Why are CS relationships of a very short time? (156)
Zellarrone1: I hope someone sends me a flower with the thread name from 3 months ago proclaiming undying love as the flower message. I've been looking in the archives from 3 months ago for the last three hours and still not found it! What a waste of my time I did have an whilst I was wandering round the archives though... maybe we could have a "temporary lurrve section" in the forums as well as a "possible permanently section"
Good idea!
I agree with you Cristina too, it really is, as others have said, often the 'kiss of death' to proclaim undying love for somebody on CS. It must be so embarrassing too when it all goes pear shaped, well it would be for me.
I am at a loss though with all these like-minded comments today. I think I was the only one who posted in a recent 'love forever' celebration thread anything of a, well lets say surprised comment, about the fact that the couple hadn't even met in person. I did offer my congratulations though to be polite.
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Jan1305: Good idea!
I agree with you Cristina too, it really is, as others have said, often the 'kiss of death' to proclaim undying love for somebody on CS. It must be so embarrassing too when it all goes pear shaped, well it would be for me.
I am at a loss though with all these like-minded comments today. I think I was the only one who posted in a recent 'love forever' celebration thread anything of a, well lets say surprised comment, about the fact that the couple hadn't even met in person. I did offer my congratulations though to be polite.
By members being contradictory.
I agree with you Cristina too, it really is, as others have said, often the 'kiss of death' to proclaim undying love for somebody on CS. It must be so embarrassing too when it all goes pear shaped, well it would be for me.
I am at a loss though with all these like-minded comments today. I think I was the only one who posted in a recent 'love forever' celebration thread anything of a, well lets say surprised comment, about the fact that the couple hadn't even met in person. I did offer my congratulations though to be polite.
By members being contradictory.
That was Gypsy hon, i love her with all my heart. This thread was not started with her in mind. She seems wiser that many people around...i do trust she knows what she is doing notwithstanding this thread.
But in general, CS is full of short love stories from people who proclaimed love forever. "Forever"...the hollywood standards indeed penetrated decent houses!
Hey Jan
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cristina: That was Gypsy hon, i love her with all my heart. This thread was not started with her in mind. She seems wiser that many people around...i do trust she knows what she is doing notwithstanding this thread.
But in general, CS is full of short love stories from people who proclaimed love forever. "Forever"...the hollywood standards indeed penetrated decent houses!
Hey Jan
But in general, CS is full of short love stories from people who proclaimed love forever. "Forever"...the hollywood standards indeed penetrated decent houses!
Hey Jan
Yep, that gypsygirl is something.
Hey, I want another forever few months.
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Whew- It would seem that it's natural or at least common to get the hots for someone you never met on here. I was trying to figure out how to ask that one. Felt like a bit of a freak, but I guess I'm not the only one. What a relief. I think I'll have a 
and relax
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bob1959: Whew- It would seem that it's natural or at least common to get the hots for someone you never met on here. I was trying to figure out how to ask that one. Felt like a bit of a freak, but I guess I'm not the only one. What a relief. I think I'll have a and relax
You relax!I think what many of us are saying is that it's ok to 'get the hots' for somebody but don't declare undying love publicly until IMO you've met
and the relationship has been going for a while.Saves all that embarrassing about turn when things go wrong, and we don't have to suffer the aftermath of arguing exes in the forum threads.
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You are all of you failing to see the most obvious reason to this.
Blind as bats.
Good evening
Blind as bats.
Good evening
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EnSilencio: You are all of you failing to see the most obvious reason to this.
Blind as bats.
Good evening
Blind as bats.
Good evening
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EnSilencio: You are all of you failing to see the most obvious reason to this.
Blind as bats.
Good evening
Blind as bats.
Good evening
i was going to bed...but now i'm curious...will you mail me with the reason?
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After a while people get so used to hunting, that it's hard to stop....for fear something better may be out there.
Sadly, it's probably not.
Sadly, it's probably not.
