What do you do when you find your dinner date is actually already married? (80)
Leave 
She does deserve to go on a date, provided she has explained to the man,BEFORE the dinner date,she is separated and still legally married.JMO 
lifeisadream: We are supposed to learn while we see each new day.
I used to think like you but one case made me consider differently.
An acquaintance of mine was going trough divorce and her son was very depressed to the point that she had to look for professional help because the teenager boy had several red flags for suicide. To make the story short, she is separated, legally she is married.
Does it mean that she does not deserve to have a date, to have an opportunity to meet someone?.
I used to think like you but one case made me consider differently.
An acquaintance of mine was going trough divorce and her son was very depressed to the point that she had to look for professional help because the teenager boy had several red flags for suicide. To make the story short, she is separated, legally she is married.
Does it mean that she does not deserve to have a date, to have an opportunity to meet someone?.
The same answer as if she turned up and announced that she if several weeks pregnant and do I know of a clinic that would terminate it...excused myself saying that I 'm going to the washroom, then out the door to a cab and away. Never contacted her again.
solitare: The same answer as if she turned up and announced that she WAS several weeks pregnant and do I know of a clinic that would terminate it...excused myself saying that I 'm going to the washroom, then out the door to a cab and away. Never contacted her again.
A lie of omission is the same as a deliberately spoken lie.
CHECK PLEASE...
Kampina: Enjoy the dinner, After all he's paying............
my thought too...then later blab to the wife if you must but why ruin a good wine and steak????
I actually wouldn't do any of the above. I would enjoy the dinner and the conversation, inform him that I have no desire to date a married man and thank him for letting me know before I got emotionally involved. It doesn't matter what the status of the marriage is, if he is still "contracted" he is off limits. I wouldn't pass judgement, for whatever reason he's out there that's between him and her.
I voted "say you have just escaped from prison" but was just joking This has happened to me 2 times both times I talked about it with them, I aint just gonna leave without speaking my mind about this (not having any interest in him anymore though) I do not date married men, I will never do ... but it gets me pissed off a man has the nerve to ask out a single woman and he is married, shame on them
that is a plain lie and a disrespectful thing to do. So I tell them a few things (yes let your imagination fly ) and get the heck away from there as fast as I canNessa7: Call his wife to join us before I leave
I almost did this just to enjoy his reaction 
oh no thats even worse if someone did this to you cut communication with him asap no matter what, people need to understand that playing with feelings of other people that way its WRONG!, 
so sorry that happened to youLonelyMontse08: oh no thats even worse if someone did this to you cut communication with him asap no matter what, people need to understand that playing with feelings of other people that way its WRONG!, so sorry that happened to you
this comment was meant for Kaybee50 forgot to quote lol
trueheart1941: ....order the best food.(menu)..best wine.the really exspensiv one...skys thre limit...enjoy the evening.....then excuse yourself.....(going to mens room)......then sneak out....leaving her the bill.......... ..bon aper.tite.
revenge is best served cold... in this case hot! As for me I'd stick around and enjoy it! lol. First of all I've already taken the time to dress up nicely and besides I'm paying for the date since I am the man and the lady my as well enjoy her meal and drinks. She's married, so what! lol. She's still an obviously unhappy person but a person nonetheless. She obviously is not satisfied with her vows or she wouldn't be out seeking others. She may divorce one day soon and who knows, she could be the right one! lol. You have to keep an open mind in situations like this. When life gives you lemons, make some awesome lemonade!
NightPrince: For those of you who have been misled, take a look.
