I am not responsible for your happiness (30)
each and every one of us has responsibility for our own happiness,
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No brainer 
Anyone who relies on someone else for their happiness probably has some sort of co-dependency thing going on and could possibly be a little needy and demanding 
In this case, maybe the husband is tired of his wife needing his constant attention and reassurance and feels that she needs to have a think about that
Hard to say with so little information ..
Anyone who relies on someone else for their happiness probably has some sort of co-dependency thing going on and could possibly be a little needy and demanding In this case, maybe the husband is tired of his wife needing his constant attention and reassurance and feels that she needs to have a think about that
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We make our own happiness....obviously...
Who we involve in it can make a difference...
Who we involve in it can make a difference...
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kezza007: We make our own happiness....obviously...
Who we involve in it can make a difference...
on ya kezzWho we involve in it can make a difference...
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kezza007: We make our own happiness....obviously...
Who we involve in it can make a difference...
Who we involve in it can make a difference...
Nicely said Kezza
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kezza007: We make our own happiness....obviously...
Who we involve in it can make a difference...
Who we involve in it can make a difference...
Well said Kezza.
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Hi Ulimaroa
He has just said
"I am not responsible for your happiness!"
Then with her saying to you, (there was NO quarrel before)
I may assume.....only...assume
she may have been in a moment in her life at such a low ebb, however, she came out with it, she may have said it in her darkest moment, "I am so afraid, I don't feel I'm happy anymore."
This does not mean, unhappy with her relationship, and yet, it affected him in this response.
"I am not responsible for your happiness!"
Correct;
We are not responsible for each others happiness.
When people come together in a relationship, there must be balance and sometimes one may slip over.
Then the other must do, in regards, to how they truly "feel",
to re assure the other of their importance in their life and why...
"That does involve happiness, by the way"
True happiness comes to fruition, only by sharing....
He has just said
"I am not responsible for your happiness!"
Then with her saying to you, (there was NO quarrel before)
I may assume.....only...assume
she may have been in a moment in her life at such a low ebb, however, she came out with it, she may have said it in her darkest moment, "I am so afraid, I don't feel I'm happy anymore."
This does not mean, unhappy with her relationship, and yet, it affected him in this response.
"I am not responsible for your happiness!"
Correct;
We are not responsible for each others happiness.
When people come together in a relationship, there must be balance and sometimes one may slip over.
Then the other must do, in regards, to how they truly "feel",
to re assure the other of their importance in their life and why...
"That does involve happiness, by the way"
True happiness comes to fruition, only by sharing....
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But we are responsible for each others happiness. If what one does affects the other negatively. This needs to be fixed. That person is affecting the others Happiness.
It is a statement that can't be taken out of context.
In a relationship your actions must be balanced against your partners feelings as well.
E.G. One can't go off every Friday and get pissed and leave their partner at home. Nor can one go off gambling every week when the budget can't afford it.
Neither of these examples will leave the other partner happy; nor will it leave them feeling appreciated and cared for.
Yes the individual is responsible for there happiness. But just as importantly in a relationship both partners have a responsibility to the others happiness. Even if it is just in the act of prviding a shoulder to lean on, Or moral support for an upcoming interview.
Remember a relationship is two people. And therefore you have an obligation to the second person the whole time you are in that relationship.
So to say "I am not responsible for your happiness" well depend very much on the context it was used. As meer words said to a partner, I would say Game Over.
It is a statement that can't be taken out of context.
In a relationship your actions must be balanced against your partners feelings as well.
E.G. One can't go off every Friday and get pissed and leave their partner at home. Nor can one go off gambling every week when the budget can't afford it.
Neither of these examples will leave the other partner happy; nor will it leave them feeling appreciated and cared for.
Yes the individual is responsible for there happiness. But just as importantly in a relationship both partners have a responsibility to the others happiness. Even if it is just in the act of prviding a shoulder to lean on, Or moral support for an upcoming interview.
Remember a relationship is two people. And therefore you have an obligation to the second person the whole time you are in that relationship.
