Jan1305 Forum Posts (5,319)

Who would want to be a teacher!

Hi Carol, hi Smoky!

Actually my own students do attend so I can't write my book during class time!

Some of my teachers are having problems with student attendance and I have to get to the bottom of it with a little bit of this a bit of this and maybe a lot of this

Who would want to be a teacher!

I'm thinking of writing a book to include the following:

101 Activities for Teaching Email Etiquette and Business Writing

500 Ways to Arrange a Meeting

Communicative Conversation Practice For Sullen Russian Males (to be published by
(Utopia Books)

Interference, Intransigence and Incompetence: A Guide to teaching Business English
in Russia

English for Russian Students: A Guide to the Teaching of English Without Using English

Don't Talk! Conjugate! - A new non-communicative approach to language learning

How to Learn English Without Attending Classes: A new non-attendance approach.

Teacher-Student Classroom Interaction and the Japanese Student

How to keep Your Students Awake in Class: A handbook for summer school teachers


What do you think - bestseller???

I love my job really.

RE: After you have ended it with someone you care about...

I hope this 'rule' is flexible. I was married for 25 years and it certainly didn't take me an where near 12 years to move on and I'm grateful for that!

I think, as others have said, it does depend on the time you have invested in the relationship. Of course it's bound to be longer for a relationship which has been your life for a lengthy period of time.

RE: Should it be Connectingsingles or connecting people?

Me too, but whatever name the site has doesn't have any influence on who joins.

If people already in relationships are looking for another relationship that's fine by me, who are we to judge without the full reasoning behind it?

As long as they are honest from the start and say that's their thing there's no problem, they may meet other like-minded people.

RE: Do you choose freindship based on looks?

I believe I'm a kind and gentle person but I agree there are situations where one may be seen as "weak" - more so in the workplace, particularly if you hold a management position.

My kindness and patience has been seriously abused by one man in the recent past. He used my loving nature to exert his obsessive jealous nature to the extreme, knowing that I would accept/forgive. Unfortunately he didn't realise that I would only accept this for so long so he burnt his bridges and I know he regrets this but cannot change his personality. By the way, he was also the kindest man I've ever met in some ways and not physically attractive in the traditional sense.

Inherent kindness is something that we learn in time about people. New relationships are not usually formed on the basis that somebody is a kind person, we don't really know the true nature of another initially, they are formed first on physical attraction and grow in a positive way when we learn this person also has qualities, such as kindness for example, that we are naturally attracted to.

As for platonic friendships, I don't believe we choose our friends based on their appearance at all and my best female friend and I are like chalk and cheese in many ways, appearance included.

RE: Have you lost hope to find a date in your own area?

In Russia I'm working and not interested in finding romance so no hope lost there.

In Spain, my home, I haven't lost hope and I do have regular dates. I joined CS before I had made any good Spanish friends and I hang around sporadically because I haven't met anybody I want to spend the rest of my life with in the real world.

I saw CS as another option nothing more, but now it's become a meeting place for online acquaintances until I meet the one in Spain, cos that's where he'll be.

When that happens, and it will, I'm

RE: Feel good ...

This to me is what makes life worth living, appreciation of the things we do even if we don't expect it.

Fortunately I can think of many times when I've been given thanks and shown appreciation, like FOS from students and parents, like Smoky for voluntary work and on other occasions when I least expected it.

I can't give one specific example because each time it happens I experience an equally nice warm feeling and the knowledge that what I do sometimes make a difference. I guess compliments I hear from a third party which have originated from my kids about me give me the greatest pride.

What comes around goes around so I also try to make sure I show appreciation to people who give help or are kind to me.

Finally, most people I meet make a lasting impression, sometimes not very favourable but mostly good. Even seemingly negative impressions left behind can have a positive effect if we try to turn them to our advantage.

RE: Feel good ...

This to me is what makes life worth living, appreciation of the things we do even if we don't expect it.

Fortunately I can think of many times when I've been given thanks and shown appreciation, like FOS from students and parents, like Smoky for voluntary work and on other occasions when I least expected it.

I can't give one specific example because each time it happens I experience an equally nice warm feeling and the knowledge that what I do sometimes make a difference. I guess compliments I hear from a third party which have originated from my kids about me give me the greatest pride.

What comes around goes around so I also try to make sure I show appreciation to people who give help or are kind to me.

Finally, most people I meet make a lasting impression, sometimes not very favourable but mostly good. Even seemingly negative impressions left behind can have a positive effect if we try to turn them to our advantage.

RE: Who is still Single on the site and ---

Conrad do you think he's referring to an old relationship or an old woman....me!

RE: Why do so many women go for married men?

Are you sure you weren't sending out some signals too?

Honestly I've never met a woman who consciously seeks out married men, but I've had men who were husbands/boyfriends of friends of mine hit on me without the slightest provocation. They always do it on the sly too, when the wife or girlfriend is out of sight or earshot.

