Correct, JJ. I agree you certainly seem to know when a candidate for the right one rolls into our lives. Compare this with all the thousands we know right off don't seem to fit. But I say candidate because once a relationship begins, we often find things in the other that don't auger well for the long term. Of course it's a balance here, and requires judgment, and lots of luck, and perhaps input from family and friends. Better to remain open and observant, but patient. Good luck. Aa.
Yes, indeedie. Just as there seem to be a few people who enjoy, or are even draw to, arguments, there are those who stumble into the same, which they should really avoid at all costs. Perhaps the latter think that they contribute to an increase in knowledge in our world, but all they really do is to keep the first group in stitches. Hohoho. Aa.
Did it with twin's mom for a good while. We knew we weren't an item any more, but she was in school and needed a place to stay till finished. At the time, I had no tomato in my life, and wasn't looking, so it just seemed like the right thing to have done. Still friends. When kids are involved, BTW, sometimes we do things a little differently. Now that the girls are older, they seem to appreciate that we (mom and dad) were both trying to manage as best as we could for the good of all. But definitely separate rooms for sleeping. Aa.
Personally, funerals, and anything to do with them, notably unctuous undertakers, leave me cold. In a number of places I've lived in the world, the approach is different. The best was in New Orleans, otherwise a way over rated and thankfully sinking city. With many cultures there, a death is party time. Sure, there's a religious service, and sometimes a solemn wake. But mostly folks get together and drink, eat and dance, in remembrance. You've probably seen the funeral marches, at first with all the musicians playing slow and sad tunes. But the closer one gets to the Crewe dance hall, the livelier gets the music. And wills are for dummies, who like to have beneficiaries pay taxes, and have the world sniff into ones business during the costly and tedious probate process. Check out trusts. Aa.
LS, KN hits many of the points your post has me thinking about. All the talk about positive energy and the universe to the contrary, it sounds like you are jealously driven to capture a husband, and a wealthy one at that. It sounds almost like if you fail to do so your life will be a failure. One wonders how this got to be so pronounced in you---culture, family, economic situation, personality? I would only hint at the main tenet of Buddhism, with which you may be familiar. Namely, our misery comes from wanting to possess things in life. Wanting to possess things so much, that it makes us jealous to see when others, even friends, have these things. It might help to look into your own heart on all this. Best of luck. D.
When I used to run AA groups in prison environments, talking with the inmates, it was always striking how no one there was guilty--it was always someone else's fault. R.
Perhaps "a Girl', or better "Doos", two nifty monikers bestowed on me by female posters, apparently both unhappy with my post on CS at the time, and apparently not able to respond otherwise. Tough not to be in control of our emotions. Girlie-Doos.
Thanks, Leony. I'm thinking of hanging up all the other many caps, and writing both fiction, and so called creative non-fiction (formerly called literary journalism) as my primary work. But sloth, fears, and fun distractions ain't helping in the transition. I'm also noticing that being older seems to have various effects, perhaps both good and not so good. And not having to worry about my next meal enters into the mix. R.
No need to wait for a Trump win. A friend in government informs that the USA already has a program to provide helpful input on potentially unsuitable visa applicants. I'm checking onto similar programs elsewhere.
Such a wise comment, avias. If we could all learn to ignore more about us, and focus more on the world's wonders, I bet there would be less trouble in the world. Of course, sometimes an attack calls for a response. But usually only silly pride is involved.
Agreed, namaron, from a fella born just down the pike and toward the cape. I would only add that, as with real life correctional facilities, many inmates, perhaps most, have severe mental health challenges as their major issue. Of course, many are merely misunderstood.
Dear fellow bloggers, the above display of anger is the response to my deciding not to delete several blogs, also appearing above. I thought originally that deleting might be preferable, but on consideration of this bloggers other posts, and evolving emails, said I didn't like censuring, but that perhaps in time, after readers had time to enjoy posts, that I might delete some of them, based on requests. It appears the requester to delete may have talked others into doing so. Readers can judge for themselves from my other posts how appropriate this interesting graphic response is. Those with training and work experience in mental health will have particular understanding. I was going to write this poster some helpful suggestions to try to be careful what is posted on the front end, rather than later asking people to help by deleting these. But in spite of long ongoing email exchanges here, mostly involving issues of ortho and complementary/alternative health, ceteris paribus, which over time tended to deteriorate in several ways, the blogger blocked me. Re ipsa loquitur.
Love has to be, and is, strong enough to overcome the relentless progression of both biological and cognitive aging. Things sag, shrink or frustratinly tend to dry up. Snoring increases, as do gases of all sorts. Memory fades, as does stamina. Yes, love must be strong alright. D.
Love has to be, and is, strong enough to overcome the relentless progression of both biological and cognitive aging. Things sag, shrink or frustratinly tend to dry up. Snoring increases, as do gases of all sorts. Memory fades, as does stamina. Yes, love must be strong alright. D.
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RE: The truth about meeting someone at the wrong time
Correct, JJ. I agree you certainly seem to know when a candidate for the right one rolls into our lives. Compare this with all the thousands we know right off don't seem to fit. But I say candidate because once a relationship begins, we often find things in the other that don't auger well for the long term. Of course it's a balance here, and requires judgment, and lots of luck, and perhaps input from family and friends. Better to remain open and observant, but patient. Good luck. Aa.