It's not what I would choose, but that may be because I have a 27 year old son and for that reason it puts a different complexion on the matter.
Maybe it shouldn't, I don't know. It's not that I would be worried about his reaction, more that I just can't look at young men of the same age as my son or thereabouts in a romantic way.
My 'life' here started over two years ago but it has been very sporadic which I believe is healthy.
I have no real friends here, but there are people I like and enjoy reading their posts. That's all it is to me, a medium to read and write when I'm bored.
If I was looking for a partner then perhaps it would mean a lot more to me but I'm not, and my relationships during the past two years have not been due to dating sites yet I log on because I enjoy - at times- participating in some of the discussions here.
Also because it makes me realise how fortunate I am!
Haven't you heard? White, pale skin is the fashion must have this year and it has been predicted for many years to come. Think Nicole Kidman, Gwyneth Paltrow and many other pale skinned celebrities.
Apparently recent surveys indicate an overwhelming preference amongst the male population for white skinned beauties.
I'm glad, I loathe sunbathing and in my late forties I now know better and try to look after my nice soft but pale skin, unlike when I was younger and often burnt to a frazzle in the quest for a bronzed body.
Len, I don't really believe people can ever starve to death in the USA. There may be people who are in abject poverty, in fact there are, but there is help if they are able or willing to make the effort and seek it out.
In other parts of the world however, people are literally starving to death. We have become too complacent in the western world and the words starvation and poverty have taken on a lesser meaning linguistically.
I think I'm pretty good at 'reading' people both here and in real life so no, I haven't changed my initial perception of anybody really.
I have however been surprised at the strength of venom and hatred in some posts of people I knew held extremely opposite views to my own - not a problem - but later displayed an inability to listen or tolerate any difference of opinion.
I have also read posts from people which are so conflicting and this is what I dislike most. It seems that some post simply to gain friends/support whatever, and do not stick to their principles. Maybe they do not have principles, I don't know, but it's very confusing to read a post from somebody one day then the next read something from that same person which is so fundamentally different!
Perhaps the behaviour of some people is affected by medication, drugs, alcohol whatever, but it sure confuses the hell out of me!
Smoky you are so right. Politeness means that one can offer an opinion, criticism (constructive) without offence.
It is not something that a lot of people can do unfortunately, as has been seen so many times here on CS.
Polite people do not usually offend but with non native speakers of English even polite people can run into difficulties. The skill then is to explain what was actually meant...again politely.
So wise James, and true integration means learning the language, and adapting to the culture.
This is why I chose a part of Spain to live where the only expats I meet are teachers like me, or people who live on the coast in their 'Little Britain' communities and come to visit for the day.
I like living alone, perhaps because it's still quite a novelty for me. I do miss someone around when I'm full of flu though and need a little tlc!
Ironically, studies show that people who live alone are less healthy than those with a live in partner or family member. Reading some of the horror stories here I find that hard to believe sometimes.
A nice doggy would probably be just as beneficial for the health.
It's not a clique, although there are a few members who are friends behind the scenes and sometimes demonstrate it in the middle of a thread. That's ok, for me and it doesn't bother me in the slightest, because I'm not the kind of person who can be bosom buddies behind a computer screen. I need to see and be with somebody before I can make that commitment.
In reality it's just that some people are more popular than others for various reasons. We can't always be the star of the show, but remember that the 'little' people are the backbone of any organisation.
This doesn't bother me too much unless it was a huge difference. There are many reasons why people have lied about their age and some have explained those reasons eloquently here on CS in the past.
I think photo creativity is just as bad. Many people are clever at maximising their potential with photographic skills (alas I have no idea how to do this) and therefore are portraying a lie about themselves in reality.
I know, I've met men who look nothing like their profile pics and not because the pic is old.
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RE: i've got no time for you connectingsingles people i've off to watch a latin salsa dancing competitio
happy birthday to your dad!I love watching my mem who is 70 now but still able to jive....without the tossing over the shoulder!