Choose between a traditional marriage (death do you part) or a five year renewable contract. (68)
eduwriter: This came up at a party. Men and women were asked if they had a choice between a traditional marriage and a renewable contract what would they chose.
If they chose a renewable contract, at the end of the contract they gained assests would be divided equally and both parties would be equally financial responsible forthe welfare if any children
If they chose a renewable contract, at the end of the contract they gained assests would be divided equally and both parties would be equally financial responsible forthe welfare if any children
Renewable contract... that way you can still get out before that 7-year itch kicks in and you start to hate the other person.
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the five year renovable contract has been already proposed a couple of years ago by a politician, i don't remember if in Austria or Germany...
the politician that proposed it is a woman...
the politician that proposed it is a woman...
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70Libra: Renewable contract... that way you can still get out before that 7-year itch kicks in and you start to hate the other person.
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Monthly tenancies?
I think it would suit a woman's cyclical nature better.
I think it would suit a woman's cyclical nature better.
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eduwriter: This came up at a party. Men and women were asked if they had a choice between a traditional marriage and a renewable contract what would they chose.
If they chose a renewable contract, at the end of the contract they gained assests would be divided equally and both parties would be equally financial responsible forthe welfare if any children
can you imaginIf they chose a renewable contract, at the end of the contract they gained assests would be divided equally and both parties would be equally financial responsible forthe welfare if any children
it would take 5 years to write down all the get out clauses and who gets what in case
I still think the first one should be
what's mines mine and what's yours is mine
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If there was a renuable contract I might consider marrying again 
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eduwriter: This came up at a party. Men and women were asked if they had a choice between a traditional marriage and a renewable contract what would they chose.
If they chose a renewable contract, at the end of the contract they gained assests would be divided equally and both parties would be equally financial responsible forthe welfare if any children
If they chose a renewable contract, at the end of the contract they gained assests would be divided equally and both parties would be equally financial responsible forthe welfare if any children
Lets face it; at least 1/2 of the country cheats. If you are a cheater then you should not blame marriage, you should not be married.
Most of my friends and almost all of my family are happily married.
If you are a cheater or dont' want to stay with a person for a long time, then a 5 year option would be best for you.
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eduwriter: This came up at a party. Men and women were asked if they had a choice between a traditional marriage and a renewable contract what would they chose.
If they chose a renewable contract, at the end of the contract they gained assests would be divided equally and both parties would be equally financial responsible forthe welfare if any children
If they chose a renewable contract, at the end of the contract they gained assests would be divided equally and both parties would be equally financial responsible forthe welfare if any children
The 'til death do us part' in this day and age is kaput; over; no one has the depth of such commitment, nor the patience, let alone the dedication to leave other potential mating partners alone.
The 'til death do us part' may in fact be an inducement to murder the other...(after abusing them for years)
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I think the 'traditional til death do part' went out with the dish water so to speak for some along time ago.
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eduwriter: This came up at a party. Men and women were asked if they had a choice between a traditional marriage and a renewable contract what would they chose.
If they chose a renewable contract, at the end of the contract they gained assests would be divided equally and both parties would be equally financial responsible forthe welfare if any children
If they chose a renewable contract, at the end of the contract they gained assests would be divided equally and both parties would be equally financial responsible forthe welfare if any children
To me, marriage is marriage. A commitment.
I will stay married for as long as I am happy, and my partner is happy. Which hopefully, will be for a long time.
No Contract, traditional or otherwise would change that.
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solitare: The 'til death do us part' in this day and age is kaput; over; no one has the depth of such commitment, nor the patience, let alone the dedication to leave other potential mating partners alone.
The 'til death do us part' may in fact be an inducement to murder the other...(after abusing them for years)
The 'til death do us part' may in fact be an inducement to murder the other...(after abusing them for years)
"No one has the depth of such commitment"?? Where did you pull that out of - other than your own personal sentiment? Almost everyone in my family and extended family has made such a commitment, and they're doing fine. Some people are temperamentally and ethically suited for long-term relationships, some aren't. And many who give up do so simply because they lack the tools/strategies/knowledge to resolve differences that otherwise will destroy a relationship.
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Ambrose2007: "No one has the depth of such commitment"?? Where did you pull that out of - other than your own personal sentiment? Almost everyone in my family and extended family has made such a commitment, and they're doing fine. Some people are temperamentally and ethically suited for long-term relationships, some aren't. And many who give up do so simply because they lack the tools/strategies/knowledge to resolve differences that otherwise will destroy a relationship.
Its not all "My Way or the Highway". Compromise is key.
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mjames: Lets face it; at least 1/2 of the country cheats. If you are a cheater then you should not blame marriage, you should not be married.
Most of my friends and almost all of my family are happily married.
If you are a cheater or dont' want to stay with a person for a long time, then a 5 year option would be best for you.
Most of my friends and almost all of my family are happily married.
If you are a cheater or dont' want to stay with a person for a long time, then a 5 year option would be best for you.
