NAKEDMUDPEOPLE: Who ever asked for the date should have enough to cover the bill. Always have enough to cover both on the date, or you could be washing dishes. I will always offer and offer again. I will not degrade a man by insisting on paying the bill.
That'll teach me to be a good listener for the first date , and wait for her to offer dinner ...........
NAKEDMUDPEOPLE: What if you are a three and you are with a 10? She offers to cover the expense of the date? Be careful, you may get what you ask for!
she can cover it all she wants. believe me i'd still be way ahead as far as covering. some poeple just want to see if they can get a free meal. call them real time scammers if you will. lol
AsleepInNJ: she can cover it all she wants. believe me i'd still be way ahead as far as covering. some poeple just want to see if they can get a free meal. call them real time scammers if you will. lol
NAKEDMUDPEOPLE: We are here to meet each other. Who cares, lets just get together and see what happens. Remember what you project might be your final word.
scousedon: I always pay on first date but also accept a token gesture of a drink as in my experience it lets the women feel good to show she is not taking advantage of a "free lunch"
I'll keep that in mind.....
but for me it depends on who did the asking....and usually when I'm prepared to pay the guy will step up and insist on paying and of course being the woman I am, I will not hurt the male ego by not letting him do his thing......
RedLyonyss: So okay, I was just curious. I always assume on a first date that it will be dutch and reach for my wallet, but I have to admit I respect a guy more if he offers to pay. I guess I am a little old fashioned even though I do not mind paying at all. Later as dates progress I asume it will either be dutch or we will take turns grabbing the check.
What do you think?
PS: No I do not run out on a check but I have had a date suggest it, so I added that option in. I never found out what he did for a second date...
Red haired ladies should never pay on the first date. Be proud as well as beautiful.
In Sweden it’s a norm that a woman pays for her dinner. I have no problem with it save for that sharing the bill makes me see him as a comrade or some kind of colleague... In short, I lose interest in him as a man...
HotrodLarrys: Thats what we did as Kids was fun, now we are Grown up, That is stealing!
I'd never do that.... even as a kid; as an intellectual exercise it would be kinda fun, but I couldn't do it for real.
I once took a lady for a meal many years ago and made a point of thanking the manager when we left.
My date and I got in my car.
I turned to her and said:
'How did I pay? Was it by cash or by cheque or by credit card?'
'You didn't pay!' she said
'Why didn't you say anything?' I asked her.
'I thought you didn't pay on purpose!' she said.
I went back to the restaurant a few days later and paid. They were so pleased with my honesty they gave me a free drink. They knew they were down in cash on the night, but had no idea who the culprit was..............
Needless to say I didn't date that particular lady ever again; I don't like people who condone theft or think I am a conman. I am neither.
RedLyonyss: So okay, I was just curious. I always assume on a first date that it will be dutch and reach for my wallet, but I have to admit I respect a guy more if he offers to pay. I guess I am a little old fashioned even though I do not mind paying at all. Later as dates progress I asume it will either be dutch or we will take turns grabbing the check.
What do you think?
PS: No I do not run out on a check but I have had a date suggest it, so I added that option in. I never found out what he did for a second date...
Think that there are many options for a first date that don't require one to spend a lot of money to enjoy getting to know another person. Think its a matter of economics as well and being being realistic.
If you cannot afford a fancy dinner, then do something more simple wherein it doesn't cost much and still can be fun. I think sometimes people try too hard to impress and then they get resentful because they are "footing the bill" - if you have this attitude then perhaps its time to change the activity (ie. dinner) and simply go for a walk and grab a cup of coffee.
Dating can be expensive or it can be accomplished on a budget and truly if you are feeling the pinch and especially in these economic times then you also need to be realistic as one still needs to eat for the rest of the month. Why blow $100 bucks on one meal when that can give you many meals at home. A simple dinner at home can still be romantic and easily planned for a second or third date if you are comfortable.
I've heard stories from dates wherein the women they have contacted expect and/or arrange expensive restaurants or activities and then expect the male to pay. That to me is extremely rude and inconsiderate. The majority of males are usually higher wage earners than females, so I think its a matter of give/take between the two people to decide mutually how they want to take care of the bill.
True, but .... I have always been on my own, haven't dated as such, (going to a dance to dance ... there isn't ever meal facilities.). and I eat very little... so I am happy to go Dutch.
Can you see where I am coming from in this discussion?
Cheers you.
Sure. I can see where you're coming from....... you're playing hard to get!
seekndestroy: i'll pay for her coffee if she puts out.........if not i ask for reimbursement for my expenses (gas, food/drinks and the waste of my valuable time)....
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