn't click I would nt expect to be waited on
ChesneyChrist: I've never had that done to me, then again I've never really travelled abroad to meet a woman. Once to Paris and twice if Wales counts as abroad. But then again and again I've been talking to a number of people who do live abroad and never felt like I would be unwelcome in their home if they were willing to ask me to travel hundreds if not thousands of miles.
But then again I have a trustworthy face and I don't have an ulterior motive. A lot of the time people import a wife for a not nice reason, it doesn't scream of romance it screams of something to be got by it. One or even both sides using the other. Not necessarily, but yes there is the stench of desperation in the air.
Anyway, I still think you're both better staying at one of your friends. It doesn't just save money, you get a second opinion of the guy which you don't get from a hotel.
CC, whilst I think that your idea of staying at one of my friend's on the first night is a great one, I don't have access to such 'good' and accommodating friends (But then again I have a trustworthy face and I don't have an ulterior motive. A lot of the time people import a wife for a not nice reason, it doesn't scream of romance it screams of something to be got by it. One or even both sides using the other. Not necessarily, but yes there is the stench of desperation in the air.
Anyway, I still think you're both better staying at one of your friends. It doesn't just save money, you get a second opinion of the guy which you don't get from a hotel.
). And those very few persons who I know wouldn't mind, don't have the space. 
Whataboutromance: Well if you re cooking we have a saying that the easiest way to a man's heart is through his stomach
But if we didn't click I would nt expect to be waited on
W, now that's reasonable. But if we didn't click I would nt expect to be waited on
Thanks for your opinion. 
Whataboutromance: Well if you re cooking we have a saying that the easiest way to a man's heart is through his stomach
But if we didn't click I would nt expect to be waited on
I agree with that too.But if we didn't click I would nt expect to be waited on
Mind you, she might cook for you once and give you some aphrodisiac food to get to you?
d4nI314: I agree with that too.
Mind you, she might cook for you once and give you some aphrodisiac food to get to you?
Mind you, she might cook for you once and give you some aphrodisiac food to get to you?
That's quite possible, Dan. 'He' might do the same too. 
Didi7: That's quite possible, Dan. 'He' might do the same too.
Why is he in inverted commas? I am a he lolSo we re both cooking aphrodisiacs
I may have a little problem with a person cooking foreign food in a foreign country for me, not all foods agree with me..
And i'd rather hire a car or motorbike to get around the place, hotel or BnB stay that's fine..
I would have other plans in the country as well not just to meet a date, do the traditional things of the country like Bull Fights in Spain..
And i'd rather hire a car or motorbike to get around the place, hotel or BnB stay that's fine..
I would have other plans in the country as well not just to meet a date, do the traditional things of the country like Bull Fights in Spain..
Didi7: Scenario:
You've connected with someone on a dating site from another country, and, after some time, agreed to meet the person. Whilst making arrangements, the question arose about where you should stay during your visit. Would you have a problem staying at a nearby Hotel/BnB?
You've already been offered airport pick-up (and drop-off, too), as well as to be taken on brief tours around the area/beach, etc, and he/she has even offered to cook for you (to minimize cost and ensure that you have a fun time, even if you don't 'click' as a couple).
So, would you have a problem with this arrangement? I'd appreciate your candid opinions. Thanks, in advance men. teddybear
Staying in your own hotel is the absolute best decision for meeting the first time. You've connected with someone on a dating site from another country, and, after some time, agreed to meet the person. Whilst making arrangements, the question arose about where you should stay during your visit. Would you have a problem staying at a nearby Hotel/BnB?
You've already been offered airport pick-up (and drop-off, too), as well as to be taken on brief tours around the area/beach, etc, and he/she has even offered to cook for you (to minimize cost and ensure that you have a fun time, even if you don't 'click' as a couple).
So, would you have a problem with this arrangement? I'd appreciate your candid opinions. Thanks, in advance men. teddybear
Butcher559: I may have a little problem with a person cooking foreign food in a foreign country for me, not all foods agree with me..
And i'd rather hire a car or motorbike to get around the place, hotel or BnB stay that's fine..
I would have other plans in the country as well not just to meet a date, do the traditional things of the country like Bull Fights in Spain..
Butch!!! And i'd rather hire a car or motorbike to get around the place, hotel or BnB stay that's fine..
I would have other plans in the country as well not just to meet a date, do the traditional things of the country like Bull Fights in Spain..
I was going to agree with your comment up till.......well, you know.
However, knowing you like I do, I know you didn't mean it.
Anyway, let's talk about Spain and the "exotic" food...
Vegetarian dishes are ok, aren't they?
Many B&B here too.
Also bikes to hire.
The only. Problem I see is. Is the profile pic you see is it the person. You. Wouldlike to see or was that pic taken in 1950.........
