Dating vs getting to know someone first? (76)
Charli15695: OH really??? gee thanks!
You are missing an "e"...you need to buy a vowel...
I am sorry if I offended you...
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somechick: Oh ok don't change.
WHEW!!!!!!!!!! Had me scared for a while there..
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I try to date real life and on these sites, to broaden the available possibilities. I think it’s harder on line because when you meet in person, the expectations are usually quite high;
1. you appearance, does not always mirror a photo
2. people tend to lie or at least embellish the truth
3. mannerisms show up in real life that are overlooked on line
what you see is not always what you get
1. you appearance, does not always mirror a photo
2. people tend to lie or at least embellish the truth
3. mannerisms show up in real life that are overlooked on line
what you see is not always what you get
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2008mm: When I meet someone in public and I asked her out on a date, I don't know anything about her. First, I asked her if she's in a relationship with someone. If not she can said yes or no to my offer to take her out on a date.
Why do women or men on a dating site, want to know all your personal business "first" by a dozen or so emails and phone calls, "before", they would go out on just a "date".
I know you must think personal safety first, but honestly, I not asking her to marry me, I just want go on a date with her.
I would like her to see what kind of fun guy I'm in real life on a date.
What's your opinion?
Why do women or men on a dating site, want to know all your personal business "first" by a dozen or so emails and phone calls, "before", they would go out on just a "date".
I know you must think personal safety first, but honestly, I not asking her to marry me, I just want go on a date with her.
I would like her to see what kind of fun guy I'm in real life on a date.
What's your opinion?
I really don't care. I was always an open book, but if I wanted to date somebody I'd lose interest if they wanted to know EVERYTHING about me first!
I mean - life is too short to spend months and years going over every detail of your sordid past, isn't it! 
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I think "dating" is getting to know someone...by going out on "dates" from "dates" you can become a "relationship".
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MysticalUnicorn: I think "dating" is getting to know someone...by going out on "dates" from "dates" you can become a "relationship".
I like what you said MysticalUnicorn. My problem with online dating is you're giving too much personal information prior to meeting that person.
I like to see and hear, even more so "touch" (handshake) with that person. You can't get all that from online dating.
Soon you might have to fax a copy of your current police record, medical and mental evaluation and maybe even your last W-2's, prior to going on a date.
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2008mm: I like what you said MysticalUnicorn. My problem with online dating is you're giving too much personal information prior to meeting that person.
I like to see and hear, even more so "touch" (handshake) with that person. You can't get all that from online dating.
Soon you might have to fax a copy of your current police record, medical and mental evaluation and maybe even your last W-2's, prior to going on a date.
I like to see and hear, even more so "touch" (handshake) with that person. You can't get all that from online dating.
Soon you might have to fax a copy of your current police record, medical and mental evaluation and maybe even your last W-2's, prior to going on a date.
A friend of mine's ex-wife really did a background on him as soon as they met.
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somechick: A friend of mine's ex-wife really did a background on him as soon as they met.
I guess that background check from your friend ex-wife, didn't seem to help their marriage.
Maybe your friend should have done a background check on her, it would have been a whole lot cheaper! Before saying "I DO".
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It's a mixed bag. Like a lot of things in life there are pros and cons to it. Online men and women both need to be careful about who they chat with. If you get to know each other online then you will have less worry about meeting up with a serial killer or something, but the cons are that online it's a bit harder to convey your personality through it. Sometimes I'll say something or have something said to me that causes and offended reaction, but that's simply because the tone couldn't be heard and it was thought the joke was serious. You just have to accept that dating is usually going to be work, but when you find that person it'll be worth it.
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2008mm: I guess that background check from your friend ex-wife, didn't seem to help their marriage.
Maybe your friend should have done a background check on her, it would have been a whole lot cheaper! Before saying "I DO".
Maybe your friend should have done a background check on her, it would have been a whole lot cheaper! Before saying "I DO".
My friends brother told him that they should've got divorced before they said I DO.
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I think in real life I also wouldn't jump into a date just from the very first second.
Let's say I would see and meet her - accidently - in a queue and have small talk. I might see her again or not. Let's say I'd see her again on work or anywhere else: I try to gain information - how she acts in whatever she does. I bet she would do the same. When I am attracted by her I will ask her for a date, then.
So, all we do in online dating is to gain information to possibly not getting disappointed. It's the same as in real life, isn't it?
Let's say I would see and meet her - accidently - in a queue and have small talk. I might see her again or not. Let's say I'd see her again on work or anywhere else: I try to gain information - how she acts in whatever she does. I bet she would do the same. When I am attracted by her I will ask her for a date, then.
So, all we do in online dating is to gain information to possibly not getting disappointed. It's the same as in real life, isn't it?
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I think in this day and age, a woman or man can't be too careful. It was easier before the internet to meet people in public first and scope them out thru friends or family. Lot of the guys I dated in my teens and twenties were prople from school or church that I knew of before we talked. Here you have to ask lots of questions and then if comfortable exchange numbers before you go out to see if they are safe or even hold a decent conversation. I have met some really nice guys on line and have dated a couple and they have turned out to be sweet and wonderful people that I will remain friends with. If it turns into romance..OK. But I have spent time talkin on line and exchanged phone numbers with them and we have gotten to know wach other that way.
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texson1964: I try to date real life and on these sites, to broaden the available possibilities. I think it’s harder on line because when you meet in person, the expectations are usually quite high;
1. you appearance, does not always mirror a photo
2. people tend to lie or at least embellish the truth
3. mannerisms show up in real life that are overlooked on line
what you see is not always what you get
1. you appearance, does not always mirror a photo
2. people tend to lie or at least embellish the truth
3. mannerisms show up in real life that are overlooked on line
what you see is not always what you get
I agree with this, and will add that you can't tell physical chemistry from meeting online. Only when you get to meet in person can you tell if that's there.
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Adam2: I think in real life I also wouldn't jump into a date just from the very first second.
Let's say I would see and meet her - accidently - in a queue and have small talk. I might see her again or not. Let's say I'd see her again on work or anywhere else: I try to gain information - how she acts in whatever she does. I bet she would do the same. When I am attracted by her I will ask her for a date, then.
So, all we do in online dating is to gain information to possibly not getting disappointed. It's the same as in real life, isn't it?
Let's say I would see and meet her - accidently - in a queue and have small talk. I might see her again or not. Let's say I'd see her again on work or anywhere else: I try to gain information - how she acts in whatever she does. I bet she would do the same. When I am attracted by her I will ask her for a date, then.
So, all we do in online dating is to gain information to possibly not getting disappointed. It's the same as in real life, isn't it?
Yes. I don't jump right into going on a date with someone I meet somewhere...I get to know them a little bit first.
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HJFinAZ: Many women (and men) are on a dating site because they are to full of fear to get out into the real world and risk meeting another..
I know you said "many" .... but the truth is that I just don't meet single men around here in town. Not the ones I'm interested in that is. Beside my job and children I don't have much time to just go out into the real world and spend time by myself.....
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Before the internet how would you meet someone?
CS is a means of allowing males and females to sort the wheat from the chaff!!!!!!
CS is a means of allowing males and females to sort the wheat from the chaff!!!!!!
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question 4 all of u who have done this...after u have talked and gotten to know someone without being able to place them physically for a long time how do you keep from staring each other down when you meet seems kinda weird to me sumbody help i'm scared
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Oh ok don't change.