No. I care about what's inside a person much more than I can ever care about their outside. One thing I learned is that if you love the inside of a person, then the outside will be extremely attractive to you just the way it is. I fall in love with a soul, not a body.
I am one of those women that think men are gorgeous no matter who they are. I mean a big one, and no clue how to use it, a pretty face with a shabby personality. Nah looks do not impress me at all. Size don't either. I mean if you have imagination size thing ain't no issue. I remember falling in love with a guy that weighed 450 pds. We had fun together, but he eventually left to go to California, to take care of his Dad who was sick. I let him go, I still get e-mails from him, but I remember him fondly.
budlightlvr1987: Its all in fun, but to see if looks really do matter!!
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder but as far as a physical love relationship then yes attraction matters. I am not shallow but if I don't like someone's face and are not attracted to them in some way physically it's not going to happen in the romance department. JMO
of course looks matter. Quasimoto didn't die a happy man!!
People who say looks are unimportant are flat out lying.
If you buy a car...you want it to look nice. And you'll only own it on an average of 5 years. Surely someone you want around a lifetime, looks would play into the equasion
when i first saw my man on our first date( had met him before) I thought- oh no- don't fancy him at all- not that he isn't goodlooking, just a split second thought- but we talked all night and i enjoyed his company. Am so glad as now i think/realise he is GORGEOUS!!
DazzleYou: Looks to me are what matter. A girl can be butt ugly, but if she looks good to me, then that is all that is necessary.
But if, in your opinion, she is butt ugly and you can recognise that, how can she also look good to you
I think you may mean that a woman who is not perceived as a classic beauty in the sense of what the media or fashion industry try to make us believe, can still be seen as beautiful to others no?
budlightlvr1987: Its all in fun, but to see if looks really do matter!!
Sometimes you can really like someone but there just isn't an attraction there to build on so it's looks but more. I dated a guy a couple of times and wanted to be good friends with him but when he wanted more I just found I simply was attracted enough to take it there. So yes attraction can grown and that is wonderful but sometimes it just doesn't and to try to force it usually ends up with someone getting hurt. JMO
mbcaseyNorth Myrtle Beach, South Carolina USA16,449 posts
Dawn7z: Sometimes you can really like someone but there just isn't an attraction there to build on so it's looks but more. I dated a guy a couple of times and wanted to be good friends with him but when he wanted more I just found I simply was attracted enough to take it there. So yes attraction can grown and that is wonderful but sometimes it just doesn't and to try to force it usually ends up with someone getting hurt. JMO
I agree Dawn..it is a sense of attraction with me.
Dawn7z: Sometimes you can really like someone but there just isn't an attraction there to build on so it's looks but more. I dated a guy a couple of times and wanted to be good friends with him but when he wanted more I just found I simply was attracted enough to take it there. So yes attraction can grown and that is wonderful but sometimes it just doesn't and to try to force it usually ends up with someone getting hurt. JMO
I completely agree with you Dawn. I've actually been bummed because I WASN'T attracted to someone who I thought was a super-great guy! But that's just something that can't be forced.
jampet: when i first saw my man on our first date( had met him before) I thought- oh no- don't fancy him at all- not that he isn't goodlooking, just a split second thought- but we talked all night and i enjoyed his company. Am so glad as now i think/realise he is GORGEOUS!!
sweetowen: I completely agree with you Dawn. I've actually been bummed because I WASN'T attracted to someone who I thought was a super-great guy! But that's just something that can't be forced.
Yeah I met a great guy or I thought he was great about a year ago. He lived about 50 miles from me but when I didn't want to be romantic he became angry with me. It was too bad I really wanted to like him. He was a musician and I liked his friends to but really after that he ended up being a rather self righteous prig and it wasn't going to work. Plus he judged me for my writing and I couldn't handle it.
Jan1305: But if, in your opinion, she is butt ugly and you can recognise that, how can she also look good to you
I think you may mean that a woman who is not perceived as a classic beauty in the sense of what the media or fashion industry try to make us believe, can still be seen as beautiful to others no?
Yep, that is the way I look at it. For example, there are those "beauties" that the media props up as being the definition of attractive, and I don't get it at all - they look ugly to me.
However, the plain Jane girl who hits me in my soft spot is the one I want.
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