Ok - I'm going to come, I've made up my mind.....but in disguise....either as Mother Teresa, Barry Humphries, Robin Williams or wedward..........which is most scarey?
I didn't realise in 1972 when I had my first and last date with a Maltese girl that you only visited her house if you wished to marry her...........when I found out it was too late and I have been in hiding ever since.
It is far easier, and safer, to communicate with Maltese via the internet than in real life.
I agree with KT that the Maltese get everywhere; even when I worked across from the Houses of Parliament in Westminster there was a whole floor in the company that I worked who were affectionately called 'The Maltese Mafia'.
Mark my words, soon the EU will be called 'The United States of Malta'
I've been in Switzerland several times on 1st August and I like it; last time I was in Zermatt on 1st August and the time before I was staying in Wengen.
I won't be in Switzerland tomorrow, but maybe next year.......
It's very easy to say you forgive somebody, but unless you really mean it then it's a lie and a very hurtful lie.
I suppose revenge is a very human characteristic, and if a person has been hurt by a loved one they want the other person to know what it is like and how they have suffered. There is no love, for how can you love somebody and yet deliberately want to hurt them?
THE VERY WORST REVENGE IS TO SAY YOU FORGIVE WHEN YOU HAVE NOT
People do not really forgive each other because they want complete equality - 'You don't know how much you hurt me. What I did to you was nothing as to what you did to me' etc
How can we know another's hurt?
How can another person know our own grief?
The act of forgiveness means letting go of these feelings of resentment towards another person, and doing one's best never to bring up again what you have forgiven that person for. It's very hard - almost impossible!
Retaliation is often a means of defence. If somebody attacks you about something they claim to have forgiven you for, then the memories come flooding back and it is hard not to be defensive.
It takes a special human being - male or female - to really forgive and allow trust to rebuild itself in a damaged relationship. Where there is real love this may be possible, but when trust has been broken it is a fence that can never be mended with mere words!
Real forgiveness requires very hard work - more work than many of us are prepared to put into a broken fence......... it's all very sad.
A fate worse than death! It's very sad when things don't work out, but it's sensible not to flog a dead horse - time is a great healer and it's good if you can become friends with an ex......this takes time - normally several decades!
You know how people say 'If I knew now I'd change things, I'd love to have my life over again' etc - I don't think so! Life can be a very painful process, but I'd not exchange all the suffering to go back to a less meaningful life.
Suffering is meaningless unless we can evolve and change into something better......... I kept making the same mistakes and it made me truly miserable, but then something changed and life is really wonderful.
Good post Lisa.........it's quite a burden for a man to support more than one family - only very poor men (who don't pay maintenance) or very rich men can afford the consequences of divorce when there are children involved and the children stay with the mother.
For most responsible people with children the economic cost of divorce is very high in financial terms over many years; a relationship that should have been symbiotic has become destructive to all concerned.
Many women with children will get the family home as part of the divorce settlement and the man will move from a 'normal' house to some crappy bedsit or worse. He's not exactly going to be a particularly attractive 'package' to a beautiful young woman who'd wish to meet an unsullied knight in shining armour!
I guess I'm lucky now that both my sons (from my first two marriages) have now grown up and I don't have to financially support three or even four households.
I was once asked what my totem pole would look like.........and I imagined it being part cheetah (a fairly swift land animal), part eagle and part albatross..........I think I'd morph from one to the other in a continuous cycle.
The cheetah would be when I come to earth and do things with boundless energy, the eagle would give me wisdom and strength to know my real worth (as well as see potential enemies I might have to fight in the future) and the albatross would allow me my own space and sanctuary for when I needed to go into a mental wilderness to purify myself............the albatross would also be indicative of my desire to be monogamous and worthy of true love.
My ideal partner's totem pole would be made up of?.............. I am not saying!
Did you know that a few hundred kilometres of desert could produce enough solar power for all the needs of western europe (24/7) as the solar energy can also be stored?
Anyway, I have not answered the question - I think I'd like to shape shift into the guy I think I see in the mirror.......... it would be fun to be made up of photons and be a silent but sparkling witness to life. Hmmm....... I'd like to be some pure energy creative life force that could make things happen purely through will power and zero physical effort - a dynamic dreamer!
The past is dead - it's history, but I wouldn't mind being a 'born again virgin'.......... then I could fall in love for the first and last time and live happily ever after and my armour or amour would never have got rusty!
~sniff~
Ok - I'd like to have lived in the garden of Eden, free from all disease and having everything I needed by plucking thingies off trees; however this time when God tells me that a woman is worth at least an arm or a leg I'll not be a smartass like Adam and say:
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Ryans Bar, 2nd August...........
YOU HAVE BEEN WARNED!DO NOT GO TO RYANS BAR IN ST JULIANS'S FROM 8 P.M. ON THURSDAY THE 2ND AUGUST 2006
RYANS BAR IS TOO GOOD FOR YOU!
PROVE IT BY STAYING HOME AND WATCHING TV OR TYPING SAD THREADS ON YOUR PC ABOUT 'HOW I'D LIKE TO MEET THE GIRL/WOMAN/MAN/BOY OF MY DREAMS'!