Very true Pat. Some people grow or change more than others in a relationship, happened to me during my long marriage. Difficult for my ex to deal with, so we did grow apart.
What a whinging old so and so I am! Sorry guys, I´d been talking to a male friend in RL who is on another dating site and we came to the conclusion that the whole thing is a bit of a let down....hence my whine. And Cusp, thanks, but no, I´m not feeling blue.
My family is here in Spain for Xmas and Mum won´t let me in the kitchen, so I´m being spoilt rotten.
No more complaints, and thanks to everybody for your messages.
Hi Claayer, I don´t agree with your comment about narrow mindedness. We all have preferences, for that reason there should be enough people to go around to form couples if that is what people want!
Of course it is limiting, but most of us, in spite of having preferences in so far as physical appearance goes, often end up with, or accept the opposite. We adapt, despite our pre-conceived ideas of what we find preferable because at the end of the day it´s not colour of skin, or weight that is the overriding factor in a successful relationship.
I´ve been here for almost 4 years on and off, and I posted a best wishes thread for xmas which only 2 or 3 people responded to. Ok, there are many new people here who don´t know me from Adam so I understand. However, when other old timers don´t respond it´s a wake up call.
This place is, in general, what I always I knew it was, a haven for lost and unhappy folk, and the pace at which members are forgotten, however much we have communicated via the forums, is amazing. In real life this does not happen because people make a bigger, more personal impact
I come here when I want to banter, or hear gossip, or see who is flirting with whom, nothing more, but I am a tad disappointed at times.
Am I wrong?
Now I am signing off for Xmas. Best wishes to you all.
.....for Christmas and New Year to all you dear people here. I won´t be online during the holiday period, busy, busy and lots of things to do, so I wanted to send my love to all of you.
Special thanks to those of you who have been so kind and sent cards. I won´t be sending CS cards, but I really appreciate those I´ve received....you know who you are sweet folk!
Hope you all get to kiss someone special under the mistletoe, if not, stuff yourselves silly with food and drink, party, and remember that life is to be lived and enjoyed, with or without a significant other.
Kisses and hugs to everybody, particularly anybody who will be alone for the festive period.
Yes but isn´t that what I tried to say earlier? Not to put your baseball fears in the bottom league of fear, but they don´t really compare with the fears I mentioned do they?
Hi you! My kids are adults too and I don´t spend every waking minute fearing for them, I live in a different country! However, it is a fear I have, albeit locked away, and if it were realised I doubt whether the fact that I had confronted said fear previously would be of any consequence or help.
I also know I will have to face the day when I lose my parents, that too is a fear that I recognise, but it won´t help me in the slightest when it happens.
I think perhaps the fears we all have from time to time about less serious matters can be eased by confronting them and realising that actually no long term damage will be suffered, or lifestyle changes can be made to accommodate them. This strategy unfortunately doesn´t work for the more serious fears we have if and when they become a reality.
Hi Pat. I know my fears, but somehow I know that won´t help me in the eventuality that some will be realised.
Worries about work, money, health etc are fears which can be controlled, but fears about losing loved ones, parents and particularly one´s children, can never be eased by being forewarned through recognition.
If you have only one fear, which appears so in your post, you are very fortunate.
Thanks Vinney, but I would still prefer people to say what they are actually thinking rather than a string of vomit emoticons. These emoticons are often used as a mask to disguise and sugar coat ugly words.
Anyway, the bottom line is I teach English, and expressive written language, be it positive or negative, is always more interesting to read than lines of emoticons. I´m not tryìng to police aggressive posts, just those where the posters can´t be bothered to think about appropriate words to get their point across.
In fact if people did stop to think rather than mindlessly click on vomit or whatever nasty emoticon, they may think twice about what they are expressing and be less aggressive or incoherent.
For what reason does this serve. It`s horrible and should be removed.
Emoticons can be useful, as I´ve already said, for emphasis, if appropriate words cannot be found or are not in the linguistic capabilities of the poster. However, they are over-used and often used in an abusive manner in the misguided and IMO, cowardly view that they are less potent than words alone.
Sorry Gypsy, but there was nothing which could be construed as offensive in my post, it was to another member, not you, who I consider a friend. You used the vomit emoticon because you know I dislike it......and because I made a comment way back on your love thread, about how people can claim they are in love when they have never met. In a polite way I believe, and my view was concurred with others.
Looks as though I may have been right, but please correct me, and advance apologies if you are still together.
Have to agree Sommer, and when they are used wthout accompanyng text in a mean and spiteful way, as has been done especially for me tonight, then they are a cowardly way of communication.
No, I still feel like a complete outsider even after three years on and off (more off than on). However, there are some good people here who I keep in touch with or pass idle moments with in the forums.
Not too bothered about emoticon use, and though I rarely use them myself, they do serve a purpose of emphasis sometimes. However, if I see the word lose spelt as loose one more time I´m going to scream!!!!!
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It´s like living on a different planet sometimes.
serve. It`s horrible and should be removed. 
Like just about every other thread Kid!
RE: is love at first site real?
Very true Pat. Some people grow or change more than others in a relationship, happened to me during my long marriage. Difficult for my ex to deal with, so we did grow apart.Happy Xmas