Yes! If I was married to a woman and she became disabled would I divorce her. No! Then why not date and marry a woman that is disabled now. No difference! Love is Love!
There are many things that I have done that I feel good about. One that I am very pleased about is this.
I was a camp counselor at a children's camp. There was one young man (boy-9 yrs) that had many wrong ideas about life. He was a bully and getting very bad about hitting others with things like pvc pipe and 2x4s, very hard biting, hitting girls with his fist, unrulely in so many ways. ( he was dangerous) I talked to him several times very firmly, But with respect and logic. I was able to flip a switch in his mind that gave him a different out look. Before camp was over he was a different kid. he was helpful, polite, and he kept coming to me asking if what he did was the right thing. That kid today is one of the nicest young men you will ever meet. He makes such good grades that he was taking college classes before he was out of Jr High School. The young man is amazing! Now understand he has done all the work. But, I am so proud I was able to flip that switch in his mind that made it possible for him to change.
He comes by now and again to see me and to let me know what he has done with his life. I always hug him and tell him how very proud I am of him. That is what life is about. To hell with awards, ribbons, and titles.
It could be that just as a woman will spend great time selecting just the right clothes to wear to look her best. That she does not have a picture that she is comfortable with. To approach someone takes a lot of guts for some. Then to give a picture that is not in your comfort zone is very hard and they may retreat back into the comfort rather than deal with a imagined rejection that may come.
You must be reassuring that with you all ladies are appealing, each in their own way. Give them a comfortable place to put their uneasiness. She will then send you her picture for your approval and not expect to be disapproved of.
I am sorry for your situation. I see no fault in you. It appears that there was more love for himself than for you. The love he had was a selfish love and you filled his need for a while. But, he wanted more for himself. It is not as if you killed part of the love by being selfish or uncaring. He was not worthy of such a woman as you with the love you have to give. It is hard now, but it is what is best for you. You find you a love that is right and he will walk the length of the world just for one touch of your hand and be content. You seem to be a special lady and your knight will come.
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