symbolistartist Forum Posts (761)

RE: The reason why no one wanna date me

I don't know you so I can't say why. People seem awfully stuck on distance (I too live in remote corner of the Earth were there are hardly any people and the few there are don't chat you up in a natural way unless they had 10 pints first). But I can sympathize, seems I scare people... what can I do about that?

Artist desperately seeking EU men with intellect and heart!

Oh dear here I stand in the shame corner. Hm, lemmesee. From 1995-2000 I sold at least 100 pieces. People do like when they are handpainted altogether and the market was up plus I had a hell of a network going in Helsinki. In 2003 I got engulfed in relationship dramas and child rearing plus lost the ability to draw. Network gone, few exhibitions, not so many pieces made since then except for last year. People shy of collages, it seems. Market down. I really think it's been two collages and one mixed media drawing/painting, the latter which went for a ridiculous price.

RE: About time we have a tipsy people thread.

I could suggest a few people who write so badly that I think they must be tipsy when they are on here. As for me, too bad, just gave up drinking in order to welcome my non-drinking friend who decided to stay home. Haven't decided yet if that's reason enough to start having a glass sometimes or not. I do seem to be more humorous if I do but then it also seems as if I'm the only one who gets the point... Hm....? Needs serious consideration.

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Hello Gilly, very interesting questions actually, but have to get back to it all tomorrow. Meanwhile you can hear Utopia on my website (intro page), on my playlists or on youtube - however beware that it's not the live version, it really sucks. I really love music and wish I could produce anything other than some reasonably sounding singing, and I do think that it's close to the visual arts but obviously more abstract. Well, it's about another sense altogether.

Thank you Gangel for your sweet comment, sympathy has a way of helping because as humans we need to feel that we can share. Well I do anyway... however I seriously wonder if people like me can find anyone who'd be compatible enough.



Thank you Smoky, nice to see you here! I'm glad you're able to appreciate all this since it would be a bit silly to dwell on these things to deaf ears... At least people who are reasonably sensitive go through these things and maybe women in a different way than men a lot of the time. I guess I'm in the process of learning to deal with rejection but it sure has a way of making life seem so incredibly empty... I seriously think that's one of the hardest things to overcome... the void.

RE: Is it any wonder…

I meant to add that I used to think it was the anonymity of screen names and the solitude behind the computer that caused people to over react (I've been attacked a lot for having differing opinions) but I have also started to think that it's more a case of not getting in touch with such people in real life, or that the social setting IRL often filters out the really stinking comments.

RE: Is it any wonder…

Very good and perhaps a much needed reminder for many. Sure we all have a bad day at times but as Venere pointed out it is possible to find a sort of balance where people kind of keep each other in check when lines are being crossed. I was scared of these forums when I arrived, but for some reason I took it upon myself to see it as a social experiment in which to learn how to interact with a wide variety of people. I think I can say that I have indeed learned a thing or two in a short amount of time, though this site has that one annoying trait of lacking an edit button. To think for too long before you send something off simple doesn't work out in a vibrant environment, though I agree that a split second of reflection is a good thing.

I have to say though that I have avoided the international forums because of all the reasons stated above, and have found a certain comfortzone within the EU forum where people seem to get to know one another, get a bit of ironic joking, and basically show a certain amount of respect for each other. I did post something once about the difference in socializing between the US and Europe but no one cared to comment. I found that odd since it was an attempt to bring about some serious thinking about our expectations. It probably wasn't so well put in that context so I admit to being less of a saint than I'd like to be able to say that I am. However... before we start to unify the world we need to understand the differences.

I don't know, I'm not terribly convinced of the world as it is. It's a scary place to be. Simply asking what someone really meant before counter-attacking would already be a huge improvement. But it seems that many people don't care much about personal growth. The changes have to start with the individuals, though, wouldn't you say?

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Thanks Gilly you're very sweet.
The emotions came late in life but there's a lot going on in there, that's true, and I think it freaks people out.

