symbolistartist Forum Posts (761)

RE: 50 forward or 50 back ..

Hehe, I'm a minority. Well I think we're at the brink of some kind of major change; if it does happen by 2050 things might already be a LOT better when it comes to human rights and equality, while the restrictions on women and other things makes 1950 less attractive. It's nice to go back in time on a fictional level, but the reality... hm, maybe not. If things DON'T change soon then I don't think 2050 will happen so hardly anything to worry about

RE: Lying about your age - is it acceptable? How much is acceptable?

Cool! So are you into art, cats and qigong, a non/smoker and non/drinker too? And honest. Obviously old enough not to want more children? I bet you are, most guys I meet are!

RE: ARE MEN DIFFERENT?

Poor you, I can see you're on the brink of despair... take it easy and enjoy the sun

RE: Lying about your age - is it acceptable? How much is acceptable?

Well nothing I said was meant to refer to you in any way... just so you know Imperfection is what makes the world go round, keeps us on our toes and gives us something to bicker about.

RE: Lying about your age - is it acceptable? How much is acceptable?

I get your point and I made a similar one some 10-20 pages further down the line, however this to me sounds condemning:
"But what gets to me, is the 'I never lie about anything' and condeming a person who has lied about their age." I don't understand what grounds you have to make this sort of assumption. Surely people who don't like to lie would not particularly like the idea of other people lying either?

RE: who is your ideal match ?

I do believe in a soul mate... possibly several. But if I don't have certain "demands" set up I would go crazy trying to get to know everyone that shows up, it's just way too tiring after so many years of looking for the right one and too many mistakes have been made already.

RE: ARE MEN DIFFERENT?

Besides... truth is relative to the subject...

RE: ARE MEN DIFFERENT?

Prove it please! We will need some real scientific, empirical proof in order to be convinced. Ok?

RE: ARE MEN DIFFERENT?

Ok now this is my pet question; why do women have to go through so much trouble to try and understand men while men don't seem to do much in order to understand women? This in my opinion might even define true equality!

RE: ARE MEN DIFFERENT?

couldn't be more true.

RE: Lying about your age - is it acceptable? How much is acceptable?

I think that in order to have gotten your point about people "lying" about their age one would have had to read what your wrote quite carefully. Perhaps it wasn't so obviuos to everyone that you talked about people who joke about their age. I think that sort of joke is quite obvious though. But if someone takes off ten years of their real age it really doesn't sound like a joke. It simply sounds stupid. I can't personally think of a single thing I would ever have lied about that was NOT a joke... I don't see the point. But of course that doesn't guarantee that I'm a saint in all other ways too LOL.

RE: Lying about your age - is it acceptable? How much is acceptable?

No I really didn't mean it seriously since mine really is hidden, it was a kind of half-joke. But it's sad and strange that people feel a need to do these things, really makes me want to hide away from the world... on the other hand there are decent people too

RE: I Need Help!

Thanks, nice of you. I believe you to be a nice guy and maybe this thread will help. The trouble with your profile as I see it is that it's quite general, and not stating anything about your interests or pursuits in life. Being chivalresque and open about it is good, but you need to have more to offer than that. Some guys contact me with such scanty information about themselves that I simply ignore them as it's too much trouble to try and get any interesting bits out of them. I also wish that they would take my profile for real and not belittle it; for instance if I'm asking for an artlover then that's what I mean! So at the moment I'm a bit frustrated with all this... don't enjoy life as a single because of the games and many stressful encounters, however there is no alternative...

In actual fact I was prepared to relocate to the US for a guy a couple of years' ago but it didn't work out and now I stick to Europe. However men in Europe don't seem particularly eager to consider me relocating for their sake!

Good luck in your search! Be active on the forums, that surely helps!

RE: a genie

If you can wait a few years for me to publish, there will be one! And real, not a self-help privvy book. Though I have to admit it's meant to empower young women mostly... but you might learn something at the side... oh well.

RE: Lying about your age - is it acceptable? How much is acceptable?

