Dating vs getting to know someone first? (76)
I see the IRL dating scene as difficult for exactly that reason- you don;t usually know anything about them except that you are attracted to how they look. I think that here, you get the chance to get to know a little about them before going on a date, so there aren't any/so many surprises, that may make you realise that they really aren't suitable for you.
you may have to be in contact with say 10 people here before you think there is one that you really want to have a date with- if that was RL- either you had 10 ok evenings- or 10 disastrous evenings, or a mixture of both, but you are no further forward in finding someone you connect with.
I see the online bit as a kind of 'sorting area'!! you can have many here that you enjoy chatting with and may become friends with, but by seeing how they interact with others here, get a small clue to how they really are. JMO
you may have to be in contact with say 10 people here before you think there is one that you really want to have a date with- if that was RL- either you had 10 ok evenings- or 10 disastrous evenings, or a mixture of both, but you are no further forward in finding someone you connect with.
I see the online bit as a kind of 'sorting area'!! you can have many here that you enjoy chatting with and may become friends with, but by seeing how they interact with others here, get a small clue to how they really are. JMO
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2008mm: When I meet someone in public and I asked her out on a date, I don't know anything about her. First, I asked her if she's in a relationship with someone. If not she can said yes or no to my offer to take her out on a date.
Why do women or men on a dating site, want to know all your personal business "first" by a dozen or so emails and phone calls, "before", they would go out on just a "date".
I know you must think personal safety first, but honestly, I not asking her to marry me, I just want go on a date with her.
I would like her to see what kind of fun guy I'm in real life on a date.
What's your opinion?
Why do women or men on a dating site, want to know all your personal business "first" by a dozen or so emails and phone calls, "before", they would go out on just a "date".
I know you must think personal safety first, but honestly, I not asking her to marry me, I just want go on a date with her.
I would like her to see what kind of fun guy I'm in real life on a date.
What's your opinion?
I kind of agree with you. I guess it depends what you're looking for. Seems like most everyone here is look for a long term relationship or marriage. What happened to just dating/companionship? Don't really know. Much as you can get to know someone by emailing, still takes face to face to see if you even enjoy each others company. My opinion, anyway.------ This thread is Archived ------
I'm not comfortable around people I don't know. Going on a date with someone I know nothing about is not appealing to me. It would be awkward and I know whoever I was with would be seeing me at my worst, instead of at my best. Going out and having fun with a friend, on the other hand, sounds much better to me. So if I can get to know someone online first and make friends with them, then I can look forward to date with them instead of dreading it.
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jampet: I see the IRL dating scene as difficult for exactly that reason- you don;t usually know anything about them except that you are attracted to how they look. I think that here, you get the chance to get to know a little about them before going on a date, so there aren't any/so many surprises, that may make you realise that they really aren't suitable for you.
you may have to be in contact with say 10 people here before you think there is one that you really want to have a date with- if that was RL- either you had 10 ok evenings- or 10 disastrous evenings, or a mixture of both, but you are no further forward in finding someone you connect with.
I see the online bit as a kind of 'sorting area'!! you can have many here that you enjoy chatting with and may become friends with, but by seeing how they interact with others here, get a small clue to how they really are. JMO
you may have to be in contact with say 10 people here before you think there is one that you really want to have a date with- if that was RL- either you had 10 ok evenings- or 10 disastrous evenings, or a mixture of both, but you are no further forward in finding someone you connect with.
I see the online bit as a kind of 'sorting area'!! you can have many here that you enjoy chatting with and may become friends with, but by seeing how they interact with others here, get a small clue to how they really are. JMO
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Guy's let's go back to when there was no Internet, mobile phones etc etc and no CS.............. what would you do then..... you would go out with your friends.... if someone catches your eye you would speak to him or her.... if it works, it works.... job done..
CS is simply a site to vet people.... he or she may seem nice... but you are given the opportunity to possibly discriminate a potential suitor
JMO
CS is simply a site to vet people.... he or she may seem nice... but you are given the opportunity to possibly discriminate a potential suitor
JMO
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stooie1971: Guy's let's go back to when there was no Internet, mobile phones etc etc and no CS.............. what would you do then..... you would go out with your friends.... if someone catches your eye you would speak to him or her.... if it works, it works.... job done..
CS is simply a site to vet people.... he or she may seem nice... but you are given the opportunity to possibly discriminate a potential suitor
JMO
CS is simply a site to vet people.... he or she may seem nice... but you are given the opportunity to possibly discriminate a potential suitor
JMO
I agree to a point. But you just said it yourself - "possible suitor". What about just going out and having an enjoyable evening? It's always been my opinion that a "long term" relationship is something that just sort of happens when two people click. Just because you or she are not "marriage" material does not preclude the idea that you could be having a nice evening out. See what I mean?
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2008mm: When I meet someone in public and I asked her out on a date, I don't know anything about her. First, I asked her if she's in a relationship with someone. If not she can said yes or no to my offer to take her out on a date.
Why do women or men on a dating site, want to know all your personal business "first" by a dozen or so emails and phone calls, "before", they would go out on just a "date".
I know you must think personal safety first, but honestly, I not asking her to marry me, I just want go on a date with her.
I would like her to see what kind of fun guy I'm in real life on a date.
What's your opinion?
