HzChldSomewhere in the middle, Oklahoma USA2,779 posts
Yes....and I was married to him for 26 yrs., have 2 beautiful kids to show for it. Sooo all in all...it was worth the hell for the 2 children I have....BUT never again will I ignore that inner voice...
Yes in all of my previous relationships...Hence the reasons they are ex's...BUT had I listened early enough to my gut...I certainly wouldn't have been in them as long as I was...Nor would I ever have gotten married!!!!!!!!!
As I asked Classic, I wonder what your inner voice was telling you?
Inner voices can also tell you about yourself. Mine was whispering, "You know, maybe you're wrong in some of your attitudes." Later, it began to speak more loudly, though still politely: "Is it possible that you're behaving in a jerk-like fashion?" And finally, in a loud, cawing voice: "What an a**hole!"
That's when I had to, very reluctantly, start paying attention. I finally purchased a very expensive pair of earplugs.
Everyone, myself included, has said the same thing... "I'll never ignore my instincts again!", but yet we always do don't we. Doubts and indecisveness, at least to a small degree, are a part of any relationship. As much as we don't like it, God just isn't going to come down and hang a sign on someone that says "THIS IS THE ONE!". It's always going to be trial and error, there isn't any other way.
I have had doubts in every relationship I have been in and choose to ignore them. I have lived to regret not listening to those doubts. Especially in this relationship I am in.
I mean, no one would notice if you had plastic ones instead of those flashy liberace type that you insisted on buying.
Anyway, back to main topic question for me.... YES, I have often ignored my inner voice (my goddess within) But, I do think I have learned from my mistakes and take more notice now
I keep on ignoring them, one of my biggest flaws is to give everyone the benefit of the doubt. However when a red flag whams me over the head I try to take heed.
We all have moments when we are faced with reading those red flags or giving a new person a chance. So often, we try to see the best in people & end up overlooking warning signs. It's a delicate balance ... be dismayed or be open minded.
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That was the last time I ignored my doubts!