Why is it so hard to connect in here? (121)
joey987: I don' t seem to have a problem with connecting on here. Actually have met a few girls in person from here too. There are others ladies I think it would be nice to connect with, but they are too far away. Flat out, distance is a factor for me as I couldn' t consider relocating at this time in my life. I have a job and wouldn' t leave it and try to start over. Maybe if I was still in my twenties I could do that, but not now.
Internet dating has made me cautious though. Especially considering the fact that I can' t be 100% sure of who I am talking to until I meet them in person. Sometimes people fib on their profiles a little. Mine is pretty accurate though.
So in saying all that, I would say I am still hopeful of meeting someone on here. I am not necessarily counting on it though. I wouldn' t be surprised if it happens in another way. Anything is possible.Internet dating has made me cautious though. Especially considering the fact that I can' t be 100% sure of who I am talking to until I meet them in person. Sometimes people fib on their profiles a little. Mine is pretty accurate though.
I piggybacked my own post.
Even though it's a dating site I don't come on here with the expectation of meeting a guy who's perfect for me....the odds of someone down the road logging in at the same time as me and finding my profile are pretty minimal I'd have though. If that were to happen the chance of us being what we're both looking for lessens the odds even more.
You can feel a connection with someone, get on famously with them online and over the phone but until you physically meet you won't know if there's that spark or not.
Always live in hope though, and a few hours distance shouldn't be a huge barrier when you're considering what could be the rest of your life.
You can feel a connection with someone, get on famously with them online and over the phone but until you physically meet you won't know if there's that spark or not.
Always live in hope though, and a few hours distance shouldn't be a huge barrier when you're considering what could be the rest of your life.
its hard to find the real one although there are nice and good people here too
joey987: I don' t seem to have a problem with connecting on here. Actually have met a few girls in person from here too. There are others ladies I think it would be nice to connect with, but they are too far away. Flat out, distance is a factor for me as I couldn' t consider relocating at this time in my life. I have a job and wouldn' t leave it and try to start over. Maybe if I was still in my twenties I could do that, but not now.
Internet dating has made me cautious though. Especially considering the fact that I can' t be 100% sure of who I am talking to until I meet them in person. Sometimes people fib on their profiles a little. Mine is pretty accurate though.
Internet dating has made me cautious though. Especially considering the fact that I can' t be 100% sure of who I am talking to until I meet them in person. Sometimes people fib on their profiles a little. Mine is pretty accurate though.
so what do you mean by "pretty accurate"? other than that thank you for your awesome post and thoughts
NotABlonde: Even though it's a dating site I don't come on here with the expectation of meeting a guy who's perfect for me....the odds of someone down the road logging in at the same time as me and finding my profile are pretty minimal I'd have though. If that were to happen the chance of us being what we're both looking for lessens the odds even more.
You can feel a connection with someone, get on famously with them online and over the phone but until you physically meet you won't know if there's that spark or not.
Always live in hope though, and a few hours distance shouldn't be a huge barrier when you're considering what could be the rest of your life.
You can feel a connection with someone, get on famously with them online and over the phone but until you physically meet you won't know if there's that spark or not.
Always live in hope though, and a few hours distance shouldn't be a huge barrier when you're considering what could be the rest of your life.
that's so very true!! But I think at least on the phone you can get an idea to some sort...but that's just my thought. Oh no there's no such thing as "soul mates" "meant to be's" it's all a matter of coincidence...luck per se...but I wish you all the love and luck this world has to offer!
SoonerGal: What is the deal here that everyone thinks someone is out for something?? Maybe, just maybe there is genuine people out there looking for someone. This is why I left the first time, thought I'd give it another whirl but find the same disbeliefs floating around
It isn't difficult to connect for us in Ireland. It's not a popular site in the US, though. You got lower numbers here.
MADDOG69: It isn't difficult to connect for us in Ireland. It's not a popular site in the US, though. You got lower numbers here.
so you're wanting someone from the states? think you'd do awesome here!!
SoonerGal: so you're wanting someone from the states?
Not really.
They're too loud. 
MADDOG69: Not really. They're too loud.
nah you need to go to the southern states...texas, Oklahoma and back east...we girls know how to treat a man...your young, you'd be snatched up in no time
MADDOG69: It isn't difficult to connect for us in Ireland. It's not a popular site in the US, though. You got lower numbers here.
Yep.
There are 10 women between 35 and 45 within 100 hundred miles
of me that have logged in, in the last week.
Ocee102: Yep.
There are 10 women between 35 and 45 within 100 hundred miles
of me that have logged in, in the last week.
