Do these relationships last? Generally, I think not.
I can only relate to my own feelings when I was younger and to those of my daughter and her friends, much older men are 'pervy' and 'unattractive'. This is a normal feeling I believe, and if they have kids, well no no no!
Obviously being the mature woman I am today, I do not think in the same way, older men are sometimes very attractive to me nowadays!
I'm in the same position as you except that I've stopped thinking about having a long term partner.
I've had a long marriage with two beautiful grown up kids and now my job is my focus, it has to be, because like your job, it can involve travelling. I thought when I moved to Spain to work that would be the end of my travels, (prior to that I spent four years travelling and teaching) but then I was offered this very well-paid job in Russia and decided to accept. However I will be returning to Spain in December, I still have my flat there, and I don't think I will come back to Russia, though the offer is there for a further three years and the pay is tempting.
The bottom line is, I don't want to give up my career nor move permanently to another country, like you I could move and find work quite easily but I've done that already, and I'm so happy living and working in Spain having made great friends and learned the langage, thus being able to integrate fully in this beautiful country and culture.
The needs and wants do not match for me either but it doesn't seem to matter as much as it did.
But don't feel bad for my daughter, I certainly don't even if she's not going to make me a granny! She's extremely happy and has a wonderful life. Children are not a blessing for everybody however hard that may be for some parents to understand.
Well you said you expected flack and you certainly got it didn't you?
All credit to you for being honest, but I think you're going to find it very difficult to find who you're looking for either here or in the real world.
In my humble opinion, the problem is not finding a young woman without kids, these days many young women make this lifestyle choice either because they want to do other things in their lives which kids make impossible or difficult, or they simply don't like kids very much, no maternal instinct or whatever. My own daughter has always said she didn't want kids and I'm certain she won't change her mind.
Herein lies the dilemma for you though, because these women are unlikely to welcome your own kids with open arms and they are living with you.
I'm not going to criticise you, and to be honest, I wouldn't want to meet a potential partner with children still living at home. Been there and done it, thankfully when I was very young, much younger than you.
According to medical research testosterone rises by 50% in women when they are drunk.
Maybe that explains in part why some women use physical violence. Equality is great, but who wants a fix of testosterone when it brings out the worst of male tendencies.... aggression?
And why on earth do women want to physically fight with other women? How can we, on the one hand, abhor physical violence committed by men against women, then go and act in the same way?
I'm not going to bother replying to the dear child but she's obviously referring to the one and only e-mail I sent her asking why she thought a particular person she had, and still has, a problem with, seemed to be chasing me around the forums with negative remarks. No big secret, so I'm not sure why she had a little tissy fit and mentioned it like it was going to get me into trouble. Tantrums tantrums!
Not sure what she means by housewives though? Perhaps it's a dig at us 'oldies' who know nothing.
Never mind, I'm sure she'll be a much more rounded personality in 20 years time eh!
I like the pic with Jim and Nuala, where was it taken?
Thank you for trying to calm the stormy sea. Actually I think Robbie was trying to do the same in his dopey male way!
But, whether or not she is fluent in English has no relevence. She has been a nasty little madam, I'm not talking about with me here by the way, and knows exactly what she is saying.
I can forgive many things, putting it down to cultural or linguistic differences as you well know, and I have spent the last 10 years of my life interpreting and understanding non native speakers. I will not argue any further with this immature young woman and that's that.
Now granny, how about a drink, where is the in place these days over on the EU forum?
You misunderstand, we are not saying it is curious, just that we are curious as to why.
Nobody said it was wasted time, but there IS a big difference between talking here and in the 'real' world.
Nobody said people over 30 can't go out either, I certainly do, as do many people over 30 contributing to the thread.
The question was, why do young people join, simply that, nothing else.
You are a very beautiful young woman and in my opinion you would do better trying to meet people in the real world and treat this as a diversion when you are bored. But you should never be bored at your age, you don't have children or, as far as I know, anything else to tie you down, so the world is your oyster, get out there!
Yes, childish was the most appropriate vocabulary (uncountable noun) I could think of.
As I said, I'm not interested in arguing with you when you are being so defensive. My question was valid and for a whole bunch of young people here not JUST YOU.
Well thank you for that. I appreciate a well thought out response.
I understand what you say, but there are other places than bars and clubs to meet guys you know. In addition, you really don't know who you are meeting here, so take care.
I'm not proposing at all that anybody 'should' prefer to meet somebody in a bar rather than a dating site, I simply asked why young people are here and you answered as far you're concerned, thank you.
It does make me wonder though how people got together and stayed together before dating sites.
I have a problem? Where did you get that idea from? Age difference either way doesn't concern me in the slightest in the 'real' world. It's different here because it's NOT real and just about playing games. If you met dads outside of CS you wouldn't give him a second glance....no offence dads! You know it and he does too.
He made the comment and I concurred, simple as that. Don't be childish and make up fairy stories.
Sorry to disappoint you, but firstly, the question wasn't aimed at you personally, secondly, I had no idea what age group you personally prefer, and quite frankly it has no relevence whatsoever. My statement about age was based on the many young people I know, not what I thought your preference was, not that it crossed my mind anyway.
Finally, the word traditional, I deliberately placed within inverted commas to demonstrate what is in fact the most common way, even today, of meeting people.
How many people have you met or dated initiated online compared to the 'traditional' way?
Unorthodox is your word not mine.
Too many knee jerk reactions here, think before you type.
Well yes, that may be true if the photo, profile and posts are genuine. And you know more than most people here that it just isn't so.
You don't have to be intimate in a bar either if you choose not to be. In fact, I see more intimacy here as far as words go than I normally see in a bar! Again, because it's 'safe'.
Why are you getting worked up about a simple question? I don't care if you've been out with a man of 65, never mind 35, that simply wasn't my question. Don't be so defensive, I said I wasn't criticising, JUST curious.
Flirting in the threads? Not sure what you mean there.
And I never used the word 'should'.
I'm not saying there is a right or wrong way of meeting somebody, my question was posed out of curiosity. Having kids in their twenties and being a teacher means I am in touch with young people, and I can honestly say I have never met anybody of the age group I mentioned who are remotely interested in dating sites.
I don't think shyness prompts young people to think, oh I'll join a dating site, and kids? Well, my daughter has friends who are single parents and they too wouldn't join a dating site preferring to go out and meet real people of their own age. In the real world MOST 20 odd year olds wouldn't dream of flirting with somebody over 40 which happens here. It's a little uncomfortable for me at times watching it and I've spoken to many young people who agree with me.
And as I said, I wasn't criticising, just curious.
Incidentally, my family live in Southampton and there's a good nightlife to be had there. Where in Southampton do you live?
By young I mean under 30. Why aren't you out having a great time?
I have 2 unmarried kids in their late twenties who wouldn't dream of joining a dating site, they have great lives going out and meeting people in the 'traditional' way.
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RE: Question for pretty, young, women w/o kids
I agree, actually I said something similar pages back, and two other posters if I remember correctly.Credit where credit's due dear lady!