It´s ok, you´re still on track. I caved after nine days on a night out, smoked one ciggy, well three quarters actually, and didn´t enjoy it. I was fine the next day.
One day ar a rime Olso. You will however receive a severe slapping from Lagoona.
That is so true Imma. I was on a training course yesterday and had to travel by train. It was good not to feel the need to have a ciggie before the train arrived and not to use up my breaks during the course to light up outside.
As for the insomnia, I´ve had that since day one. My doctor friends have said this is a common problem when giving up smoking. I´m very tired too, but don´t want sleeping pills, so one of them has told me to try infusing orange peel in boiling water, then drinking it before going to bed. Not sure how this works, some property in the peel. I´ll try it tonight.
I have more training and a lot of work this week so won´t be around here much. Don´t worry about me not signing in......ok Lago!!!!!
I´m not sure Mike, sometimes friendliness is mistaken for flirting, that´s happened to me many times, and I´m always surprised when a man interprets my friendly nature the wrong way.
Last year some of my students bought me a beautiful handheld fan, and inside the box were instructions about how to use it for sending unspoken messages to a possible suitor.
It was so interesting to learn how in the past, the Spanish ladies used the positioning of their fans to flirt with men..... and sometimes to reject them.
Hi butterfly. To be fair to sommer, you did say that you´ve had quite a few lovers who have been selfish in the bedroom.
You are right though, I too was married for 25 years which does limit one´s experience. Fortunately the few men I have meet since my divorce were incredibly giving in the bedroom.
Not at all, we all have choices in life, some grab them and change their lives completely as I did, and it did take courage, moving to a new country, learning a new language, changing a good steady career for another completely different. Nothing at all to do with having no other choice, the opposite in fact, it was about making a choice or a decision to change things.
Others don´t feel confident enough or indeed the need to do it, that´s fine too.
You have made a choice to change your life too, good luck!
Our "make up" to some extent is fixed at conception....it takes guts and confidence to break free and change that. It´s possible, nobody need be set in their ways. Changing career and location is a big step, and in my case, definitely due to getting older and wanting to change things in my life.
Your previous post sounded so negative and anti female that´s all.
Funny but utter rubbish! You were joking mercedes?
I know many women like me who have changed career, lifestyle, country of residence...and, in their late thirties, forties and fifties. We are fabulous, confident women and not many men would have the guts to do the same.
No Pat, settling for less doesn´t mean you or anybody isn´t good enough. It means not settling for less than we feel we deserve. That feeling, which is confidence basically, results from age and experience and has nothing to do with declaring one is "better" than another.
Cold or hot climate is of course an issue for some, but at the end of the day shouldn´t be the highest priority in the scheme of things, unless there are health reasons for it.
Having said that, it would be an exceptional man to get me to move from Spain.
I´m not hurting at the moment, nor lonely, but I do think that as we age, we may build walls around ourselves for many reasons.
Wisdom gained from past experience is one reason, but even that is not only confined to mature people. There are one or two very young members here who display far more widom than many others here old enough to be their parents, or even grandparents!
Another reason for some may be that settling for second best is just not worth it, however needy for a significant other one may be.
I do find that the longer I remain single, the easier and more enjoyable it becomes, that is probably due to the fact that I married very young and stayed married for 25 years, the single life is still a novelty for me, so will not apply to others.
Also, and more importantly, because I have a life and fulfilling work outside CS....that´s the key...in my case anyway.
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Think you´re right, but there must be somebody who can do it.....maybe? 
RE: The Smoking and Honesty Thread...
Told ya Olso!