Write down a list of character traits as you move about surf and learn use this site. For example: If someone says they are going to be somewhere online or offline and are not there on a consistent basis they are not reliable and most likely busy doing other things...move on.
I think your overly critical. Most adults have a hard time with the English language. It's horrible to spell and most of us are just not grammatical connoisseurs like you. I use Mozilla Firefox with the speller checker and even that does not(now I am afraid to use doesn't) catch all my mistakes. I know the difference between they're, their and there but it still gets me every time... I think phonetics should take over the English written(did I get this one write? joke!(right) language and it should be rewritten(how about this one?), it needs a serious makeover.
I notice many people use shortcut style and that's fine by me. I guess some of us don't(how about this one?) care to over intellectualize life...it makes it boring.
It was stressful writing this post...Am I in school or a social site? Now, I wonder, did my speller checker catch everything?
You just figured one out, he says one thing, then he says another, creates one profile and then another. You have built-in intuition...don't ignore it. I did and let the other person waist 7 years of my life. Watch for signs, then take corrective action. Read all the forum and blog posts, most eventually show their true colors.
I think you have to really like kids for one and second the man has to be worth the effort, a good father and really compatible for you. Kids are allot of work and sometimes their phases they go threw can put a big strain on the relationship. Sometimes the other woman can be a real negative force also, so you may as well meet her and size her up right away.
I have seen extreme cases were, some divorced parents when exchanging their children have no consideration for their children's well being and spend allot of time using them to get back at the opposite parent. They also spend allot of time poisoning their children's minds about the opposition parent. These people have no business having children at all. Look for these extreme signs.
There is no doubt in my mind that communication is the most important aspect of any growing and therefore building a strong relationship. Second is honesty, what good is communication if they don't express themselves truthfully. Like telling you one thing while harboring jealousy and selfishness behind the message.
The worst kind of communication is made by those that just tell you what you want to hear just so they can spend time with you and be part of your life while having no real consideration for your family and children.
This is a quality that should absolutely be part of any relationship you want to grow and become meaningful.
Communication expresses your true self and you can only truly determine compatibility through honest communication. Those that do not really understand this are wasting someone's precious time.
zarena, your 1,000,000,000,000,000,000% on track with this one.
I was just curious, do you also grow your own food? I mean do you also have a vegetable garden? With all the poor quality, full of pesticides and genetically altered foods in today's large commercial supermarkets, it seems your on your way to organic and natural living.
Nena0308, excellent piece of literature, full of depth and very profound!
As a mature man, in spite of it all, I am strong as a rock, the harder I fall, the faster I get up, until I get it right, I am just a boy in God's playground, and always staying young at heart.
I think we all have gotten to this point at some time or another. Mine lasts about 5 minutes now. I already know that it's all a waist of all that time you have on your hands.
It's a good time to go to the gym, shopping, ballroom dancing, the library or bookstore to find a good book, and even start a new hobby. It's time to look around when you are going to these places and observe the beauty of all people, waiting on your at the cash register, cleaning the floors at the mall, serving you coffee at the local restaurant or coffee shop.
It's time for self growth, looking foreword to the future and expressing a genuine smile, there's nothing more attractive for the right person.
I can understand your fear. Just make sure when you meet these men, that you do it in a very public place like the middle of a busy mall. Also, when you park your car, make sure it's close to the building and in a very lighted area. Don't give out any information until you know them well enough and take a girl friend with you on the second or third meeting. Cary something you can protect yourself with in your pocket books such as hot pepper spray.
Sorry, I don't mean to alarm you, I have seen too many horror stories on the TV news and documentaries. God bless!
I couldn't have written it better than virgiomonkey did, he says it all. A relationship that starts with a lie starts to rot from the inside out anyway. You chose to be sincere, honest and like virgiomonkey wrote, life is hard and sometimes you just have to grow up and look at the bigger picture. Your the adult here without fault and Jason still has allot of growing up to do and you can't do that for him.
claire3454 makes a very good point, and so does JoAnn62.
I had an unforgettable vivid dream at the age of 16 that was also the beginning of my own personal spiritual journey.
I dreamed that I was sitting on a thick brick wall, on the high school grounds(a real location), kissing a young girl for the first time. It was like watching a video of my self that someone took with a camcorder.
At approximately one month later...it actually happened as I meet my first love in high school and when I kissed her, I remembered the dream and it was the most amazing sense of deja vu I had experienced at that time.
First, do you have any of your own dream symbols figured out yet? We all have our own..and may be completely different one from the other, that is why in my opinion dream interpretation books are worthless. I can only offer some possible interpretation based on my own symbols...again may be completely different.