Artist desperately seeking EU men with intellect and heart!

The article? Well I hardly remember, something about me wanting to add some beauty to the world which is somewhat lacking (I'm not sure where she had picked that up) and how my stuff has a definite character all my own. Then about the past and present meeting in a dialogue. I think that was about it, though lengthier.

Artist desperately seeking EU men with intellect and heart!

My mom loves what I do and my dad appreciates it. I always got support so I'm lucky in that respect. But if truth be told I kind of need that encouragment and often made friends because of my art. Yet another thing that I need to be able to share in a relationship but I suppose the idea of living with an artist is alluring at first but then gets scary for some unknown reason. Truthfully, I don't understand it. Guess it works better for male artists as women more often have it in them to be supportive and encouraging. Or...?

Artist desperately seeking EU men with intellect and heart!

Hello, well I'm lying down, sitting down, walking around, aimlessly and without anything else to do but pat my cats or watch some movie. So might as well write a few things here for now. Thanking you as always for trying to engage me in conversation despite the obvious interviewing character of this thread... again, whoever feels bored can go and sip some coffee in the coffee shop or something.

Well actually I was contacted by an artist acquaintance of mine through Facebook, she had been working at the orchard/stables and they had agreed to let her choose artists for the summer. So she likes my stuff and thus we are both in the same building though not in the same space. Because of money issues I can't paint each frame specifically to suit the environment, so I go for black and gold. I don't even have a way of getting to Ikea to get new ones. But yes, connecting plants with artwork is not a bad thing though the recession makes the market really bad for artwork. Consider that I sold almost everything I made in the 90s and about 2 pieces in this millenium.

Another acquaintance of mine then wrote about my show and she's a pro writer which means the article came out quite okay even though I wasn't interviewed. It was noticable enough.

As stated earlier I don't put a lot of effort into marketing my art, getting grants etc. So none of my artwork in any museum (but in the school of design there is one). The only piece that is in a museum is the amazing photo of me being born, taken by my mother and famous because she was the first woman to do that. LOL.

Yeah, I do take an interest in interior design but it comes and goes... when you don't have a great house and lots of cash it tends to undermine some of the interest. When I find a man who likes what I like I'm overjoyed, because it would be tough for me to have to make a lot of compromises on that level. Alas, these guys have chosen to be with someone else. As for architecture, well it's crappy over here too. I don't like Finnish taste much, it's too sterile for me. England is wonderful for its heritage but certainly not for it's modern stuff!

RE: Do you believe in past lifes?

Gee, to me it seems like you do want to argue and very much so. My first comment about believing or not believing in reincarnation was lighthearted. I also did not suggest that YOU are narrow-minded, but you chose to see it that way and counter-attack. I was only trying not to be long-winded since some people have complained about me being just that, and simply made a point about the way many people think. Which in short is that people tend to generalize that "all" people who claim to be psychic must be wrong or that "all" who believe in reincarnation base it on regression therapy. If you don't personally outrule other options that's great, from where I stand that's a good thing but then that would be a personal statement so let's just leave it at that. Btw I don't intend to continue this discussion.

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I should maybe add that everyone's support has been highly valued and helpful and I don't intend to leave entirely. Maybe just quit looking for anyone.

RE: IF YOU COULD LIVE YOUR LIFE ALL OVER AGAIN WOULD YOU CHOOSE TO COME BACK AS THE SAME PERSON IS SO Y

Oh geez, a moral story if any... What's wrong with people? I'm not sure I get the whole thing but fact remains, team work is probably not on the "to do" list in modern times.

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I honestly think I'll pass today. Sorry.

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Thank you, appreciated. Don't have much to say in any sense now.

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Now that was a funny question but I probably could remember them... as I have watched very few films lately. Have a nice time!
(Oh and the comment about complaining about bores was not directed to you)

RE: Opinion wanted

And where was this advice??? Do you have a thing against women whining over men rather than the other way around?