I don't think it's quite as simple as "Trouble sustaining a relationship" = "cheater," James. There are many reasons couples have trouble staying together. For one thing, it takes a lot of commitment and the willingness to work. Some people simply don't believe it's worth their time to put in the effort (that may or may not be at the core of it). Some desperately want to stay together but just can't find a way to resolve their differences.
If you're someone who enjoys the prospect of having a life-partner - and I'm definitely in that fold! - then you are willing to acquire the knowledge and make the effort to do what's necessary to achieve that. All you need is the willingness to commit and to roll up your sleeves and get to work. The rest will follow.
Without being willing to even try, your relationship is, of course, doomed.
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Those of you who would choose a "renewable contract" have already given up. It's like a computer-nerd friend said about certain programs with unresolved "bugs": "Programming for Failure," he called it.
That's what I call going into a relationship with the attitude, "Well, whatever, we'll just play it by ear and see how things go."
That's programming for failure in spades.
That's what I call going into a relationship with the attitude, "Well, whatever, we'll just play it by ear and see how things go."
That's programming for failure in spades.
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mjames: Lets face it; at least 1/2 of the country cheats. If you are a cheater then you should not blame marriage, you should not be married.
Most of my friends and almost all of my family are happily married.
If you are a cheater or dont' want to stay with a person for a long time, then a 5 year option would be best for you.
Most of my friends and almost all of my family are happily married.
If you are a cheater or dont' want to stay with a person for a long time, then a 5 year option would be best for you.
i agree with u. i'll keep up my relationship and once im married i want it once in a life time.
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70Libra: Renewable contract... that way you can still get out before that 7-year itch kicks in and you start to hate the other person.
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Ambrose2007: Those of you who would choose a "renewable contract" have already given up. It's like a computer-nerd friend said about certain programs with unresolved "bugs": "Programming for Failure," he called it.
That's what I call going into a relationship with the attitude, "Well, whatever, we'll just play it by ear and see how things go."
That's programming for failure in spades.
That's what I call going into a relationship with the attitude, "Well, whatever, we'll just play it by ear and see how things go."
That's programming for failure in spades.
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Commitment, life...
When I get married again it will be for all...
When I get married again it will be for all...
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Ambrose2007: I don't think it's quite as simple as "Trouble sustaining a relationship" = "cheater," James. There are many reasons couples have trouble staying together. For one thing, it takes a lot of commitment and the willingness to work. Some people simply don't believe it's worth their time to put in the effort (that may or may not be at the core of it). Some desperately want to stay together but just can't find a way to resolve their differences.
If you're someone who enjoys the prospect of having a life-partner - and I'm definitely in that fold! - then you are willing to acquire the knowledge and make the effort to do what's necessary to achieve that. All you need is the willingness to commit and to roll up your sleeves and get to work. The rest will follow.
Without being willing to even try, your relationship is, of course, doomed.
what he said If you're someone who enjoys the prospect of having a life-partner - and I'm definitely in that fold! - then you are willing to acquire the knowledge and make the effort to do what's necessary to achieve that. All you need is the willingness to commit and to roll up your sleeves and get to work. The rest will follow.
Without being willing to even try, your relationship is, of course, doomed.
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Ambrose2007: Those of you who would choose a "renewable contract" have already given up. It's like a computer-nerd friend said about certain programs with unresolved "bugs": "Programming for Failure," he called it.
That's what I call going into a relationship with the attitude, "Well, whatever, we'll just play it by ear and see how things go."
That's programming for failure in spades.
That's what I call going into a relationship with the attitude, "Well, whatever, we'll just play it by ear and see how things go."
That's programming for failure in spades.
Totally agree.
Thats not commitment, thats hedging your bets.
If you are not 100% sure before you get married, you shouldnt get married at all.
Circumstances change, and things happen of course, but if its not based in the beginning on complete trust and willingness to make it work its on a losing wicket from the start.
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Bodecia: Totally agree.
Thats not commitment, thats hedging your bets.
If you are not 100% sure before you get married, you shouldnt get married at all.
Circumstances change, and things happen of course, but if its not based in the beginning on complete trust and willingness to make it work its on a losing wicket from the start.
Thats not commitment, thats hedging your bets.
If you are not 100% sure before you get married, you shouldnt get married at all.
Circumstances change, and things happen of course, but if its not based in the beginning on complete trust and willingness to make it work its on a losing wicket from the start.
Exactly
What a great idea, a 5 year contract, so after 4.5 years of a deep and loving relationship, you end up breaking up due to the stress created by wondering if your “Spouse” will be as keen to renew as you!!!
If you can’t manage to build a loving relationship with commitment and the desire to make it work using communication and compromise, then don’t get married and don’t live with someone only to dash their hopes and dreams.
For me, I believe totally in commitment, I don’t need a piece of paper, for 5 years or eternity, all I need is someone who views a relationship the same way as me, that it lasts to infinity and back.
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rizlared: Exactly What a great idea, a 5 year contract, so after 4.5 years of a deep and loving relationship, you end up breaking up due to the stress created by wondering if your “Spouse” will be as keen to renew as you!!!