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We would not want to keep you here longer than necessary, would we?
How many friends do we have that call us in the evening saying they met this MATCH and they hope to meet again soon? And they have such a CRUSH and who knows where it will lead.
A week later we hear that it came to nothing. Big deal.
But HOW MANY? Maybe two, three in a year?
This is the big city phenomena applied on the dating scene. We see, hear and virtually know a lot more people on here talking about those things in a month than we would in a lifetime in RL. Of course it then would seem all dates are a disaster or later ends in one.
They do in RL too, and the time they stay together in RL is a lot shorter then the three-four months they keep in mailing here before they meet.
No, it is not a failure; just a lot more visible to us all here. Go figure…
for the sake of
How many friends do we have that call us in the evening saying they met this MATCH and they hope to meet again soon? And they have such a CRUSH and who knows where it will lead.
A week later we hear that it came to nothing. Big deal.
But HOW MANY? Maybe two, three in a year?
This is the big city phenomena applied on the dating scene. We see, hear and virtually know a lot more people on here talking about those things in a month than we would in a lifetime in RL. Of course it then would seem all dates are a disaster or later ends in one.
They do in RL too, and the time they stay together in RL is a lot shorter then the three-four months they keep in mailing here before they meet.
No, it is not a failure; just a lot more visible to us all here. Go figure…
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Jan1305: Good idea!
I agree with you Cristina too, it really is, as others have said, often the 'kiss of death' to proclaim undying love for somebody on CS. It must be so embarrassing too when it all goes pear shaped, well it would be for me.
I am at a loss though with all these like-minded comments today. I think I was the only one who posted in a recent 'love forever' celebration thread anything of a, well lets say surprised comment, about the fact that the couple hadn't even met in person. I did offer my congratulations though to be polite.
By members being contradictory.
I agree with you Cristina too, it really is, as others have said, often the 'kiss of death' to proclaim undying love for somebody on CS. It must be so embarrassing too when it all goes pear shaped, well it would be for me.
I am at a loss though with all these like-minded comments today. I think I was the only one who posted in a recent 'love forever' celebration thread anything of a, well lets say surprised comment, about the fact that the couple hadn't even met in person. I did offer my congratulations though to be polite.
By members being contradictory.
So that's been my problem? I've been wondering why every time I shouted to the CS heavens that I was in love with someone that the relationship died approximately 15 minutes to 2 days later.
Now that I've finally grasped my mistake, it should be clear sailing for Ambrose's Love Boat! Mum's definitely the word from now on! Thanks, Cristina and Jan!!
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EnSilencio: We would not want to keep you here longer than necessary, would we?
How many friends do we have that call us in the evening saying they met this MATCH and they hope to meet again soon? And they have such a CRUSH and who knows where it will lead.
A week later we hear that it came to nothing. Big deal.
But HOW MANY? Maybe two, three in a year?
This is the big city phenomena applied on the dating scene. We see, hear and virtually know a lot more people on here talking about those things in a month than we would in a lifetime in RL. Of course it then would seem all dates are a disaster or later ends in one.
They do in RL too, and the time they stay together in RL is a lot shorter then the three-four months they keep in mailing here before they meet.
No, it is not a failure; just a lot more visible to us all here. Go figure… for the sake of
How many friends do we have that call us in the evening saying they met this MATCH and they hope to meet again soon? And they have such a CRUSH and who knows where it will lead.
A week later we hear that it came to nothing. Big deal.
But HOW MANY? Maybe two, three in a year?
This is the big city phenomena applied on the dating scene. We see, hear and virtually know a lot more people on here talking about those things in a month than we would in a lifetime in RL. Of course it then would seem all dates are a disaster or later ends in one.
They do in RL too, and the time they stay together in RL is a lot shorter then the three-four months they keep in mailing here before they meet.
No, it is not a failure; just a lot more visible to us all here. Go figure… for the sake of
In "real life a lot shorter"?