Driving a vehicle may mean your daily travels in your waking life..like going from here to there..work..home etc...hence driving a car. Since you ran into a woman that was also trying to drive somewhere but was unable too, for some reason, she could be having some problems that she is dealing with in her daily life.
You both meet and she tries to start her car and succeeds. It could mean that you will influence a woman's daily life in a positive way by allowing her to go on with her life as she may be stuck in a rut or something.
This may be a real person that you may encounter in the future and help get her life back on track and the clues that you have is
"dark haired lovely young lady in perhaps her early thirties. I did not recognize her, but perhaps she had some Italian ancestry."
and the number 6 has allot of significance. I suggest you write the dream down very clearly so that you may learn your dream symbols and in time...you will know things before they happen.as your dreams will tell you if you pay attention to them..as they have to me..
I guess it serves me right even trying to stick up for other women at 3AM by posting a response to JOE CASANOVA'S "Why I prefer European women." I can't even respond to that twisted interpretation of my original post.
I would have to say YES and NO. I have done just that and 7 years later I finally had to wake up and just face the fact that the person I meet over seas was never the person they portrayed themselves to be.
You wrote: "I'd have to take a vacation, just to meet with some of the people that have sent me messages."
That's it, you would have to visit that person and I suggest they visit you, if they can, most can not. You would have to visit them several times before their true colors start to show and I would take several years just to make sure. Most people don't want to put in that effort, we live in a quick pill society, the quick fix.
I know many very happy people who have meet people on the net that lived halfway around the world and are happily married for many years so it's not impossible, they must have meet someone that portrayed themselves to be the way they really are and they got what they wished for.
So, it's up to you, are you up for several vacations? What is good about the Internet is the entire world is open to you and it's up to you to decide how much your going to limit yourself by how far your willing to go for Mr. right.
In spite of the fact that I have gotten burned once, I am a hopeless romantic, a warrior at heart and I would still travel to the top of Mount Everest for my soul mate just to give her a flower from my back yard.
Try adding some photos to your profile, most people want some idea who they would be chatting or corresponding with, looks is not everything, but most people need something to work with. Most people ignore profiles with no pics and I am starting to do the same thing, it shows lack of effort.
i am frustrated with the older people on this site. "
It saddens me that you must deal with the immature elderly in this manner, they should know better. Just ignore them, they are not worth your time. There are plenty of older men, like myself, that admire your courage and strength for overcoming all those obstacles and becoming a much more mature women that your age.
Keep being upbeat, positive, and don't give up, he right one will see you for who you really are. God Bless!
jesse1955, just wanted to drop you a few lines to let you know that some one read your touching story. Thanks for sharing. Music has no color and race and I am so glad people are starting to grow up and see the beauty in all races and colors for we all make beautiful music. It's also nice to read a history clip from the past and get an idea what it was like to grow up during those times.
Your soul is vibrating and making beautiful music through your words.
No one is alone, God is with us always and his angels walk about unseen all around us. Try thinking in reverse, you are not alone, but with someone that is compatible and you compliment each other in every way. Try this long enough and watch what happens. Just like we do not forsake our children nor does God forsake us. We forsake ourselves by thinking and attracting the opposite of what we want.
When your in love and blind to the signs and wake up from the dream realizing the lies and deception all you can do is learn from it. Don't spend another moment suffering or burning emotional energy, let it go, let karma(laws of cause and effect) take it's course for they will get what they are due in God's own time. Now you are more educated and have some discernment and will see things clearer and when you get that feeling again, step back and look at the signs. Just don't let other men pay for someone else's lies and deceit.
Sandra102, I think you hit it right on. It's the maturity level. A mature person is more secure with themselves and more apt to avoid jealousy and selfishness, the two biggest problems, I think, within any relationship. The mature younger person will most importantly listen to the older person's wisdom and experience.
Even more so when children are involved, the immature younger person will be jealous of the older person's child even though they repeatedly said they would accept them and love them as their own.
Now add culture and long distance such as another country... recipe for disaster..
Just keep expressing the nice guy within and think positive and they'll find you. It's hard for them to weed through the players, as it's also hard for us to weed through the ladies that just tell us what we want to hear instead of the truth.
I too also remain optimistic and hopeful for the very same reasons. He does have a very big mess to deal with and clean-up. He is up against business as usual and the mighty greedy. It's going to take awhile and I agree he is making a very good effort.
"I feel something that I haven’t felt for a chief of state in a very long time. Trust"
I see something that I have not seen or felt for any politician for a very long time. When Obama speaks I see SINCERITY which is the precursor to TRUST.
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Write down a list of character traits as you move about surf and learn use this site. For example: If someone says they are going to be somewhere online or offline and are not there on a consistent basis they are not reliable and most likely busy doing other things...move on.