My good friend, Min, there you go my friend. You're being alone, seems showered with no encumberance on someone's ways of life then?
Perhaps, it is better to be just alone? Maybe? I am not really discrediting the fact that there are more blessings, and more thrills and excitement on being with someone my friend, and decidedly so that I will be on this relationship for a very long time if I can. It is just that the shadow of doubts come lurking like a dark and sinister weather and when that happens, then I will take cover, all alone.. then again, he can cover me up and protect me in his arms. Yes he snores, too, but well...
Love you my friend..and good night. Do write the book later..
KN, my one and only reason, right now, why I don't jump to any offer, as I had so many in the previous 6 years that I have been single, is because of me. Nothing to do with him and or the marriage itself. If we will constitute separation anyways as a possibility as confirmed on Wikipedia, that Marriage end up in divorce, 50 percent, this is one heck of a scary statistics to me.
So sans contract, he is happy, I am happy, at the moment, then when troubles begin and out the door we go, why get married.
Yes to me on this one Calleis. It is not a wham bam affair, as it is a very well thought of event like you said.
In the absence of such a contract, I feel, still the effect on the course of the relationship remains the same. Why would my value diminish just because there is no binding legal papers to carry it with?
I am the same, I will remain so within that relationship married or not..
Thanks Calleis. Right now, I am more cautious and more independently inclined and I believe this builds up even a more careful conduct, just my opinion..
Love grows whether married or not just as love dies married or not.
It isn't the power of the paper that directs the conduct of two in a committed relationship. My rules on honesty and openness don't change just because I am not a marriage material.
Ken my question stands the same. Perhaps, only a question to those who had been divorce, because it is very obvious that those who are not, are in fact happy and remain so. There are more record of divorces than those that remain married and never divorce, in my humble opinion..
Ms KN, the product of the commercialized and very narcissistic century. I do feel you. I am so impressed at the colossal effect of people's earned wealth that they do served best in their eventual separation, all that has been acquired prior to the nuptial.
Unheard of prior to the beginning of this century, it is perhaps one of the strongest reasons why people do dive into it, considering all their assets are not at disadvantage and work both ways. The case of the late Anna Nicole Smith is one such a sensational story that scoped the world as to what marriage is without the power of money, between a very young woman to someone who is old enough to be a great grand dad.
Ken, I have not touched any premise, stating that billions of you who got married, are you happier and therefore don't divorce? Not at all Ken. In fact if anything, it is a question answered by anyone, married or not, because what makes you assume that they are happy to begin with? Now that doesn't mean that there are many whose foundation of their reasons, has not diminish at all.
The truth is, according to Google, there are more divorces today than there ever was. Specially in the first and second world.
Nighty, I am inclined to believe that fulfillment ratio might be a factor, but that is me. I would not changed the fact that I got married specially in the account of my children. But now, it doesn't seem needed, for me more than anything else. However, my fiancee, does want to get married, and we both know when the finality will make it in time, I just might.
Bhadra, are you telling me, that all the elements of being physical, emotional and spiritual are less in a manner and degree just because there is no contract?
I am more disagreeing on this but I will let other say what they think.
I think cultural is one thing, but being in the physical aspect, would it make me less?
Two things Love, first you've never been in the deal but of course, the very fact that a long and short term as well gone consumed without the contract, meaning perhaps its just the symbol?
But you mentioned on the "desirability" due to your age? Meaning, does the sound become more conducive to stability maybe?
Thanks my dear Z. I think there is the initial thrill of looking at the finger and the symbol is proudly displayed. Yet I don't for one second would prefix a better function..
My Ms Jones, I am sorry to hear about that long term disappointment you had. But I can't really complain on mine which lasted 28 years, but looking at how it was in the end, not that difficult as it was me that wanted out..
But knowing what I am capable and what makes me happy now, I wouldn't need to be tied up, again. But I am in a very volatile moment of will or not will to that question.
Thanks Ms. witch.
I will order a look alike of Kevin Costner comes your way..
I can imagine your jubilation James. So is it because of the euphoric feelings of being your wife that makes it so contemplatively spiritual? Or is more of a mental state of security?
Will not a better and easy exit if contract wasn't in the deal?
It's not you they don't trust most of the time Manny. IN my personal opinion, it is more of the mistrust of the giver than the receiver. Myself right now in this relationship is the one that is lolly gagging on whether I trust myself to understand the consequences of all the possibilities of bad stuff to occur.
Velsix, thank you for your valued comment. I imagine, you both were young and had to commit to the procreation project. I do understand that. But I am talking about an age, where our independence is affected to our disadvantage on such a call.
I do feel that if there is so much love and so much pride in being called the Mr. And Mrs. impact, can perhaps cause me to say yes,.
Z my friend, I was born Catholic and being in the culture, it is a built in mores and values that can't be altered. No divorce in my birth country. But having become a US citizen and part of the most popular culture of marriage then divorce, marriage then divorce, it is like nothing.
But yes, I don't get it either. I made a commitment that I will not get married again, ever. Besides changing my name just isn't easy. So thanks my friend.
Yes I probably can my friend but a little uneasy, and not want to upset me but I feel how uncomfortable the tone becomes when I mention it.
Honestly that is the one thing I miss so much. When I was with my ex of 28 years, that is one thing he never questioned and or having any issues with. He worked of course and hate flying but went with me at least twice a year going anywhere I fancied.
Would have been in Australia and New Zealand and Ireland this year, but looks like on hold..
Philippines is cancelled because of the the heat in politics but I am hoping, yes we will do it together.
I am having a break from my school and I am passing time reading and blogging.
KN my beautiful friend, what I notice most that stands out very prominently is the fact that when we are together there is so much to talk about and it makes time fly and boredom is never in the horizon.
But I do miss my being so alone, and my travel all to my own.
He is still working and that is the conflict, but eventually we will be able to adjust as we are planning on going places.
I am a very difficult person to change and that is the problem KN.
But once I am settled, then I am easy to get along the way.
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In a relationship, does marriage make any better?
Hmm yes, he does believe in marriage. Salamat kaibigan