So to say "I am not responsible for your happiness" well depend very much on the context it was used. As meer words said to a partner, I would say Game Over.
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Whats wrong with being friends ,friends that have been friends that long surely would have been more in that time if it were meant to be!!!
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Ulimaroa: I just got off the phone,
talking to a close girl-friend.
We've known each other since 1980.
She got married a handful of years ago.
Her husband said (there was NO quarrel before)
once a while ago, and still believes this:"I am not responsible for your happiness!"
What are your views on this statement?
talking to a close girl-friend.
We've known each other since 1980.
She got married a handful of years ago.
Her husband said (there was NO quarrel before)
once a while ago, and still believes this:"I am not responsible for your happiness!"
What are your views on this statement?
Well, I guess being in a committed couple makes one partially responsible for the other's happiness. (as in basic respect and other needs, NOT obviously becoming doormat material!)
Hence.... I will walk away from any unbalanced relationship. I will remove myself and BE responsible in seeking my happiness, rather than stay with someone and let him take away that which I already have.
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It would be lovely if everyone was responsible for everyone's happyness? As that is possible it therefore is so - Think about it, you could, if you chose, dedicate yourself to someones's happiness or improving the happiness of those arround you (even by as simple a thing as smiling to strangers or complimenting everyone you meet on something good about them) as you have to interact witht the rest of the human race and as your own happiness is aldered by the actions of others and if they are happier so too would you be for a better experiance in interacting with them. Then it is in your interestr to make all arround you happier - no?
Not only that but it is within your power to do so. That we don't or don't do so as much as we possibly should is our choice as is the level of responsibility we choose in our fellow man's wellbeing/ happiness.
If someone close to you - child, brother, mother, spouse. Does something notworthy; scores the winning try, publicly recognised for being outstanding. You, rightly feel proud - why? Because you are partly responsible, in your regular interaction with them you helped shape the way they are (sure most of the responsiblity may lay with them and a main suporter) but you had some small hand in it. So too when not so good thing occur - child shoplifts, brother cheats on wife, you too had some bearing on that - even a little - you helped cause it to be. Interaction with our fellow man is a double edged sword as far as responsibility - we can- should we choose acept responsibility for all that occurs - a shared responsibilty for everything. I bet you right now you can think of someone you know that is having a rough time. You know it and possibly choose not to act on that knowledge but if you did choose to act to even ask them over for a cuppa - or take them afternoon tea - mow thier lawns or just listen to them - give them some motavaton to move forward - anything realy - wow then you would have caused a change in thier happiness. Even for a short while. YOU could do that. You are that powerfull that you can cause happiness or betterment in someone's life - just like that.
So yeah, while ultimately the main person responsible for her happiness is herself, the husband can be responsible to quite a degree if he chooses, even if it's only to show her that real happiness comes from within.
Any way I have writtem quite enough.
Not only that but it is within your power to do so. That we don't or don't do so as much as we possibly should is our choice as is the level of responsibility we choose in our fellow man's wellbeing/ happiness.
If someone close to you - child, brother, mother, spouse. Does something notworthy; scores the winning try, publicly recognised for being outstanding. You, rightly feel proud - why? Because you are partly responsible, in your regular interaction with them you helped shape the way they are (sure most of the responsiblity may lay with them and a main suporter) but you had some small hand in it. So too when not so good thing occur - child shoplifts, brother cheats on wife, you too had some bearing on that - even a little - you helped cause it to be. Interaction with our fellow man is a double edged sword as far as responsibility - we can- should we choose acept responsibility for all that occurs - a shared responsibilty for everything. I bet you right now you can think of someone you know that is having a rough time. You know it and possibly choose not to act on that knowledge but if you did choose to act to even ask them over for a cuppa - or take them afternoon tea - mow thier lawns or just listen to them - give them some motavaton to move forward - anything realy - wow then you would have caused a change in thier happiness. Even for a short while. YOU could do that. You are that powerfull that you can cause happiness or betterment in someone's life - just like that.
So yeah, while ultimately the main person responsible for her happiness is herself, the husband can be responsible to quite a degree if he chooses, even if it's only to show her that real happiness comes from within.
