But I´m not comparing or contrasting. I made an observation within the context of the topic of this thread, which is what doesn´t happen in general, and what we are discussing here.
Don´t take this as a personal slight on anybody here, it is not. I don´t insult people in private or public.....well except my ex husband!
But if, in your opinion, she is butt ugly and you can recognise that, how can she also look good to you
I think you may mean that a woman who is not perceived as a classic beauty in the sense of what the media or fashion industry try to make us believe, can still be seen as beautiful to others no?
LL, it´s not at all about being elitist, but the fact that there does not seem to be the room for different views and wants. As you say, don´t enter threads that are uninteresting, I don´t think any of us here do that, and we aren´t saying they should be banned, we appreciate everybody has their own agenda for participating.
The problem is, some threads are hijacked to the point of no return by people who have no real interest in the thread other than to have a natter with their mate!
In real life, our friends are those we can talk to, be listened to, and be understood. Here we all have to sift and sort, and when finally there is a meeting of minds, or the intelligence to debate without rancour, it is seized by a group of people who should be communicating privately or on a thread clearly signposted as a chat thread.
I´ve noticed the same with you both too, shame, I always enjoy yours and jibiza´s contributions. I hardly bother posting or making threads myself now (they usually die a quick death anyway!).
I don´t mind the occasional hi, but, as has already been said, it often culminates in a 2 or 3 page chat and good posts get overlooked amongst it.
It´s usually the people who never make serious threads or get involved in a real discussion, which is fine, not everybody enjoys a more thought provoking topic, but why do they interrupt the flow of a perfectly good thread?
Still say regular breaks is the answer to keep sane!
Incidentally, the EU forum which I participate in more frequently, never has this problem. I wonder why?
I´ve been here on and off for three and a half years and I can tell you that it only gets worse! The same old threads recycled hundreds of times - patience does wear thin. How many times can you answer.."would you blah blah". However, for new people I can make excuses as they have no idea their question has been posed here many times before.
The secret is to take long breaks, and I mean weeks or months, not hours! And not to get involved behind the scenes too much.
I didn´t intend it to sound final. I met my ex when was 15 and was married at 18 years old for 25 years. I don´t think anybody can experience first, young and more importantly, enduring love ever again. It is different. Hówever, I certainly haven´t ruled out the possibility of being in love again but, I am a different person now, I´m used to being without a live in partner, so if I were to fall in love how could it possibly be the same?
I don´t have high expectations, that´s being realistic, not negative.
Nora, many people have sympathised with you and what you have said here, but when you choose to respond to posts in this way you aren´t doing yourself or your beliefs any favours.
I certainly felt desperate during the last few years of my marriage.
My marriage was long and we were undoubtedly soulmates (I hate that word!)for most of it, but I was very young when I married and we grew apart. I now enjoy the single life and don´t believe I will ever feel that love again.
If I do, or at least something close to it, I highly doubt that I would contemplate marriage again.
I think you made the right decision, it was obviously something you wanted to do.
As a travelling teacher, although the Moscow metro is the closest I´ve been to any real danger! I too would have found making a decision difficult, but I believe I would have accepted.
Me too, this is one of the very few I´ve voted on.
The themes of most are uninteresting, and the options often ridiculous and poorly thought out. How many posts do you read stating that their view has not been included?
Si es explorer! The damn thing has re-appeared, after midnight, its so creepy and the sound effects (the laugh) which I mentioned earlier are unbearable.
Does anybody else have it I wonder? It´s an animated graphics banner with the grim reaper
It was, for four days, but I haven´t seen it this evening.
A strange thing happened last night too. I looked on the web for advice about removing banners and was checking out a free download on that site you told me about when it appeared there out of nowhere.
Is there any way I can get rid of all the banner ads? There is one in particular (in Spanish) which is asking me if I want to know how much time I have left before my death, accompanied by a creepy laugh!
For me, I´m not seriously looking here, I enjoy the forums occasionally, particularly the EU forum which is asleep at the moment! but for many, I suspect, it´s not a case of one method over the other, but an added opportunity of meeting somebody.
As I´ve said before, the sadness is when people have no life outside CS and rely on it as a means of communicating.
As for some of the comments about online and real life comparisons, I have to say in all honesty I´ve never met such a bunch of oddballs in real life as I´ve seen here!
This is true. In the years I´ve been here I spend my time observing because I learned very soon that the likelihood of meeting anybody remotely compatible was virtually impossible.
Observing is interesting, like people watching sitting on a terrace having a coffee. I see people tie themselves up in knots with untruths over a period of time (I have a good memory!)....though I don´t usually comment, and you are so right about attractive newcomers. It´s bees to a honeypot!!!! Boredom with the same old faces sets in.
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But if, in your opinion, she is butt ugly and you can recognise that, how can she also look good to you
You obviously weren´t referring to that then.
RE: How do you do it...
But I´m not comparing or contrasting. I made an observation within the context of the topic of this thread, which is what doesn´t happen in general, and what we are discussing here.Don´t take this as a personal slight on anybody here, it is not. I don´t insult people in private or public.....well except my ex husband!