RE: Opinion wanted

Where were you today when I needed this advice?

RE: Hear me whine....

Well I feel pretty much the same way and I have certainly been bashed for saying so. Distance, friendship only... the most common excuses but then there's more when you dig deeper. Envy, intimidation, confusion, unwillingness to grow. Oh well.

RE: WHO'S THE GREATEST ARTISTS WRITERS ACTORS/ACTRESES FIlM DIRECTERS PRODUCERS THAT EVER LIVED & WHY ?

Goodness. Truth is I really suck at "favourite things" just as "favourit colour" or "favourite flower" and so on....

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My opinion too. But I don't complain about it. I just don't visit the bores.

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Nah, I just get intense about stuff. Artist's fault.

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Believe me there's plenty more I could tell but I think enough has been said. Men get so nervous about women talking about relationships so guess I have to keep in mind they don't have much patience for that sort of thing. Not that I know why they are here since this site is about dating mostly but oh well... Men are so blissfully unaware of all the complications we are stressing over... it's really unfair we get to have only one gender per life

RE: cultural difference

Well I take it you are not Finnish, but sadly I also find it hard to socialize with the Finnish. I'm Swedish-Finnish but luckily it doesn't matter too much. It's more a case of life becoming very insular once people get families. Well maybe not for you, you're younger. I don't know how to say it... it's easy to talk to Finns about real life issues but if you're from the States then it can seem very quiet and even depressing. I wouldn't mind the mentality so much if I was still in the capital and had meaningful things to do that would involve some hipper people. So I need to get away from where I am now.

RE: Opinion wanted

Just send her a SMS asking if she REALLY wants to meet you. Nothing wrong with being direct. It never ceases to amaze me how funny people can be about all sorts of stuff but maybe she's just shy. Just ask if anything is the matter. Show concern but don't be pushy, she may really be avoiding you. So an SMS is probably enough.

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That's no bad question at all, maybe you should become a teacher?
However in this state of mind... can't really focus on anything whatsoever. I've been thinking voodoo dolls with nails in them... However as this is as rightly pointed out a public forum I can't tell you more than that. I think that could actually be a good subject matter for a collage however I'm afraid I wouldn't want to display it because it would be too explicit and a bit "banal". "The emancipation of Eve" is actually a similar subject matter. What I'd call it now? Hm... Maybe "What Fate has in Store for Mankind". Maybe an apocalyptic theme where only the once who are willing to let go of their old ways can rise to the level of the brave new world... No women in that picture though. I'm not going to be too explicit about why this comes to mind at this moment. Music? Perhaps Golfrapp's Utopia.

I will stick to my collages but I've been hoping to get going with some experiments with texture. Alas, I'm going for the stuff I know best at the moment because my attention span hasn't been too good. Right now I'm doing one about not listening to other people's dogmas. I really need to finish it. The trick is to be obscure enough so people can envision what they like depending on who they are but explicit enough so that some sense can be derived from it.

Or maybe I should just do a "healing piece" - last year I did one which portrays a birdlooking pair of scissors cutting off a bond. I'm not very good at spontaneous stuff, that would almost require some form of seminar where I'd have to deliver a therapeutic piece.

But you know the funny thing is I had an amazing dream last night. It had many fantastic symbols of self-empowerement, for instance it was my birthday (=the birth of something new) but the strangest thing was that I was wanting to sing Ave Maria by Schubert, and that has always been my favourite song. What is funny about that is that my real life name means the same, that is Hail to Mary (Mary being the caretaker but also a symbol of compassion and unconditional love). Oh NO they are playing it on TV right now! Talk about synch...

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Thanks Gilly, that's thoughtful of you.

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For god's sakes then go to another thread!!!! I have nothing fun to say here today, can't you respect that? Let me have my sad day and while people are still commenting I have to comment back.

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Rusty I was explaining to someone who asked and didn't follow. Just stay away for god's sakes!

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Yeah yeah Rusty no one forces you to read these things.