Any way I have writtem quite enough.
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robplum: each and every one of us has responsibility for our own happiness,
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kezza007: We make our own happiness....obviously...
Who we involve in it can make a difference...
very good pointWho we involve in it can make a difference...
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kezza007: We make our own happiness....obviously...
Who we involve in it can make a difference...
Who we involve in it can make a difference...
Yep... can't argue wit dat!!
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She might not be happy in the bedroom?I'd say He's responsible for that.
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I don’t care what everybody says- Eve was created to make Adam happy by serving him. 
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Yup
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Yup to the bedroom happiness the Adam and Eve thing
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ybfayl: I don’t care what everybody says- Eve was created to make Adam happy by serving him.
You are very lucky that there is not a one finger emotion on here
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tarnsnz: You are very lucky that there is not a one finger emotion on here
Im disappointed too 
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ybfayl: Im disappointed too
Maybe I could request the finger emotion
Might save us from bad words 
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Hardlucklad40: Whats wrong with being friends ,friends that have been friends that long surely would have been more in that time if it were meant to be!!!
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blondeozichick: wha??????
Cute photo blondie.
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Twodawgz: Cute photo blondie.
thanks darlin mmmwwwhhhhaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa
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i'm not responsible for anyone's happiness, but i try my hardest to keep those i love happy, and they to me in return.
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We all have expectations. When our relationship does not live up to those expectations it often causes some degree of unhappiness.
The worse scenario is when your partner does not adhere to agreements related to the expectations you or both of you hold for the relationship. That calls for re-negations or breakup in some instances.
We need to acknowledge that our happiness is the result of our own thoughts and feelings. No matter what the situation, you still determine your own happiness.
It is a great burden to carry other peoples happiness on your shoulders. Especially when they are reliant on you to keep them happy. This is never achievable in the first place.
The worse scenario is when your partner does not adhere to agreements related to the expectations you or both of you hold for the relationship. That calls for re-negations or breakup in some instances.
We need to acknowledge that our happiness is the result of our own thoughts and feelings. No matter what the situation, you still determine your own happiness.
It is a great burden to carry other peoples happiness on your shoulders. Especially when they are reliant on you to keep them happy. This is never achievable in the first place.
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In response to: I just got off the phone,
talking to a close girl-friend.
We've known each other since 1980.
She got married a handful of years ago.
Her husband said (there was NO quarrel before)
once a while ago, and still believes this:"I am not responsible for your happiness!"
What are your views on this statement?
talking to a close girl-friend.
We've known each other since 1980.
She got married a handful of years ago.
Her husband said (there was NO quarrel before)
once a while ago, and still believes this:"I am not responsible for your happiness!"
What are your views on this statement?
There is some truth to this, but if your partners happiness isn't a big priority, there's little chance - or point - in the relationship working out in the long term.
If you aren't interested in anyone else's happiness but your own, you're probably better off single.
JMO.
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I think I am responsible for my partners happiness.
If I'm not happy, then she isn't going to be happy and likewise.
Having said that, both parties need to have their own interests and hobbies outside of the relationship as well as similar interests and activities inside it so I guess I'm saying I am still responsible for her happiness.
If I'm not happy, then she isn't going to be happy and likewise.
Having said that, both parties need to have their own interests and hobbies outside of the relationship as well as similar interests and activities inside it so I guess I'm saying I am still responsible for her happiness.
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daisy333: There is some truth to this, but if your partners happiness isn't a big priority, there's little chance - or point - in the relationship working out in the long term.
If you aren't interested in anyone else's happiness but your own, you're probably better off single.
JMO.
If you aren't interested in anyone else's happiness but your own, you're probably better off single.
JMO.
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I am not responsible for your happiness(Vote Below)
I just got off the phone,
talking to a close girl-friend.
We've known each other since 1980.
She got married a handful of years ago.
Her husband said (there was NO quarrel before)
once a while ago, and still believes this:
"I am not responsible for your happiness!"
What are your views on this statement?