Didi7: Scenario:
You've connected with someone on a dating site from another country, and, after some time, agreed to meet the person. Whilst making arrangements, the question arose about where you should stay during your visit. Would you have a problem staying at a nearby Hotel/BnB?
You've already been offered airport pick-up (and drop-off, too), as well as to be taken on brief tours around the area/beach, etc, and he/she has even offered to cook for you (to minimize cost and ensure that you have a fun time, even if you don't 'click' as a couple).
So, would you have a problem with this arrangement? I'd appreciate your candid opinions. Thanks, in advance men. teddybear
Has never been a problem. Actually, having my own hotel room initially, however brief, has always been my preference in situations like this. This provides a cushion to adjust to cultural shocks as well as review plans B etc just in case things don’t click. I’m too old for all that sheet now but hope to travel again sooner than later.You've connected with someone on a dating site from another country, and, after some time, agreed to meet the person. Whilst making arrangements, the question arose about where you should stay during your visit. Would you have a problem staying at a nearby Hotel/BnB?
You've already been offered airport pick-up (and drop-off, too), as well as to be taken on brief tours around the area/beach, etc, and he/she has even offered to cook for you (to minimize cost and ensure that you have a fun time, even if you don't 'click' as a couple).
So, would you have a problem with this arrangement? I'd appreciate your candid opinions. Thanks, in advance men. teddybear
If the distance was far enough to require an overnight stop, I would expect to be invited to stop over.
Butcher559: I would have other plans in the country as well not just to meet a date, do the traditional things of the country like Bull Fights in Spain..
Good point B, that way your trip could have a bit my interest, esp if the relationship thing doesn't work out.rohaan: Staying in your own hotel is the absolute best decision for meeting the first time.
Thanks for your input, Rohaan.truheart1941: The only. Problem I see is. Is the profile pic you see is it the person. You. Wouldlike to see or was that pic taken in 1950.........
Well Tru, that may not be the ONLY problem for me, but I certainly share your concern.galrads: Has never been a problem. Actually, having my own hotel room initially, however brief, has always been my preference in situations like this. This provides a cushion to adjust to cultural shocks as well as review plans B etc just in case things don’t click. I’m too old for all that sheet now but hope to travel again sooner than later.
I agree with you Gal. Not only does it provide a "cushion", but if things don't work out, then at least you have someplace to stay (i.e. if the person puts you out).Thanks for your input.
Here is a different version I bet you never even considered.
A guy from blogs 10+ years ago went fast from europe to another blogger,
a female living down under. It happened faster than a blink of an eye.
Well, she let him into her house.
After a few days there, and yes bedtime stories and all.., guess what he went on to do?
Chatting up other girls at cs from her kitchen table... even if she was watching..
Planning a possible stop in asia bedfore returning home you see lol.
Suppose the date didn't go as planned or something
A guy from blogs 10+ years ago went fast from europe to another blogger,
a female living down under. It happened faster than a blink of an eye.
Well, she let him into her house.
After a few days there, and yes bedtime stories and all.., guess what he went on to do?
Chatting up other girls at cs from her kitchen table... even if she was watching..
Planning a possible stop in asia bedfore returning home you see lol.
Suppose the date didn't go as planned or something
Grandsiozzie: Here is a different version I bet you never even considered.
A guy from blogs 10+ years ago went fast from europe to another blogger,
a female living down under. It happened faster than a blink of an eye.
Well, she let him into her house.
After a few days there, and yes bedtime stories and all.., guess what he went on to do?
Chatting up other girls at cs from her kitchen table... even if she was watching..
Planning a possible stop in asia bedfore returning home you see lol.
Suppose the date didn't go as planned or something
And that's exactly one reason why she shouldn't have allowed him to stay at her home. That wasn't nice of him at all.A guy from blogs 10+ years ago went fast from europe to another blogger,
a female living down under. It happened faster than a blink of an eye.
Well, she let him into her house.
After a few days there, and yes bedtime stories and all.., guess what he went on to do?
Chatting up other girls at cs from her kitchen table... even if she was watching..
Planning a possible stop in asia bedfore returning home you see lol.
Suppose the date didn't go as planned or something
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You've connected with someone on a dating site from another country, and, after some time, agreed to meet the person. Whilst making arrangements, the question arose about where you should stay during your visit. Would you have a problem staying at a nearby Hotel/BnB?
You've already been offered airport pick-up (and drop-off, too), as well as to be taken on brief tours around the area/beach, etc, and he/she has even offered to cook for you (to minimize cost and ensure that you have a fun time, even if you don't 'click' as a couple).
So, would you have a problem with this arrangement? I'd appreciate your candid opinions. Thanks, in advance men. teddybear