Well, the standpoint is completely different to what i'm used to, so can't refute
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No! But yes, in RL people do have crushes which wither away in days.
The RL scenario may not last so long because the couple concerned have the luxury of actually seeing and being with the other. The only reason virtual 'relationships' appear to last longer is because that's what they are, virtual. without the possible flaws being visible until they meet. Meetings often take months due to distance or other constraints unlike RL when the couple are physically together from day one.
I don't actually think we read as many celebratory threads as you suggest either. From my experience here, over 2 years, probably 99% of them end up in tears because they are based on very little other than months of flirting, emailing and a couple of ultimate meetings.
The RL scenario may not last so long because the couple concerned have the luxury of actually seeing and being with the other. The only reason virtual 'relationships' appear to last longer is because that's what they are, virtual. without the possible flaws being visible until they meet. Meetings often take months due to distance or other constraints unlike RL when the couple are physically together from day one.
I don't actually think we read as many celebratory threads as you suggest either. From my experience here, over 2 years, probably 99% of them end up in tears because they are based on very little other than months of flirting, emailing and a couple of ultimate meetings.
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After a while people get so used to hunting, that it's hard to stop....for fear something better may be out there.Sadly, it's probably not.[/quote
You suit the "better". If you try many is because you can't handle "better"! Better will always be there...
Why don't you reorganise right what best suits you so to save pain? If you say you've learned, this time is different, you are even trying this alternative way of finding your match, why don't you stick to what you thought you should become?
Here it's certainly easier to know what you don't want than in real life.
Sorry to quote you Indy, this is not all for you
You suit the "better". If you try many is because you can't handle "better"! Better will always be there...
Why don't you reorganise right what best suits you so to save pain? If you say you've learned, this time is different, you are even trying this alternative way of finding your match, why don't you stick to what you thought you should become?
Here it's certainly easier to know what you don't want than in real life.
Sorry to quote you Indy, this is not all for you
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cristina: After a while people get so used to hunting, that it's hard to stop....for fear something better may be out there.Sadly, it's probably not.[/quote
You suit the "better". If you try many is because you can't handle "better"! Better will always be there...
Why don't you reorganise right what best suits you so to save pain? If you say you've learned, this time is different, you are even trying this alternative way of finding your match, why don't you stick to what you thought you should become?
Here it's certainly easier to know what you don't want than in real life.
Sorry to quote you Indy, this is not all for you
You suit the "better". If you try many is because you can't handle "better"! Better will always be there...
Why don't you reorganise right what best suits you so to save pain? If you say you've learned, this time is different, you are even trying this alternative way of finding your match, why don't you stick to what you thought you should become?
Here it's certainly easier to know what you don't want than in real life.
Sorry to quote you Indy, this is not all for you
I was just stating my theory...not necessarily how I see myself. But, good comments :)
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Ambrose2007: So that's been my problem? I've been wondering why every time I shouted to the CS heavens that I was in love with someone that the relationship died approximately 15 minutes to 2 days later.
Now that I've finally grasped my mistake, it should be clear sailing for Ambrose's Love Boat! Mum's definitely the word from now on! Thanks, Cristina and Jan!!
Now that I've finally grasped my mistake, it should be clear sailing for Ambrose's Love Boat! Mum's definitely the word from now on! Thanks, Cristina and Jan!!
Hey gentleman
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Maybe it is an ego thing.
Maybe they want others to be happy for them because they do not know happiness comes from within..
Maybe they others to be envious of them..[/q
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Ditto and can't beleive this made 5 pages.To each his own.
Maybe they want others to be happy for them because they do not know happiness comes from within..
Maybe they others to be envious of them..[/q
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Ditto and can't beleive this made 5 pages.To each his own.
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Indyfella: I was just stating my theory...not necessarily how I see myself. But, good comments :)
thanks man
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didn't read all the posts, just want to say I could never allow myself to fall in love with words written on a page would most definitely have to meet the person before I would have any clue as to any possibility of a happy and healthy relationship jmo...
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