Jan1305 Forum Posts (5,319)

RE: --- Elley

Hi Elley, busy, busy man!

Why are you working so far from home? Got a big teaching contract or doing other things?

RE: In some circles, it is known as "Rule 62"..

So true, and really, a smile is all that's necessary.

RE: Randomly Post The First Thing That Pops Into Your Head Thread

British English - squiffy = slightly drunk.

It was a compliment anyway.

RE: Randomly Post The First Thing That Pops Into Your Head Thread

This is my favourite pic of Indy. He looks happy and..... a bit squiffy?

RE: WHAT WOULD YOU BE WILLING TO DO PLEASE THE PERSON YOU WANTED TO SPEND THE REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH ?

Depends what he was willing to do for me.

Seriously though, love shouldn't be an effort and both partners have to give and take a little don't they? And, we all like doing things that we know will please our partner when we are in love, but we don't, or shouldn't, expect a reward.

Now if he was willing to cook for me I would do anything.....

RE: Any tips on long distance dating?

Ahhaa. So that's how you two finally sealed the deal!

RE: Why are CS relationships of a very short time?

No! But yes, in RL people do have crushes which wither away in days.

The RL scenario may not last so long because the couple concerned have the luxury of actually seeing and being with the other. The only reason virtual 'relationships' appear to last longer is because that's what they are, virtual. without the possible flaws being visible until they meet. Meetings often take months due to distance or other constraints unlike RL when the couple are physically together from day one.

I don't actually think we read as many celebratory threads as you suggest either. From my experience here, over 2 years, probably 99% of them end up in tears because they are based on very little other than months of flirting, emailing and a couple of ultimate meetings.

RE: Why are CS relationships of a very short time?

Do you mean loves makes some of us blind?

RE: Why are CS relationships of a very short time?

You relax!

I think what many of us are saying is that it's ok to 'get the hots' for somebody but don't declare undying love publicly until IMO you've met and the relationship has been going for a while.

Saves all that embarrassing about turn when things go wrong, and we don't have to suffer the aftermath of arguing exes in the forum threads.

RE: Why are CS relationships of a very short time?

Good idea!

I agree with you Cristina too, it really is, as others have said, often the 'kiss of death' to proclaim undying love for somebody on CS. It must be so embarrassing too when it all goes pear shaped, well it would be for me.

I am at a loss though with all these like-minded comments today. I think I was the only one who posted in a recent 'love forever' celebration thread anything of a, well lets say surprised comment, about the fact that the couple hadn't even met in person. I did offer my congratulations though to be polite.

By members being contradictory.

RE: If you could live the life of another forum member for a day, who would you choose?

Me too. Too much drama and heartache here with most of the members.

RE: moving in together

Mine aren't. I've only ever moved in with one person and that lasted over 25 years.

How many times for you Indy???

RE: moving in together

Just don't do it based on the thought "I aint getting any younger"

RE: New word with ending letter

existentially.

RE: New word with ending letter

lock

RE: Couple's 18 suitcases make plane, but child doesn't

I have to admit to just one time I forgot I had my child with me.

The shame and embarrassment when a voice came over the loudspeaker in the supermarket saying a lost little boy was crying for his mum.

I cried when I picked him up and spoilt him rotten for weeks afterwards.

RE: Bus passenger beheaded seat mate

It doesn't seem right, but we are a mix of people here so of course people will be offended from time to time.

I've felt offended by some comments made many times, and it's not because I disagree with them, but the way they are put forward.

RE: Bus passenger beheaded seat mate

It's ok Olso, vomit emoticon allowed cos I agree with you.

RE: WHATS THE WORLDS MOST FAVOURITE CITY ? AND WHO ARE THE WORLDS MOST FREINDLIEST PEOPLE ? AND WHY ?

I teach in a Swiss owned multi national company here and many of the consultants are German.

