I think it depends on how old the kids and the partner is.
Younger guys, I believe, may be less secure and understanding of the time and effort us parents put in for our kids. Older guys, or those I have known, have always been accepting and keen to meet my gorgeous kids!
However, my kids are grown up and long flown the nest so there is not too much of a conflict for a potential partner in day to day life. There could be however if a crisis occurred and I had to be with one of them.
I agree. My hair is quite long at the moment and here in Russia I've been told (by the women ironically)that it's very unusual to see a woman my age with long hair, apparently after 35 the hair is normally cut short.
I have to say though, it's the only country I've lived in where long hair on older women is viewed as odd.
Well yes, as everyone has told you, go for it, but I find it strange that if you live so close to each other, why she hasn't suggested you both meet? Or at least hinted?
Women today aren't shrinking violets generally, and you are both on a dating site, so it's not solely your responsbility to ask to meet for a coffee is it?
I hope everything goes well for you but don't be too disappointed if your invitation is rejected or postponed.
It means a great deal to me. I teach English to business people all over the world and understanding cultural differences are vital to enable business people to function productively in other countries.
From a personal point of view it's equally important because I have to live in different countries and adapt to the different cultures in order to integrate and be accepted. I don't mind though, for me it's fascinating and has enriched my life in so many ways.
Due to my work and travelling, I miss people constantly. Most of all, my family and grown up kids, and my friends in the UK and Spain. I even miss my ex-husband at times! Fortunately we can still speak to each other in a friendly manner!
It's strange though, I have not really enjoyed my time in Russia, but I know when I return to Spain I will miss my students here and keep in touch with them as I do with many of my students all over the world.
I too have been a Xeni in many different countries for the past 10 years and have seen kindness in so many ways.
Your thread brought to mind another thread this evening about cultural differences. I've personally experienced more kindness and thoughtfulness abroad than I ever have in my own country.
But there is a big difference between assertive and aggressive behaviour.
Being assertive is having confidence in yourself, being direct, honest and self-respecting. Aggressive behaviour is controlling, self-enhancing and tactless.
Perhaps some men feel threatened by an assertive women and choose to interpret it as aggressiveness. They can then make a joke of it...you know, ball breaker etc etc.
It's not so much hiding behind our keyboards, rather the whole fast mail world we live in. Remember when people wrote letters and we sat and thought about what we were writing? We walked to the post box thinking about our letter, we held it in our hand, just about to drop it in, then changed our minds. Sometimes we would write a letter in the evening and it would still be there the following morning, so we had the opportunity to tear it up after a restful sleep and waking up feeling very different.
Nowadays we often write without thinking first, press send, then it's too late!
Not everybody is showing a 'snotty' nature as you say, they are just not couching their words as carefully as they might face to face or in snail mail form.
Jan1305 Forum Posts (5,319)
RE: The attraction dilemma
Nah, it's because you're getting older and the 'babes' aren't so interested!