Well what are the fundamental differences and would you rather meet somebody in the 'normal' way, for example on a night out, or spend endless time getting to know someone online only to discover that you are not compatible when you actually meet up?
I think I prefer the old way, at least most things are up front immediately, the physical and a little of the mental characteristics. A picture and a profile are simply not enough to know the person behind them, and, I fear that many people are simply not truthful.
I'm proud OF starting a new life and career in a new country in my forties. But I am more proud of my two children who have turned out to be wonderful adults and of my students, many of whom work so hard to master the English language and put themselves through difficult exams.
I'm proud OF starting a new life and career in a new country in my forties. But I am more proud of my two children who have turned out to be wonderful adults and of my students, many of whom work so hard to master the English language and put themselves through difficult exams.
The fact that you think this way demonstrates that you are a great mum. Nobody can claim to be the perfect mum or dad, and we are made to feel guilty if we are working mums or stay at home mums. I chose to work part time until my kids started school then I worked full time and continued to do so. My kids are in their twenties now and they are responsible, caring adults who, I know, are very proud of their mum. They live in the UK, I am here in Spain and I occasionally feel pangs of guilt that I am away from them, so those feelings never cease no matter how old your kids are.
Why the pessimism? Have you all been blown out too many times? If so, don't you ever stop to think that maybe your initial contact is not too hot OR the women you approach are really not worth the time of day.
I can never be rude to a man who tries to talk to me and I'm not really interested, I try to let him down gently without hurting his feelings. Unless of course it's a loud mouthed yob then I will tell him where to go. Actually though, even then I'm useless because I don't like swearing, even in Spanish, so my brush off doesn't have quite the same impact!
I don't think it's risky at all. If you are in a bar for example and walk over and say hello, but not in an aggressive way, it's not a problem to most women. When this would happen to me when I was married, I would just say sorry or thank you but I'm married.
I believe it is far more risky on dating sites because profiles and pictures are often not genuine. I think some of us have forgotten that it is actually more natural to meet somebody in the REAL world rather than on a dating site.
I've noticed, in the real world, and I'm sure lot's of other ladies here on CS have, that men are more reluctant these days to make the first move. Instead they stare all night with obvious interest but nothing more. What's with that? It happens to me all the time and I'm too old fashioned to make the first move even though at times I would like to.
If you could change your job for a week or shadow someone working in an environment you are interested in, what would you choose.
I love my job teaching but I would like to spend a week working in a theatre, backstage though! Paying customers would flee if I were to tread the boards!
Don't be silly! Nobody looks down on you, your humour is appreciated. And I'm not part of a particular group of friends but it doesn't matter, I still post.
My father was a boxing champion so when I was a child in the sixties and seventies I met lots of sports and music celebrities the most famous being Mohammad Ali and the Beatles. (I was born in Liverpool).
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Nobody believes you!
Real dating or online dating?
Well what are the fundamental differences and would you rather meet somebody in the 'normal' way, for example on a night out, or spend endless time getting to know someone online only to discover that you are not compatible when you actually meet up?I think I prefer the old way, at least most things are up front immediately, the physical and a little of the mental characteristics. A picture and a profile are simply not enough to know the person behind them, and, I fear that many people are simply not truthful.