symbolistartist Forum Posts (761)

RE: What defines us in a relationship?

Yep, we are all learning and as far as I'm concerned I rather learn properly within a relationship than on my own in relation to my cats But seriously; it's a VERY tricky balance and does require efforts and committment from both. So that's the sort of partner to look for in the first place IMHO...

RE: What defines us in a relationship?

Thank you! :hug
Phoenix: that is certainly one of the drawbacks of threads and sometimes an incredible waste of time. But I found this one wasn't. So go for it!

RE: What defines us in a relationship?

I certainly have become quite uncompromising in some of my "requirements" because I know what defines me and so I have some incling as to what would define me in a good relationship as well - am certainly open to life's surprises since we cannot control everything, but we can direct our intentions in a certain direction and IMO that's a very important thing to do. The goal should certainly be a well balanced relationship that is secure enough to give you the space and time to pursue your own things while at the same time the time that is being shared is real quality time with lots of interest, love and concern for the other. In short, this can only happen if both are secure with themselves and know who they are and what they want. So some people who break up do need a few years to find that out first.

RE: If you had a chance to change something in your personality, what would it be?

Goodness, THAT is why I run when I hear the word "catholic"!

There's always something to improve. Some things I accept because I know they come out of being a highly sensitive person (hsp as defined by Eileen Aaron in case anyone is interested) plus having some health issues. But they are no excuse. So I think if I learned not to feel so easily hurt when people are being mean I'd be much more at peace and that would be like ripples on the water... I'm sure people who are close to me would enjoy that too!

RE: What defines us in a relationship?

This is a good question Venere08. I think that today, the majority of people come from backgrounds that were more or less dysfunctional. It means they attract similar people later on or behave abnormally themselves. By abnormally I mean excessive control and other extreme emotions. It's really like a pandemic because it takes years to fix such patterns and in my own life I have found that every man I lived with had really deep ingrained pathologies that there were neither willing nor able to change. I saw the whole constellation I was repeatedly in and simply decided that it mustn't happen again. I have worked hard to fix my own issues and see them for what they are, so I am hoping that it's time for change. So on top of all my other "requirements" I hope to find someone who has had a relatively sane childhood yet is able to somehow understand what I've been through. Not so much because I want to dwell on the past but it does after all define me to a large extent.

With my ex, my self-esteem was being systematically undermined and it has been hard not only to resist it but also to fix the damage that was being made. Still I have no real regrets because I did learn a lot about life and how people communicate. If nothing else it helps me in paying attention to warning signs.

In short; many of us go through the first part of life in agony, but if we can learn from our mistakes there is hope that the latter part will be much more balanced.

Artist desperately seeking EU men with intellect and heart!

I kept writing friends instead of frames. I meant white frames.

Artist desperately seeking EU men with intellect and heart!

Thank you again for your interest! I'll try and be as brief as I can (not easy) for those who want to read this but have attention deficit... (which I have too so I can understand it).

I had the good fortune to be chosen to exhibit in an orchard (where you buy plants) in quite a spectacular building with a fellow artist from my town - me in the café and she in the restaurant. Like I said, opportunities just arise, very often with little work from my side. Right now I don't have the means to do put too much energy into these things. This is the time people buy plants and sit inside because it's still so cold so it's a good place. In a year's time I will have one in the well reputed café of the Academic Bookstore in Helsinki, all they ask is that I leave them one piece. So for me right now it's a matter of showing my art without enormous expenses.

This leads me to the frames; for now I have to rely on Ikea frames, some of which I paint myself, thus the look... the ones in the photo certainly do look old fashioned which is in keeping with the atmosphere of the collages. In Sweden a guy once complained about black friends, I thought it was hilarious how intent he was on the "blonde look". Some of my frames are in gold.

Apparently the café hasn't quite opened yet so I've only heard what my acquaintance who wrote in the newspaper thought, as well as my dad and his friends. As an artist you rarely get feedback straight on. In this respect the internet can be helpful but most people are just shy.

