I'm a lot like you mf in that what you see is pretty much what you get, I easily share my thoughts and feelings, as most on CS can attest to I have lived on my own for so long that I wonder if I will be able to share my life with someone. I'm so used to making decisions without consulting anyone else. I like time spent on my own and have a difficult time imagining sharing a space with someone 24/7.
I like this thread Koni... My attitude about having a successful relationship is that it's easy to love the positive attributes in a person... look for the negative traits (yes we all have them) and decide if those are things you can live with, if they are... then I think you have a chance of making it work.
ClaayerWild Wild South West, Cornwall, England UK15,888 posts
jbibiza: Hi Ladies
I'm a lot like you mf in that what you see is pretty much what you get, I easily share my thoughts and feelings, as most on CS can attest to I have lived on my own for so long that I wonder if I will be able to share my life with someone. I'm so used to making decisions without consulting anyone else. I like time spent on my own and have a difficult time imagining sharing a space with someone 24/7.
I like this thread Koni... My attitude about having a successful relationship is that it's easy to love the positive attributes in a person... look for the negative traits (yes we all have them) and decide if those are things you can live with, if they are... then I think you have a chance of making it work.
haha I often wonder about that.. I'm fiercely independent.. and if I had a bright idea.. and someone said no.. I would think WHAT? HUH? Waddya MEAN NO?
I totally agree about the positive negative things.. it's definitely whether you can handle the negative stuff.
"that it has been so long i wouldnt know how to share my life" Elena
Thats exactly how I feel too - I have done my own thing for so long. I know I would have to take ages about moving into just the relationship stage.
I heard a few yrs ago that living apart is the new living together and I would definately have to do that for a while - no way ever again will I go rushing headlong into anything - but we never really know till we try and theres the problem......
Theres not even chance for missed opportunities during the long cold winter months but its almost spring and time for getting out doing other things again and shrugging off the 'dark side' with the help of thoughts of the sun on our faces - oh roll on summer!!!!
Claayer: I think my dark sides would be my stubbornness (STUB-ORN) .. and my ability to cut my nose off to spite my face .. and my ruthless cut off switch.
great role modeling claaaayer
you guys are stealing my answers!!!
yes its odd to imagine how to include someone and 24/7 would never work-not even on a vacation
i had the wonderful opportunity in december to at least see what it felt to have someone in my space it was strange but okay no physical contact-that would have made a mess tho im sure
what you are saying jb i think is some really good advice i received and try to remember as i have had history of falling for and afterwards mourning not the real guy but my idea of his potential? and ours? does that make sense?-like all my projection/hope...
that is immature-but i lived that way til i didnt anymore...
i was told if you can accept him as he is right now- if he were never to change one bit from today can you accept him?
that gives pause and i find it helpful as thats about me taking responsibility- not expecting from him...
and i dont regret learning this stuff later it gives value to my mistakes gives me options w/ experience behind and besides if i knew this at 25 there woulda been no 25 yr old man i would have wanted to stay that way forever-
I am sure my dark sides show in my post. The problem is, when I am feeling these things...I don't shut up, I continue to say what I feel.....and always will. I am too old to really care what people think of me, so I can always caim senility for my rants.
Now what am I hiding from a potential partner??? I can't very well tell it here and continue to hide it, now can I?
Claayer: I think my dark sides would be my stubbornness (STUB-ORN) .. and my ability to cut my nose off to spite my face .. and my ruthless cut off switch.
Cut you nose off? You mean like Michael Jackson? Man,. That would be really dark.
I think my dark side shows in my art. Sometimes it can be somewhat frightening and distorted. Yet, other times it can be “wow”.
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