If you can’t manage to build a loving relationship with commitment and the desire to make it work using communication and compromise, then don’t get married and don’t live with someone only to dash their hopes and dreams.
For me, I believe totally in commitment, I don’t need a piece of paper, for 5 years or eternity, all I need is someone who views a relationship the same way as me, that it lasts to infinity and back.
In my opinion, living together without marriage is worse than a 5 year contract..They can get the benefits of marriage without the legality, then if they feel like bailing out of the relationsip for any reason, they can without trying to work on things..I wont live in sin with any guy..Or waste my time with a man who has a fear of commitment..If you can’t manage to build a loving relationship with commitment and the desire to make it work using communication and compromise, then don’t get married and don’t live with someone only to dash their hopes and dreams.
For me, I believe totally in commitment, I don’t need a piece of paper, for 5 years or eternity, all I need is someone who views a relationship the same way as me, that it lasts to infinity and back.
We live in a disposable society, me generation..Morals have gone down the toilet and lust is confused for love..No wonder there are so many divorces..Half the people who even bother to marry are only doing it based on the lust and attitude of oh well, I want the big wedding and if it doesnt work, I will leave.
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Bodecia: Totally agree.
Thats not commitment, thats hedging your bets.
If you are not 100% sure before you get married, you shouldnt get married at all.
Circumstances change, and things happen of course, but if its not based in the beginning on complete trust and willingness to make it work its on a losing wicket from the start.
Thats not commitment, thats hedging your bets.
If you are not 100% sure before you get married, you shouldnt get married at all.
Circumstances change, and things happen of course, but if its not based in the beginning on complete trust and willingness to make it work its on a losing wicket from the start.
I would've said "curling stone," Bod, but that's probably a cultural thing.
Nice to see you on the forums again, my friend.
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Many yrs ago When my late hubby and I said our vows it was the traditional til death do us part.
Is the 5 yr contract simliar to a lease agreemenet ot something?When the lease ends your choice is to renew or not to renew.
Is the 5 yr contract simliar to a lease agreemenet ot something?When the lease ends your choice is to renew or not to renew.
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Ambrose2007: I would've said "curling stone," Bod, but that's probably a cultural thing.
Nice to see you on the forums again, my friend.
Nice to see you on the forums again, my friend.
Curling? Im not Canadian quite yet!
Although I can see it from my seat now! Thank you, A. Always a pleasure.
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Swissblueeyes: In my opinion, living together without marriage is worse than a 5 year contract..They can get the benefits of marriage without the legality, then if they feel like bailing out of the relationsip for any reason, they can without trying to work on things..I wont live in sin with any guy..Or waste my time with a man who has a fear of commitment..
We live in a disposable society, me generation..Morals have gone down the toilet and lust is confused for love..No wonder there are so many divorces..Half the people who even bother to marry are only doing it based on the lust and attitude of oh well, I want the big wedding and if it doesnt work, I will leave.
We live in a disposable society, me generation..Morals have gone down the toilet and lust is confused for love..No wonder there are so many divorces..Half the people who even bother to marry are only doing it based on the lust and attitude of oh well, I want the big wedding and if it doesnt work, I will leave.
I admire your attitude, and I am sure that for many, they think as you do, but I guess for me, I just believe that my commitment to someone is total, and no legal document would make any difference to the way I believe or behave.
Also for me, there is no such thing as "Living in sin" as I see nothing sinful in showing my love and devotion to someone I live with, if we were not in love with each other I would not be living with them in the first place.Although if I followed a religion maybe I would think differently.
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Ccincy:
Is the 5 yr contract simliar to a lease agreemenet ot something?When the lease ends your choice is to renew or not to renew.
Is the 5 yr contract simliar to a lease agreemenet ot something?When the lease ends your choice is to renew or not to renew.
OR.....a Year Lease with 2 options to extend it and finally an Option to own it (ok, a full flagged real marriage), maintenance included.
Some Pre-Nap's are not that much different.
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zoranova: OR.....a Year Lease with 2 options to extend it and finally an Option to own it (ok, a full flagged real marriage), maintenance included.
Some Pre-Nap's are not that much different.
Some Pre-Nap's are not that much different.
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Bodecia: Curling? Im not Canadian quite yet! Although I can see it from my seat now!
Thank you, A. Always a pleasure.
Thank you, A. Always a pleasure.
If I stand on our highest hills, I can almost see across the prairies to Canada, B.
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Bodecia: To me, marriage is marriage. A commitment.
I will stay married for as long as I am happy, and my partner is happy. Which hopefully, will be for a long time.
No Contract, traditional or otherwise would change that.
I will stay married for as long as I am happy, and my partner is happy. Which hopefully, will be for a long time.
No Contract, traditional or otherwise would change that.
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Choose between a traditional marriage (death do you part) or a five year renewable contract.(Vote Below)
If they chose a renewable contract, at the end of the contract they gained assests would be divided equally and both parties would be equally financial responsible forthe welfare if any children