The Emancipation of Eve, lol, well an outcome of a rather tortuous winter. The landscape is what I saw one day on the beach. The dinosaur on the beach actually represent certain people who were causing me heartache. From which I had to get loose.

The other collage is "Can't Buy Me Love", a suggestion for a Valentine's card meant to be printed in London. But they cose my other option, Other than Chocolate.

I look for images all the time since they have to be copyright free. Luckily I there were many books for sale years ago when I was still living in Helsinki and doing découpage, a form of crafts.

My camera is not good enough for dark weather conditions. So most of my winter's photos are just trash. They have too much noise which then if you try and reduce it the picture ends up looking like melting ice cream. You can see that when you enlarge them.

Maybe enough for now?

Artist desperately seeking EU men with intellect and heart!

Hm, possibly... depends!

RE: i bet none of you know who you really are ? the purpose for being on planet earth and the mystery's

This guy's rather blunt comments today is a good example of the way some cosmic events can effect us. Unless he's always that way of course and just pretending to be nice every once in a while. I guess we shall never know.

Artist desperately seeking EU men with intellect and heart!

Here's to Gilly who finds more interest in other people than many others do! But you know it's all your fault of course...

RE: i bet none of you know who you really are ? the purpose for being on planet earth and the mystery's

I have intuitions but right now seems to be a bad time to disclose any personal insight into these things. Seems there are some major cosmic events going on that are affecting us all.

Artist desperately seeking EU men with intellect and heart!

I don't read long boring posts either but if someone doesn't catch onto what I write then it's their loss, not mine.

Artist desperately seeking EU men with intellect and heart!

Please, that was NOT very nice. I am who I am and if it doesn't work for someone, then they should just shut up and let it be, that would be the wise thing to do.

Artist desperately seeking EU men with intellect and heart!

Please, that was NOT very nice. I am who I am and if it doesn't work for someone, then they should just shut up and let it be, that would be the wise thing to do.

Artist desperately seeking EU men with intellect and heart!

I took a look at the beginning of this thread and realized there were a lot of questions that I had missed and certainly a lot of comments I could have made, but I obviously felt totally overwhelmed! Actually it does take time to learn to navigate a new site and understand the particular atmosphere. Yes it takes TIME and ENERGY. You also don't know how safe it is to disclose things about yourself. Well anyway, whatever I've missed I don't mind talking about again.

It's funny that people would dismiss the artist part of me; I think anyone who knows anything about art knows that being an artist is a lifestyle and reflects who you are to a very high extent. So I certainly want to be appreciated as an artist within a relationship... there would be so much more to talk about and share. Seems that some guys don't care much about the sharing part and only want the female part but that's not the kind of friends or potential partners I'm looking for. Anyway, just a thought!

There was a very nice article about my current exhibition in the newspaper so I am getting nice exposure. For various reasons I can't go around offering my art to art galleries at the moment but funny enough other opportunities always arise. You asked how long it takes me to finish a piece, well about a couple of days. I don't know what you meant about the postcards; nowadays I have them made in England actually. There will also be a range printed through a company in London if only they would get going with it! We have a contract and I'm looking forward to it! We produced a Valentine's card but it was all made in a hurry and I wasn't too happy with the outcome. So I'm hoping to go there and talk to them in person soon, it might help! Anyway I do have plenty of postcards of my 2008 collages especially, so anyone who wants to buy them are free to contact me.

What did you mean by illustrator of artmovies? Did you mean like story board kind of things? I studied that in France but didn't really enjoy it much. I just want to put an idea or feeling to paper and that's it!

RE: OK Ladies Rough or Smooth?? - your ideal man

Well someone who takes me to fun and cool places is definitely my guy, no doubt about it. Sure the money is nice to have but the yuppie would probably bore me to death so that I'd fall asleep with my face in the gourmet dinner in that fancy restaurant... No, keep me awake and alive please!

Artist desperately seeking EU men with intellect and heart!