RE: What is a Player....

I think I can recognise some of the players on here but what's scary is that they appear to be good guys....sorry I'm speaking from a female perspective here, I know there must be female players too.

They are guys who come on here and are seemingly popular but there's something about them, can't explain or pinpoint exactly what, and later I often discover from private e-mails that my doubts were well founded.

I can spot them a mile off but I don't always believe they are players in a calculated way. Sometimes they are just guys, apologies again for speaking from the female perspective, who don't really want or know how to commit and enjoy the attention of several women because they are emotionally unstable.

It all makes no difference to me personally as I'm not looking for romance here, but I observe and don't like the games which result in people getting misled or hurt.

RE: What do you think... to harsh?

Perfect and I've written in a similar vein myself.

It took me a while to stop being so nice to these young guys but it's the only way they'll learn.

Direct but still polite.

RE: Do you judge people before you get to know them?

I wasn't referring just to people you may get lovey dovey with.

Think about situations for example when one has to interview people for a job. You have to go with your gut instinct at the end of the day and hope you are right.

RE: Do you judge people before you get to know them?

Yes I do, I shouldn't I know but 99% of the time I'm right.
FACT !!

When I've gone against my gut instinct it's always been a problem for me so I will continue to judge and trust my initial feeling about somebody.

RE: wondering where I am?

I'm anywhere I want to be.

I want to be back in Spain right now though.

RE: wondering where I am?

I know where I am.....most of the time!

RE: Happy Easter

A flying visit as I'm busy with work this weekend (no holidays for me ) to say Happy Easter to each and every one of you and a special thank you to two lovely ladies here who sent me cards.

RE: Forum Etiquette ?

'Netiquette' should apply to all forms of communication via this medium. Unfortunately we sometimes forget, because it is all to easy, to remember our manners when we are sat behind a computer screen and cannot see the person to whom we are writing to.

Personally I've arrived at the impression that what I read, after a series of posts and threads of course, (I try not to judge somebody on the basis of a few posts), reflects the person behind the words and it disappoints me sometimes.

I never use the vomit emoticon which I particularly hate, don't know why exactly, it just makes me......well.... want to vomit when people use it!

I also don't like very much because it's often used in a sarcastic way by some members. I have used it though in response to another member's sarcastic post with accompanying .

RE: Bye for now

Don't you dare! Remember what you told me????

RE: Update on my Liver cancer buddy..

Lots of happy memories Claire, and keep in touch with her hubby if you can.

RE: What exactly do you need in your life right now?

A little bit of ME time and not have to manage and worry about other people.

RE: Confidentiality and Privacy.

If I'm in a serious relationship I keep everything confidential, to my detriment in the past because if you are having problems sometimes it helps to talk to somebody you can trust.

In an ideal world, problems in a relationship should be sorted out between the two people concerned, but sometimes a third party is needed.

As far as CS goes, nada nada nada!!!!

RE: Questions? ---Answers?

hat wasn't a question hoots.

Cusp why do have colourful swirlies on your face?

RE: Teammates?

Team working is more successful in the business/work related world, not so much emotional baggage!

If you live with somebody for many years it becomes second nature to know what's on the other's mind or to be able to finish their sentences. That doesn't necessarily equate with team work.

I prefer the term team mate to soulmate though!

RE: NO Discrimination here !!

Not sure I would class that as discrimination Kitty, maybe they were just worried about making a mess of your granddaughter's afro hair not having any experience of it.

A good hairdresser should be skilled in dealing with all kinds of hair, but there are specialists. Every city I've been to has hairdresser shops who promote themselves as Afro hair specialists......hang on, could that be called discrimination too?

RE: once u go black,you never go back!!

It's America? There are members from all over the world on this site and we all have choices wherever we live.

RE: Hola...Is the only spanish word i know

Welcome to Spain, it's a beautiful country with wonderful people.

How did you end up in Spain if you can't find a job if you don't mind me asking?

Usually people retire here or move because they love the country and have work, like me, I teach English.

Weren't you the lady who who posted the black is best thread a couple of nights ago?

RE: My ex want to cut our daughters hair

You see, it wasn't really about cutting your daughter's at all, but a battle of wills between you and your ex.

RE: Fuming

This is a difficult situation and maybe he is trying to be what he perceives as a good role model to your daughter. After all, you've already said that he sees more of your daughter than you do bieng an integral part of your ex wife's life.

You both need to get together and talk about this rationally for your daughter's sake. Whether you like it or not she has a relationship with this man and it's better for her that there is no conflict however much it makes you jealous.

Incidentally, why did he feel the need to call you at such a late hour to criticise your parenting skills? We don't know the whole story do we, maybe he felt the need to do this for a valid reason?

RE: My ex want to cut our daughters hair

Well try spending a month looking after your daughter's hair, with the help of the de-tangling products you mentioned, and I bet you'll be tearing your hair out by the end of the month!