For those of us who are still in the "dating pool"...we have come to realize that the "perfect" person does not really exist....
But as well we have learned over time to "tolerate" certain behaviours that at one time we would not have accepted as a quality we want in our mate....(am i right here?)
What things do you find you will NOT compromise on? And what are some of the things you are willing to accept that at one time you would not have believed you would?
Used to be that I wanted someone who didn't smoke or drink at all. I'm still standing firm on the no smoking....but I'm willing to accept someone who drinks a little (as long as they aren't an alcoholic or get raging drunk all the time). And my definition of "a little" would be like a glass of wine with dinner, or "A" beer after work if it was a really hard day...or "A" beer if we go out to a club. Anything more than that gets to where I'll be driving, and if the pesonality starts to change and it becomes something that happens on a regular basis, then it would be a relationship that I rethink.
I've probably come to the conclusion that I may be less tolerant of "stuff" over time. When you've been single for a long time, there's not much you've haven't seen. When things becomes a repeat of the past, usually I bail out. Just the way it is...not ever sure that I care to change that aspect of myself. I figure if I've made it this far, I can make it the rest of the way on my own. ~
Thinks I will not compromise on are unwillingness to have an income,drinking alcohol to get drunk continuously,cheating,lying,being a crab all the time and not putting out.
I will overlook minor bad habits, such as leaving the toilet seat up, throwing his dirty laundry around, cussing, smoking and drinking, as long as he isn't alcoholic; I will not tolerate lies or any hanky panky behind my back
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But as well we have learned over time to "tolerate" certain behaviours that at one time we would not have accepted as a quality we want in our mate....(am i right here?)
What things do you find you will NOT compromise on? And what are some of the things you are willing to accept that at one time you would not have believed you would?