Years ago I had a similar thing happen. I had met an incredibly great gal at a dance/gathering. We spent quite a bit of time together during that weekend, although there were many other guests around. She gave me her number, I agreed to call. When I did she seemed happy to hear from me, and readily accepted a dinner date. I sprang for flowers, the whole shebang. Right after the waiter delivered our meal and poured wine, she asked me why I was smiling so brightly. I told her how attracted I was to her. She immediately told me she was happily seeing another man, who I did know, and for a long time at that. I think she did the wrong thing to accept the dinner date. I think she should have said, "I'd love to have dinner, but just as friends. I am seeing ****". It is wrong to lead someone on, even passively. That was the bitterest plate of Italian food I ever had, and I love Italian food. She did the wrong thing, and really, she knew it wasn't right.Onlyguy: Tell her it's not a problem because I'm not jealous
I wont leave with empty stomach...ha ha
Well, it's just a dinner after all...if we were selebrating our engagement than I was going to use some iron ...for sure...
Well, it's just a dinner after all...if we were selebrating our engagement than I was going to use some iron ...for sure...
KremaP: I wont leave with empty stomach...ha ha
Well, it's just a dinner after all...if we were selebrating our engagement than I was going to use some iron ...for sure...
When someone asks another out on a date it is inappropriate to conceal that you are dating. (Women don't put up with it, why should men?) No, it is NOT "just a dinner". It is called deceit, and it is indefensible. Period.Well, it's just a dinner after all...if we were selebrating our engagement than I was going to use some iron ...for sure...
rohaan: When someone asks another out on a date it is inappropriate to conceal that you are dating. (Women don't put up with it, why should men?) No, it is NOT "just a dinner". It is called deceit, and it is indefensible. Period.
Ohhhhh give us a break, can't you see I am joking...
If she was hot,i'd screw her.
ok.ok,i know,i shouldnt say that.
ok.ok,i know,i shouldnt say that.
Leo_7: If she was hot,i'd screw her.
ok.ok,i know,i shouldnt say that.
ok.ok,i know,i shouldnt say that.
Shame on you !KremaP: Ohhhhh give us a break, can't you see I am joking...
Okay okay, take your break, doll. (
) I got caught up in the seriousness of the thread. You are right, it's better to have broad shoulders and just chalk it up to Life.rohaan: Okay okay, take your break, doll. ( ) I got caught up in the seriousness of the thread. You are right, it's better to have broad shoulders and just chalk it up to Life.
Doll??? Hahaha
Yeah, judge the book by the cover, very wise...
NightPrince: For those of you who have been misled, take a look.
I'd enjoy the dinner anyways. After all, she's buying!
KremaP: Doll??? Hahaha
Yeah, judge the book by the cover, very wise...
What is that supposed to mean? I have no gripe with you.Yeah, judge the book by the cover, very wise...
rohaan: What is that supposed to mean?
It means that patronizing terms such as 'Doll' won't ingratiate yourself to every woman, so it's wise to play it safe. Does it work with men? 
MADDOG69: It means that patronizing terms such as 'Doll' won't ingratiate yourself to every woman, so it's wise to play it safe. Does it work with men?
Thank you MADDOG69,
I tend to have regular irritations when it comes to communication( not direct) with Americans. I was going to be a bit rude this time. Thanks for not letting me show my dark side to this...hm...Miss.
I will start the topic about his family and kids till our connection turn to friendship.
MADDOG69: It means that patronizing terms such as 'Doll' won't ingratiate yourself to every woman, so it's wise to play it safe. Does it work with men?
It's called over-reacting. I get called "Stud", "Kiddo", "Bud", etc... and could, if I choose, call it patronizing. Since it usually isn't meant that way, I don't, and am actually somewhat endeared by it. I cannot help it if someone else chooses to find negativity in this. I know many women who love being referred to as "Doll", and do not find it patronizing. If you are looking for negativity, you will find it. If you are looking for casual and easy-going, you will find it. More Threads
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If someone wants to get out of a marriage I expect them to do their research for the next candidate AFTER they are divorced.
We are supposed to learn while we see each new day.
I used to think like you but one case made me consider differently.
An acquaintance of mine was going trough divorce and her son was very depressed to the point that she had to look for professional help because the teenager boy had several red flags for suicide. To make the story short, she is separated, legally she is married.
Does it mean that she does not deserve to have a date, to have an opportunity to meet someone?.