Life is either hell or heaven for me, and, astoundingly, I discovered that I, decide moment to moment what my experience will be...

For instance, the point was driven dramatically home to me, when, years ago, a defence attorney who was extremely hostile to me in court, finally lost his battle to get his client off the hook,
We wearily trudged towards the exit-door, and I happened to be just behind him,
He paused, turned around to face me, and very graciously held the door open for me to exit first,
Astounding and decent as that act was, it was nothing compared to what I saw in his very alive, very aware and very educated eyes,
His message, albeit unspoken, was this:-
‘The battle is now over fellow-brother, I did my best to defend my client, so, it was necessary for me to attack you and vilify you and attempt to discredit your testimony, but, its over now, the jury has spoken, my heavy task is done, I want you to know that I bear you no grudge, and ask your forgiveness for the vicious manner in which I assaulted you...’
Wow! Unless you’ve had a similar experience, you cannot imagine the feeling that welled up inside me,
My tight chest immediately opened up, way-up, and all the pent-up negative energy just evaporated,
And my hell was instantly inverted and I entered my sweet heaven,
I looked into his eyes, and my unspoken message to him, was:-
‘I fully understand now that you did what you had to do, absolutely no hard feelings, indeed, instead I send you all the love I can muster! Thank you dear fellow-brother, that through your grace, you showed me the door to heaven...’
Since that day many years ago, I’m still growing in applying that lesson,
Every day, every moment, I remind myself to enter thru the doorway to heaven, and to give hell a miss...,
This is greatly facilitated, by my making conscious eye-contact with my fellows, and, most importantly by directing my being to speak with its ‘heart’ and not with its ‘head’...,
Thus, head-to-head, I enter hell,
But, heart-to-heart, I enter heaven...