There are 10 women between 35 and 45 within 100 hundred miles
of me that have logged in, in the last week.
maybe try a yr or two younger or older and see what happens...
Ocee102: Yep.
There are 10 women between 35 and 45 within 100 hundred miles
of me that have logged in, in the last week.
There are 10 women between 35 and 45 within 100 hundred miles
of me that have logged in, in the last week.
It hasn't hit the critical mass. Which is why the OP should ALSO look at some other sites too.
I made a few posts about this before:
If you go to the Indonesians, Malta, Ireland, Trinidad google domains and search of Free Dating Site CS appears within the top 3 or 4.
If you go to the US or the UK google domains, CS appears down the page or the 2nd page even.
That's the difference. Whoever done their Search opmizations magic or whatever got big hits for certain countries... but failed on other coutnries.
Which is why you have a huge membership form Ireland here, but very little from our neighbour the UK (which has 10 times our population)
UK:
Page 4 of 'Free Dating' in Google.
Ireland:
First result! (for me anyway)
That's the difference.
Same for Indonesia, Malta and a few other places.
SoonerGal: maybe try a yr or two younger or older and see what happens...
Yea.
45 to 55 jumps to about 27 in the last week.
Which is more of a change than I would have guessed.
I'm not really looking to meet anyone though.
I was mostly just saying there are busier sites for us U.S. members. I hate to see people frustrated if this is the only site they're on. A lot of people use other sites for arranging dates, and this one for socializing on the forums and such.
It's impoartant not to mention other site names on the forums though. That's one rule that has been pretty strictly enforced in the past.
SoonerGal: nah you need to go to the southern states...texas, Oklahoma and back east...we girls know how to treat a man...your young, you'd be snatched up in no time
hehehe
Well if I remove the ones that have been married and divorced by the time they're 23 (with 2 kids), then I'm left with the ones that want a 'Country Boy'.... likes dirt bikes, getting dirty etc (which I have no problem with, it's just funny to read)
Also... the mentality... is a bit different. Their outlook on things... is a bit different. I hate to generalise. Yaa-haaw.
MADDOG69: hehehe
Well if I remove the ones that have been married and divorced by the time they're 23 (with 2 kids), then I'm left with the ones that want a 'Country Boy'.... likes dirt bikes, getting dirty etc (which I have no problem with, it's just funny to read)
Also... the mentality... is a bit different. Their outlook on things... is a bit different. I hate to generalise. Yaa-haaw.
Well if I remove the ones that have been married and divorced by the time they're 23 (with 2 kids), then I'm left with the ones that want a 'Country Boy'.... likes dirt bikes, getting dirty etc (which I have no problem with, it's just funny to read)
Also... the mentality... is a bit different. Their outlook on things... is a bit different. I hate to generalise. Yaa-haaw.
oh now that's not how it really is, do I sound like that?
I happen to think the mentality is awesomely wonderful 
but yah we like muddin' 4-wheelin, rodeo's and real men...yes you will hear a random yeehaw but it will have a meaning behind it Ocee102: Yea.
45 to 55 jumps to about 27 in the last week.
Which is more of a change than I would have guessed.I'm not really looking to meet anyone though.
I was mostly just saying there are busier sites for us U.S. members. I hate to see people frustrated if this is the only site they're on. A lot of people use other sites for arranging dates, and this one for socializing on the forums and such.It's impoartant not to mention other site names on the forums though. That's one rule that has been pretty strictly enforced in the past.
45 to 55 jumps to about 27 in the last week.
Which is more of a change than I would have guessed.I'm not really looking to meet anyone though.
I was mostly just saying there are busier sites for us U.S. members. I hate to see people frustrated if this is the only site they're on. A lot of people use other sites for arranging dates, and this one for socializing on the forums and such.It's impoartant not to mention other site names on the forums though. That's one rule that has been pretty strictly enforced in the past.
I agree, I actually met and I'm still talking to someone from another site...we actually plan on him flying in and us going to tailgate the OU/Tex game
I can't wait!! My point for this thread is everyone seems so uptight and unwilling to let their guard down...stiff so to speakSoonerGal: oh now that's not how it really is, do I sound like that? I happen to think the mentality is awesomely wonderful but yah we like muddin' 4-wheelin, rodeo's and real men...yes you will hear a random yeehaw but it will have a meaning behind it
Some of them Southern and Back East, Rural Ohio, Pennsylvania profiles give me images of 'Winter's Bone'
(BTW, fantastic movie watched it loads of times)
You're from Missouri right?
