I think a lot of people 'fall in love' online and when they meet and get to know one another, it often isn't so wonderful. Spending time with someone is the only way to know. I have read uncountable stories about people who met online and thought they were in love, but when the met and spent time together, it didn't work out. You have to be cautious and realistic.
I think someone has really catch your fancy for people to pursue something on here. Women who initially contacted you but then didn't answer when you responded, may have just been casual about first contacting you, and when you responded, they decided they weren't really interested, or maybe what you wrote when you responded turned them off. As others have said, there are so many people on a dating site, some are serious, some are not, and they think they have so many choices. They often don't take the time to get to know someone, unless something really especially appeals to them. I don't think dating sites are a very good place to meet someone. I think the best way is still out in the real world, through activities and friends.
It is the falling that is the problem. People don't think. They want romance and passion and think that his all they need. The term itself, "falling in love," suggests what it is. Not a positive thing, actually. Allow love to grow, don't fall into it.
Love doesn't kill you, it makes you happy. You are infatuated with someone who does not return your feelings. If I were you, I would break it off completely and move on. I know this is going to be painful, truly, I do know that, but being in love should not be painful and hurtful. It should be joyous. But for it to be like that, the love has to be returned, and he does not return your love. Actions speak louder than words. He may say he loves you, but his actions clearly indicate otherwise.
I would say give him a deadline. He cannot string you along forever. Sounds like he is changing his mind, cooling regarding his affection for you, getting cold feet, etc. It is not okay for you to be "feeling lost." Give him a deadline and if he does not keep it, move on.
Does it dry up like a raisin in the sun? Or fester like a sore-- And then run? Does it stink like rotten meat? Or crust and sugar over-- like a syrupy sweet?
Probably not never postponed and it depends what level the game is. I imagine the professional teams all have covered stadiums to play in. Not sure about college football. Local teams probably do get their games canceled. Of course, I don't watch or pay attention to football in America or anywhere, but I think most big cities have covered stadiums.
A woman knows how she feels. If she is saying she only wants to be friends, that is what she wants and how she feels. It is just doesn't work to try to convince someone to care for us. Find someone who really cares for you.
I am only here for the forums as I am involved with someone. I am not happy being single and am ready, able and willing to make compromises to be with someone, but not to sacrifice my entire life or lifestyle and not to sacrifice my identity or individuality. The trick is finding someone to get along with who is worth compromising for. I think people get spoiled by being single, especially as they grow older, and they are not willing to compromise to be with someone.
JeanMarlow Forum Posts (815)
completely agree
RE: Jester's Advice for little Willfull, Wayward, Women.
Wilful adn wayward? Yes that would be me. But, I'm far too wilful to take any advice.