Why do women or men on a dating site, want to know all your personal business "first" by a dozen or so emails and phone calls, "before", they would go out on just a "date".
I know you must think personal safety first, but honestly, I not asking her to marry me, I just want go on a date with her.
I would like her to see what kind of fun guy I'm in real life on a date.
What's your opinion?
This is from my prospective on this whole dating/or not to date thing. What should I do if I met a guy for the first time and haven't really communicated either through the forums nor emails on this site and if I don't question him about certain things but I agree to meet him in person anyway and he turns out to be a complete jerk.
Wouldn't I'd been smarter to spend sometime observing him in the forums first on how he interacts with other people and spend some time corresponding with him afew times by phone or mails first.Or just leap into the dating scene?
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2008mm: When I meet someone in public and I asked her out on a date, I don't know anything about her. First, I asked her if she's in a relationship with someone. If not she can said yes or no to my offer to take her out on a date.
Why do women or men on a dating site, want to know all your personal business "first" by a dozen or so emails and phone calls, "before", they would go out on just a "date".
I know you must think personal safety first, but honestly, I not asking her to marry me, I just want go on a date with her.
I would like her to see what kind of fun guy I'm in real life on a date.
What's your opinion?
Why do women or men on a dating site, want to know all your personal business "first" by a dozen or so emails and phone calls, "before", they would go out on just a "date".
I know you must think personal safety first, but honestly, I not asking her to marry me, I just want go on a date with her.
I would like her to see what kind of fun guy I'm in real life on a date.
What's your opinion?
Because it would be a very short conversation online to just ask.. are you single.. want to go for a date?!
Chatting is what people do online
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somechick: This is from my prospective on this whole dating/or not to date thing. What should I do if I met a guy for the first time and haven't really communicated either through the forums nor emails on this site and if I don't question him about certain things but I agree to meet him in person anyway and he turns out to be a complete jerk.Wouldn't I'd been smarter to spend sometime observing him in the forums first on how he interacts with other people and spend some time corresponding with him afew times by phone or mails first.Or just leap into the dating scene?
BTW.. are you single, want to go on a date??
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2008mm: When I meet someone in public and I asked her out on a date, I don't know anything about her. First, I asked her if she's in a relationship with someone. If not she can said yes or no to my offer to take her out on a date.
Why do women or men on a dating site, want to know all your personal business "first" by a dozen or so emails and phone calls, "before", they would go out on just a "date".
I know you must think personal safety first, but honestly, I not asking her to marry me, I just want go on a date with her.
I would like her to see what kind of fun guy I'm in real life on a date.
What's your opinion?
Why do women or men on a dating site, want to know all your personal business "first" by a dozen or so emails and phone calls, "before", they would go out on just a "date".
I know you must think personal safety first, but honestly, I not asking her to marry me, I just want go on a date with her.
I would like her to see what kind of fun guy I'm in real life on a date.
What's your opinion?
Many women (and men) are on a dating site because they are to full of fear to get out into the real world and risk meeting another..
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rasgumby: BTW.. are you single, want to go on a date??
Ras you're to funny.
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I would hate to meet someone on here named "Charlene", and meet them somewhere without knowing anything about them and it turned out I met "Charlie" instead...
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jampet: I see the IRL dating scene as difficult for exactly that reason- you don;t usually know anything about them except that you are attracted to how they look. I think that here, you get the chance to get to know a little about them before going on a date, so there aren't any/so many surprises, that may make you realise that they really aren't suitable for you.
you may have to be in contact with say 10 people here before you think there is one that you really want to have a date with- if that was RL- either you had 10 ok evenings- or 10 disastrous evenings, or a mixture of both, but you are no further forward in finding someone you connect with.
I see the online bit as a kind of 'sorting area'!! you can have many here that you enjoy chatting with and may become friends with, but by seeing how they interact with others here, get a small clue to how they really are. JMO
you may have to be in contact with say 10 people here before you think there is one that you really want to have a date with- if that was RL- either you had 10 ok evenings- or 10 disastrous evenings, or a mixture of both, but you are no further forward in finding someone you connect with.
I see the online bit as a kind of 'sorting area'!! you can have many here that you enjoy chatting with and may become friends with, but by seeing how they interact with others here, get a small clue to how they really are. JMO
I WISH I in the Ireland dating scene
I dig Irish chicks...
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somechick: It could work in regards to a man too.
He could be a real B$$ard on the site and a real sweet guy in person.
He could be a real B$$ard on the site and a real sweet guy in person.
ANyone we know??
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HJFinAZ: ANyone we know??
Pat Mums the word.
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somechick: Pat Mums the word.
Me lips are sealed..------ This thread is Archived ------
HJFinAZ: Me lips are sealed..
Your lips are sealed, yeah right. ------ This thread is Archived ------
somechick: It could work in regards to a man too.
He could be a real B$$ard on the site and a real sweet guy in person.
He could be a real B$$ard on the site and a real sweet guy in person.
YES!!!!!!!!
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somechick: Your lips are sealed, yeah right.
I know nooothing!!!!!!!!!!!
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Why do women or men on a dating site, want to know all your personal business "first" by a dozen or so emails and phone calls, "before", they would go out on just a "date".
I know you must think personal safety first, but honestly, I not asking her to marry me, I just want go on a date with her.
I would like her to see what kind of fun guy I'm in real life on a date.
What's your opinion?