Oh hell those assignments can indeed be crazy! I have to admit I never really got on that well with my class mates at art school, they were all so much younger than me and it took a while for me to get a hang of the language. All in all the assignments were either conventional or just strange and pointless. Glad you're having fun though!

Thank you for enjoying my album!

Kansas, hm, well in a way it was interesting because it was a place I wouldn't normally have visited. In fact where I was life was quite normal, Lawrence has the big Kansas University which has produced some eminent scientists. The terrain was not flat in the Western corner, again quite normal. What intrigued me when I started to look closer (and here my companion was a good match because we explored places together and he lent me a good camera) were the artificial lakes with trees still standing. Since it was a very cold winter (for them, not for me LOL) I shot a series that I'm quite happy about and also got to show in a real photo gallery in January. The house and the train (what train?) were shot in Lawrence. The biggest problem with the city was that the university was declining and that it was too far from the ocean (well for me I mean).

All in all I was very curious about the American mentality, but sometimes when I tell an American that I they intrigue me they get angry about it and ask why, they don't meddle with the Europeans, LOL. Well exactly! Yeah I got a dose of American culture and mentality alright because my friend was very much into history and general knowledge, especially stuff to do with the US. I did miss Europe when I was there though, especially when considering that I might not return! So I am not going to go and live there but visiting again would be fun.

LOL where I live now is not paradise for me but it is for my cats! Sometimes I feel like staying on just for their sake, because they are so blissful. They have it all... Especially one of them loves to roam the forest so it would be hard to confine him. However I do need a more vibrant environment and more LIFE so I will eventually take off....it's bound to work out somehow.

Artist desperately seeking EU men with intellect and heart!

Thanks Gilly!
Yes... it's funny when you say that Amaryllis because it could so easily sound patronizing but it doesn't. People who are not very sensitive (and it means you feel bombarded by impulses all the time and get tired from it) really have no idea what it's like. There are days I can't deal with the overloads. But since I'm not stupid I try and learn about other people nonetheless...

RE: Your mood today ......

The Air That I Breathe by Kd Lang the infamous lesbian!

RE: Your mood today ......

I just got a load of CD's back from the States and was feeling pretty energized while listening to Maroon 5, All About Jane, had missed it, but nothing is available online in this country!

Compassion group

No wonder I'm on totally meaningless site writing posts with no other purpose than to imagine that I'm not alone in a big dark Finnish forest!! you must be right... I'm so lost I'm even giving credit to a man for being wise on a meaningless site... GOD WHAT'S WRONG WITH ME???

P.S. Wine tasting is not down my alley either... sorrrrrryyyy...

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Aaw thank you Phoenix, well I'm glad I listened to Jan who thought you might have a heart of sorts in there somewhere But I will write there only as long as no one complains about my wordiness! Hint: it gets awful lonely in the big Finnish forest here.

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By the way the problem with the compassion group has been solved so the word is free!

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Geez that sounds like hard work! No, Finnish aristocrats rarely go to Swiss boarding schools though it has been known. But I think they are the nouveau riche.

Artist desperately seeking EU men with intellect and heart!

Hm speaking for myself then I suppose... not very good at reading a man's mind I suppose... again I'm humbled....

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ok well it's clear that I must be in denial of the deeper layers of the symbolism of balls... I thought it had something to with oneness but I might be wrong... I seem to be stuck with this image of myself flying through the air to catch a ball while all these alpha males are watching I think I'm in denial of the woohoos about Swedish women partly because I'm not one and partly because the sight... hm well I'm not sure I really would want to see myself... so I'm humbled...

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Oh hun, I thought the compassion was what I was trying to get across here! Well I don't think any ball sport would suit me anyway.

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yeah... it's a big undertaking....

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Yes, Bodhisattvas are around until the last person has been relieved from suffering...

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Phoenix, it was mostly meant as a joke... I did Shaolin Kung Fu until my back got in the way. I do like a good punch though, so martial arts or tennis would have been better for me if it wasn't for my health.

Fallingman, as a wanna-be Bodhisattva (Buddha of compassion for those who aren't into the lingo) I must be prepared to take on ANYTHING!