Well, doesn't your son's dad need to see his father? Can't he just take his son with him when he spends time with him so you can have your own time too? What are the details?
And that is what happens. Love is like a garden. You have to tend to the needs of the soil and seeds so that you may with love and care produce a beautiful garden. Once the plants start to break through the soil it needs the right amount of water and sunshine. You can not produce nor keep a garden alive...like love the garden will not stay alive very long without the right nourishment, love and care.
They also say love is blind, but after years of neglect, the eyes open and the love dies.
Also in a divorce, some people don't want to just break it off properly, maturely, fairly, and justly. They rather drag you through the mud, kicking and creaming, even after wasting your love, time, and energy. They have no real consideration for the children in the middle, they care more about how deep and how hard they can get back at you.
But I believe in Karma and in the end, we all get what's coming to us based on our actions. When you try to destroy someone you really end up destroying yourself. So, just hang in there, justice takes care of it's self in it's own time.
As time passes, Karma does it's work, and the black cloud is removed and the rainbow starts to shine through, you too, will also meet someone better, more deserving of your love and care.
I think tina_olson is correct. You have to tell her exactly how you feel, even if it means loosing her, because like tina_olson wrote, you need to move on. You can't care about someone that much and not get it in return, unless, you can live with it that way, but it seems, from your writing, that you can't.
Reminds me of the Christian who prays all day long, and waits for God to give me a job and tell him what his mission in life is. He waits and waits because he is also waiting for God to give him the motivation and the action.
There is a saying that goes something like this; "God directs a moving object, not one that is standing still."
Some times we make the wrong choice and life starts going in a direction we don't want or like. Put another way, we make our own bed then complain that we have to sleep in it.
What is done is done, face what has happened, accept it, stop complaining and work toward correcting it with love. In the end everyone involved will be much happier once the dust settles and the storm has passed. The sooner you deal with your mistakes and correct them, the sooner you may get another chance.
Then there may be more than one chance, make sure you think the next choice through carefully so that you can make the proper choice. Just make sure you don't think your next chance will be your last and only choice, lest you make and repeat the same mistake.
Then you will not feel like you missed another chance because you made the wrong choice.
I do believe everything that happens is for a reason, we just don't understand why. Allot of what happens is beyond our understanding most of the time.
RayMonster wrote "I am still young, and I don't speak with much experience under my belt, but I would have to say that getting dating advice from other people is usually a very bad idea. Even if they give you honest advice with good intentions, it could still end up being bad advice for you. I think the reason is because everyone is different, and everyone has different experiences and expectations. For years I've tried getting advice off the internet or from friends, and I found that it usually did more harm than good. The only way to really learn about girls is to just get out there and live life. Experiment, try new things, and you will learn your own lessons along the way."
I just had to comment, that is some really good advice for a young guy!!
I agree with DEEBROWN. You have had 6 dates, that's more than many men here have had. Some of us, like me, can't date at all. So, I would say, that if you keep dating at this rate, you may find the right one in a few months. At the rate your going, statistically the chances of running into someone with real compatibility is more likely to happen. Your in the major leagues and your on the field and batting all the time, whasssup?
Can you be more specific? What makes you feel honesty is not getting you anywhere? What are you being honest about that you think women do not find interesting? Are you sure it's not something else? For example: I own a shed full of explosives and firearms. If you don't tell them they are all dummy firearms and explosives for the movie industry of which may be your line of work, that kind of honesty will get you nowhere.
This is also similar to the "It's" vs. "Its" situation. "You're" is a contraction of the words "You" and "are". If you can substitute "You are", then you can use "You're".
Example: "You're on the way to the mall." Replace "You're" with "You are", the sentence still makes sense.
"Your" is a possessive pronoun and indicates possession of something.
Example: "This is your sandwich." In this case, "your" indicates that the sandwich belongs to you.
A common misspelling is "Your welcome." The correct spelling is "You're welcome."
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RE: bill blog
I am no expert on women, but, I don't think your username with PLAYER in it will help your cause.I know that is a really bad word in this site!