I know who I am and I don't try to portray anything false here. People make up their own minds when they read posts or threads, but this medium is really not the ideal way to capture the essence of a person.
I'm a teacher as most people here know, and I'm a very confident person in my job, however I am basically a very shy person who has learnt to overcome this over the years. Few people believe me when I reveal this about myself, but it's true. I can go to a class (nowadays without nerves at all) or give a presentation (with some nervousness)and control it.
I've often been surprised to read a serious and thought provoking post from a person who had previously acted like a buffoon, so I don't make judgements as quickly as I may have done when I first joined CS and I like to think people don't make judgements about me, but I suppose it's inevitable.
I've been thinking about this tonight after posting some music videos. They are each, stylistically, very different because they remind me of different times in my life. Aside from this, my taste in music is varied anyway. It would be impossible for anybody to 'know' me from my music video post or written posts here.
Knowing this about myself makes me realise that I don't really know anybody here.
That may be true for people who are unaccustomed to being with formally dressed people, but if you work in an environment where suits are the norm I don't think this is the case.
Only you can decide really, but I too changed my life at 40. First the career which involved teaching and travelling, then when I fell in love with Spain after working there a couple of times, the permanent move.
I still travel with my job, as you can see I'm in Russia at the moment, but my home is in Spain and I've never regretted it for a minute.
I married very young and had my children soon after so they are in their late twenties now, with their own lives. They have told me they are very proud of their mum and often come out to Spain to visit. In fact we are much closer now than ever before if that makes sense?
The world is waiting for all of us if we are willing to change, adapt, and grab any opportunity that comes along.
Smoky sashayed out of the bar followed by Lago clutching his purple ciggy lighter. It was a balmy evening and Lago could see the beads of perspiration on Smoky's bare arms and chest. She turned to him and drew heavily on her cigarette. 'So where have you been?' Lago gently whispered. Smoky stared at him, there was a sad look in her eyes......
Nobody in Fats knew Smoky though a few remembered the stately visit Smoky made a few months ago. Lago realised that he was not going to solve the mystery in Fats so he.....
The CS forum was unusually busy with old and new members participating.
Tempers got a little frayed, words were spoken that shouldn't have been ,and suddenly, two of our dear friends disappeared. Olso (aka Oslo) turned up smiling soon after, but the other, Smoky Queen of The EU Forum remained hidden away..........
Well if you're talking about a romantic relationship ,I would say few people could sustain it.
If one or the other has a tendency to be jealous then it's impossible, as I have found out.
My work involves travelling at the moment and I've discovered that there are few guys who can handle that. So, my profile says not looking.....until I settle back in Spain permanently.
That's what I said. A bit difficult in this virtual world though wouldn't you agree? We rely on the written word and perhaps a few emoticons....not exactly ideal communciation and always open to misinterpretation.
I too missed most of what's been going on as I don't visit very often, but you're right, there is some bad feeling wafting around so comments are being misinterpreted.
Jan1305 Forum Posts (5,319)
RE: Some issues or matters u should have discussed ..
Aaah with hindsight!It all depends how mature you are when you marry. I was only 18 so there was nothing at that time I felt I needed to clarify before the big day.
However, love blinds most of us regardless of age.
My kids have learnt from my mistakes and misguided trust so all is not lost.