Dear Stevvy, what I really had in mind was someone max 6 years older, so in fact considering that I'm close to my birthday we just MIGHT be able to squeeze that one in... However as I'm getting tired of second guessing whether men are lying or not (you do wonder when someone says they are very young but the pictures tell another story, if nothing else it's confusing) I've resorted to following the Chinese horoscope. According to which three years my senior would be perfect! Can you go and change the constellation of your stars somehow...

RE: Lying about your age - is it acceptable? How much is acceptable?

Touché LOL

RE: Lying about your age - is it acceptable? How much is acceptable?

I know, I could tell. I am flattered.

RE: Why do some women intimidate men?

I agree Sommer, all this is very relative, to the people involved as well as the situations at hand.

Generalizations are not very constructive IMO. We can only talk about ourselves and what we have experienced. No use hypothesizing about others. For instance, some people come across as arrogant because they really are shy but are trying to hide it. Some men are incredibly arrogant because they have not been raised to believe in inequality and will do what they can to squash a woman who doesn't comply with his desire for control. The scenarios are limitless...

In my own case men often think I'm someone they can control because I seem frail and in real life I don't necessarily talk loud about things. When they find out they can't, all hell breaks loose. Many I have found also think they wouldn't be intimidated however turns out they didn't know themselves well enough. It's just unfortunate, or karmic, or whatever... I could give a zillion more examples as I see them but I get a feeling people aren't really interested. The whole thread is only about yes or no, not the reasons why. I also get a feeling that anyone who brings out a personal experience gets targeted.

RE: ladies traveling to meet a guy for the first date

I agree, I've been there done that... there's just something fundamentally wrong with men who promise to come and meet you and then back out with some lame excuse, or due to lack of money or whatever... Can't really respect a guy like that. I travelled far for someone who always made false promises. Equality doesn't mean we abolish all gender specific ideals! A woman needs to feel that she's worth the trip. Simple.

RE: Lying about your age - is it acceptable? How much is acceptable?

Too young for me... sorry Stevvy, bye bye

RE: Lying about your age - is it acceptable? How much is acceptable?

the lie of the century!

RE: Lying about your age - is it acceptable? How much is acceptable?

I'm glad... I guess sometimes we post with our mind somewhere else, like now that I saw the topic I was interested but I really need to get ready for my qigong practice NOW Cheers!

RE: Read what "men call their rules"

Yesssss!!

RE: serious statement

Now how entertaining is that? Maybe if men actually started to be curious about women's complexity, the world would be a much more fun place to be for everyone

RE: Lying about your age - is it acceptable? How much is acceptable?

I didn't mean being rigid in the case of downright lies, I meant rigid in cases that are not so clear cut... am I making sense now?

RE: Lying about your age - is it acceptable? How much is acceptable?

Easy easy! Actually I got my thoughts a bit mixed up here. No lying about age and stupid things like that is a definite no no IMO. However, if there are things in your past that you've done that you're embarrassed about... or maybe something like having entertained thoughts about someone else while you were starting to relate to another person and then coming out with it after not too much time has passed... now that might be forgiven. I'm really thinking of a case when someone ditched me on grounds of not wanting to double date. I gave them a chance to explain and allow me back in. So let's just say there are many case scenarios... some worse than others. ok?

RE: I NEED HELP ASAP

I'm not offended by your atheism, only the fact that you don't have the discernment to leave a poor woman alone when she's clearly not your cup of tea.

RE: ARE MEN DIFFERENT?

Thank god I'm past the age when this was an issue. Now all I have to do is deal with younger men who think I might still squeeze out a little brat for him and spend the rest of my years taking care of it until it sails into the world on its own. On second thought, I am ditching all young men on grounds of wanting to spread their seed around in an overpopulated world...

RE: Lying about your age - is it acceptable? How much is acceptable?

Totally unacceptable. If someone is here to find a partner for real, then why lie at all? It's ludicrous. I don't get the "it's quite normal to lie about things" thing. I'd ditch the person at once.

RE: Honestly???

I agree... considering that I'm looking in the same country as you, I have to say that the outcome has been extremely poor...
I don't know about my own country because I refuse to date in the majority language, however we ARE known to be the honest people of the Earth. Honestly. Maybe you should all come looking over here instead?