Hurt people hurt others ( Archived) (30)

hello frankinstien,

you're quite right..

but..

i cannot love my nuvoletta more..

my love for it is already truly unconditional...

Yes they do.They've been hurt for some reason and they lash out at others.I know there are times I've lashed out at someone and then after I do it I feel like crap.Even when I apologize to whoever it is I hurt the pain of it is still there.

I never understood that, if your hurt why hurt others.

Never bring from one stage to another, never hurt someone that has done nothing wrong. Only bitterness breeds bitterness!!

omg sail ...what on earth is on your profile pic

Its good fun, and I need a laugh!! Pinochio I think it is!

bloody brilliant

Very often emotionally immature people reflect that by transferring how they feel onto others.
Sometimes it is very evident and they reveal much more about themselves than they intend too.

what ever you do, don`t lie...

HAHAHAHAAA

Nearly had a seizure when I saw your photo Sail xx Thought you were a victim of identity theft, and I had been friends with a scammer!!!!!

In psychology classes they teach this concept - in life you learn this truth.

People get hurt early in life in varied ways, some so subtle they are never aware of where the hurt hides. The buttons people push - in one another - are what createst the current from that earlier psychological emotional injury that you have hidden.

If you only learn two things in life - and really learn them - you will find that area within yourself and deal with it.

There are only 2 - get that TWO - legitimate grounded reasons why people get angry with others........strip away the emotion, the politics, the other useless excuses we hide behind and we are all the same at the core....no matter where we come from or what we are taught to believe:
1. You want something from that other person they are unable or unwilling to give you or they want something from you and same goes.
2. You want to control that other person and they are not allowing you to or they want to control you are you are not allowing them to.

THERE ARE NO OTHER REAL REASONS FOR ANGER - in a nutshell, simply put and more complicated than you can imagine - these are the ONLY real things when you strip all else away.

Figure it out - and you can end the anger within yourself and you can step away from it in another. You have no right to control anyone else - they have no right to control you.

When you give a gift - if it comes with strings it is really no gift at all now is it? If it comes with ties or bindings it is really no gift is it? If it comes with conditions and rules you have invented for your own gain it is no gift is it?

There are folk in this life who yes, do tend to hurt others, sad but true. When one learns the art of not letting others insecurity get to you, you are truely the master of your own destiny.

some of them lash out and take their problems out on people, and others just hurt themselves..
it all depends on the person who is hurting and how they handle it.

Got this from a book...I thought it was pretty good.


'TODAY I am learning how to have the ultimate close relationship-with myself.Until I am intimate with myself and treat myself with compassion,kindness,trust,acceptance,and love,I CAN'T BE THE SPOUSE,FRIEND,SON,or father I WANT TO BE.
Intimacy involves sharing my deepest fears and secrets while trusting the other person will accept them.This behaviour feels risky to me.I grew up trusting no one,but I KNOW if I KEEP doing what I'VE ALWAYS done,I'LL get what I've always gotten.I want to change.'

I agree..Once you know a person can be trusted it is a good idea to open up and give them that trust.
I also believe though that it isnt wise to trust just anyone or too soon.
Trust has to be earned first..Otherwise we might end up in a situation that we could have avoided.

Misery loves company

well it is confuse to me. which way you mean heart?

Each action has one reaction till we learn to no reaction.

We can get it No reaction

yes it is automatic reaction to strike out, but you must resolve your hurt and not inflict it on another innocent person,