I can honestly say that the Russians in this company have nothing but respect and regard for their German visitors. The only negative comments I've heard have been about the Swiss. That in itself is nothing I pay too much heed to as it is largely due to the fact that the Russian employees have had to change their working practises to suit those of the Swiss, and of course this kind of change is hard to deal with for some people.

We should be careful about making wholesale presumptions about any nationality.

I count myself as very fortunate to have been born British. I don't really understand why because I don't believe it's deserved, I'm speaking on behalf of the British not me, but I've been treated with nothing but respect wherever I go in the world.

RE: WHATS THE WORLDS MOST FAVOURITE CITY ? AND WHO ARE THE WORLDS MOST FREINDLIEST PEOPLE ? AND WHY ?

It's impossible to make a judgement based solely on holidays spent in various cities.

If, like me you spend time working in different cities around the world, you get the opportunity to meet people and make real friends. This is when you realise that actually, people are friendly and welcoming wherever you are.

Of course there are cultural differences, and some nationalities are initially more friendly and open, but at the end of the day friendship and warmth can be found anywhere in the world.

RE: Right... I Need This Question Answering!!

Same here. My profile states not looking because of work and travel which is true, but I had also come to the decision a long time ago that this is not the best or most successful way of meeting somebody anyway.

Don't you also think that the longer you are here people become friends rather than love interests? It's like being with your family, romantic notions soon fly out of the window.

RE: Right... I Need This Question Answering!!

Well if you don't think he was a player maybe he didn't like the sound of your voice or what you had to say. It may hurt to think this way, but it's a possibility, and a possibility that you have considered.

It's not about how pleasant, funny or polite you may believe you are, and I'm not saying you aren't all of those things, but another person may not think so. What's funny to me may not be funny at all to somebody else. Sometimes it's just one little, innocent utterance which can totally turn off one person from another.

At the end of the day you are you and you shouldn't try to change or fit into some kind of mould to suit another. Just move on and hope that the next person sees and empathises with the qualities you have to offer.

Is that constructive enough?

RE: Bus passenger beheaded seat mate

Just 2 out of how many murders??

Cultural differences don't make any difference if somebody has an urge to kill. Law abiding citizens come in all shapes and forms.

Acceptance by Westerners.....so your remark about Russians shooting people and having done with it personifies Western understanding?

RE: Where are you originally from?

State? There are Europeans here Scottislass!

I was born in Liverpool, UK, moved to my mum's birthplace in Southampton when I was 21 with my ex husband and two babies and stayed there until my divorce. My family still live there so it's a base for me when I visit the UK.

Since then I've lived and worked in Turkey, Poland, Portugal and Spain. Fell in love with Spain and decided to stay.

I've been in Moscow working for nine months so i still have 'itchy feet', but Spain is my home.

RE: Bus passenger beheaded seat mate

Not True.

RE: do women prefer a man in a suit or casual?

And what happens when you're awarded the Booker or Pulitzer Prize?

Are you going to attend the prizegiving celebration wearing your Foul Weather Fishing Gear?

RE: do women prefer a man in a suit or casual?

Yep there are lots of those in the UK!

Somehow I can't imagine the lovely GM doing what he does best (you know what I mean!) in a suit though, so casual fits the bill in some situations.

RE: do women prefer a man in a suit or casual?

Tie not necessary. You don't wear football shirts though do you?

I bet you've got a few stylish suits hanging in your wardrobe.

Lagoona in a suit

RE: do women prefer a man in a suit or casual?

Hi Flower!

I've already given my reasons why I prefer suits. I don't agree with your final sentence about convention though and I doubt many men these days would go on a first date wearing a suit, unless a smart dinner do had been arranged.

Look at the way many Italian men dress, nobody can outdo them for style, and they certainly don't look stuffy. A summer suit, shirt (no tie) and beautiful loafers without socks.....mmmmmmmmm! And definitely chilled!

Certainly beats scruffy middle-aged men often found boozing on the coast of Spain wearing football t-shirts three sizes too small and baggy shorts.

RE: NERVES OF STEEL

Coward!