SoonerGal: so what do you mean by "pretty accurate"? other than that thank you for your awesome post and thoughts
When I used the phrase pretty accurate I was trying to be modest.
It' s accurate to a tee.
Hi Sooner.
sorry but Ohio and Pennsylvania is way too north to be south you need to come way on down
you need to come way on downjoey987: When I used the phrase pretty accurate I was trying to be modest. It' s accurate to a tee.
Hi Sooner.
Hi Sooner.
oh ok
SoonerGal: What is the deal here that everyone thinks someone is out for something?? Maybe, just maybe there is genuine people out there looking for someone. This is why I left the first time, thought I'd give it another whirl but find the same disbeliefs floating around
There are many reasons each person might have. Persons like myself, wonder why we bother with online any thing. I can function in real life much better than a virtual one. On the other hand, I don't like to rule out other possibilities if they exist.
It's a little harsh to meet people in such an anonymous way. Neither has any real clue of what's on the side of the other. Many I've known have a fear that the real life situation may not be enough for others. They wonder how two completely different environments can be meshed together smoothly from such a void where daily lives don't generally even cross. What kind of changes will it take? Will it be worth the trouble? So much more.
I don't think the views are just about people on the take. Every friend and family member, even my ex-wife, have suffered failure from every internet venture they've tried so far. The longest for a friend was about 2 kids and 12 years long before it crashed, due to the internet even. Go figure.
I think it's the potential book that's exchanged online. It can have a way of clashing with reality. A couple of those friends have finally given up altogether online. I've never really tried to pursue it. With what I've seen and read over the years, I'm not sure that I ever will. If I do, they will have to live awful darn close because actions and time will always speak louder than words or photos.
No I'm not from Mizzu 
I'm from Oklahoma 
I'm from Oklahoma Draegoneer: There are many reasons each person might have. Persons like myself, wonder why we bother with online any thing. I can function in real life much better than a virtual one. On the other hand, I don't like to rule out other possibilities if they exist.
It's a little harsh to meet people in such an anonymous way. Neither has any real clue of what's on the side of the other. Many I've known have a fear that the real life situation may not be enough for others. They wonder how two completely different environments can be meshed together smoothly from such a void where daily lives don't generally even cross. What kind of changes will it take? Will it be worth the trouble? So much more.
I don't think the views are just about people on the take. Every friend and family member, even my ex-wife, have suffered failure from every internet venture they've tried so far. The longest for a friend was about 2 kids and 12 years long before it crashed, due to the internet even. Go figure.
I think it's the potential book that's exchanged online. It can have a way of clashing with reality. A couple of those friends have finally given up altogether online. I've never really tried to pursue it. With what I've seen and read over the years, I'm not sure that I ever will. If I do, they will have to live awful darn close because actions and time will always speak louder than words or photos.
It's a little harsh to meet people in such an anonymous way. Neither has any real clue of what's on the side of the other. Many I've known have a fear that the real life situation may not be enough for others. They wonder how two completely different environments can be meshed together smoothly from such a void where daily lives don't generally even cross. What kind of changes will it take? Will it be worth the trouble? So much more.
I don't think the views are just about people on the take. Every friend and family member, even my ex-wife, have suffered failure from every internet venture they've tried so far. The longest for a friend was about 2 kids and 12 years long before it crashed, due to the internet even. Go figure.
I think it's the potential book that's exchanged online. It can have a way of clashing with reality. A couple of those friends have finally given up altogether online. I've never really tried to pursue it. With what I've seen and read over the years, I'm not sure that I ever will. If I do, they will have to live awful darn close because actions and time will always speak louder than words or photos.
you nailed it right there! I'm sure that speaks for a lot of people...actually it does me too, long distance sucks, but the guy I'm talking to too, I don't know I think he's worth it...guess nothing like father time to prove it
SoonerGal: maybe try a yr or two younger or older and see what happens...
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I must be poorly connected
raphael119: I must be poorly connected
Get a booster
raphael119: Welcome to the forums winx, you look asian not Irish.
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I don' t seem to have a problem with connecting on here. Actually have met a few girls in person from here too. There are others ladies I think it would be nice to connect with, but they are too far away. Flat out, distance is a factor for me as I couldn' t consider relocating at this time in my life. I have a job and wouldn' t leave it and try to start over. Maybe if I was still in my twenties I could do that, but not now.
Internet dating has made me cautious though. Especially considering the fact that I can' t be 100% sure of who I am talking to until I meet them in person. Sometimes people fib on their profiles a little.