There is nothing wrong with thinking those types of thoughts. It's natural and part of the spiritual growth process. Try picking up some books on that subject so you can get some ideas and form your own opinion.
"How can this happen if the before marriage seems so perfect? How to deal with this dilema?"
I am convinced you need to find a true and best friend that you have strong chemistry with. Avoid intimacy until the friendship is built solid with full transparency. Then move into the intimacy stage, you'll end up with a friend for life that understands you, and who's hot in the sack!! I can't help but think, this the perfect combination for a perfect bond that can last a life time.
melodyy, of course your right! Sorry grayeye! My first intention is always to be good, but sometimes I just fail miserably!! I think I am reading too many blogs..I should cut down on my blog reading for this month!!
I can only see counseling as the only way. You need an objective professional that both of you can communicate with, that will solve your dilemma!
I am going through the very same thing, but I am 100,000,000,000,000% sure and growing. I also have all my strength! So I am like a commuter, just waiting for the bus to show up!
This is so true on so many levels, not just in love of others, but ourselves, at work on a business level and all our friendships. There is always an element of risk that we must take! By Avoiding those risks that carry the possibility of pain, in love, friendship, and business, you forfeit your internal growth.
We also can not isolate our children from pain as well. Some people try, when the child becomes an adult and starts experiencing the harshness of life, they can not cope and go back to the parents for continued support, when they should be standing on their own two feet.
Unfortunately, many of us have endured allot of unnecessary pain inflicted upon us by others that have given us the strengths that we have today!!
I also like what you posted once in a forum and it applies so well to this blog, "what ever doesn't break you makes you stronger!" If I may also add, the stronger you become the more properly calculated pain(risk) you can endure and the more you can grow.
Excellent blog and subject matter, thanks for sharing!!
Are we giving up yet again? I wish you could walk in my shoes for at least one week!! Then you would realize how ridiculous this repeating blog post is.
RE: Any young down to earth, sensitive, sweet romantic
Mr how1e, it's Agony Aunt's turn today!!!