I think that one of the best ways to deal with personal tragedy and to facilitate healing is to realize that we're not alone in all of this. Suffering is just a part of life. Granted, some people have been through more than others.
It has been said that God doesn't allow us to take on any more than we can handle. I used to question this, but then I realize, I'm still alive, I'm still a functioning, relatively healthy, happy human being, for the most part.
And, also, even though I'm not especially a religious person, I do believe in God and Heaven and know that one day all this suffering and sorrow will be replaced by joy and triumph.
Take life as it comes and deal with it on a day to day basis. There is a reason for everything that happens in life, whether good or bad, though we may not now understand why.
When dealing with the negative, it also helps to try to focus on the positive. Scars may run deep but all wounds eventually heal. Each of us has a purpose in this life to fulfill and I think that those who suffer the most those who are better-equipped to deal with it, though it may not seem like it.
Consider how strong you must be to have made it through some horrific and terrifying events! We are only as weak as we perceive ourselves to be, and we are only as strong as we perceive ourselves to be. Our minds are very powerful and they can build us up -- or they can destroy us. It took me some 30 years to realize this. And I'm just now getting to where I'm quite satisfied with who I am as a person and what I've endured and accomplished in this life.
I've played both the role of man and woman in my house for so long I wouldn't know how to act if I had a man here doing all the typical "man" things. Well, except one of them. I sure know how to act then!
Better get everything you want done now because the warranty starts running out on all your parts when you turn 40.
LOL..
Seriously, though....I'm 48 and it's not much different than when I was 38. Except nowadays if I bend down to pick something up from off the floor, I look around to see if there's anything else I need to get while I'm down there so I don't have to make the trip twice.
but I need to know an English word that might have been mistakenly translated from Spanish to English as the word "orange."
What this is is a document I'm editing that's in English that once was written in Spanish but was "translated" (and I'm putting that nicely) by Spanish-to-English software. It's a mess.
It has to do with taxes. And the term "half orange" came up when referring to certain couples who can be claimed as exemptions on another's tax return.
I'm thinking the translation software just totally screwed up and put "orange" in there by mistake.
I co-own a six-bedroom home along with my mother. She still works at the same place she's been working since 1970, and I run a business from home. She is going on 78 years old and can't take care of the yard or housecleaning and laundry and stuff, so I do all of that. I'm the only one in the family who's single and who is close enough and available to help her out, so that's why we have this arrangement. The downstairs part of the house is mainly mine, and the upstairs part of the house is mainly hers (though the main kitchen is on the main floor and the laundry/utility room is downstairs). My office is also upstairs. The house is so big that my daughter and (then future) son-in-law used to live here, too. We've got a huge fenced-in yard for the dogs and it's on a nice, quiet cul de sac.
The only real problem is the %#$%$#% poison ivy on the side and lower part of the property! I'm going to have to cave in, I guess, and hire someone to do the yard work for me, since no one wants to be my yard boy.
And don't think that going out and getting drunk and taking a swig of beer and then spitting out the blood is going to work, because it ends up you take a swig of blood and spit out the beer. And then you feel like total HELL the next morning.
And smoking causes a dry socket. This much I know from experience. And it hurts like a mother.
If you need the pain pills, take them. If you must rinse, then do so VERY gently. Do not swish anything around in your mouth; you don't want to lose the blood clots.
Why is it when Christians do something bad they're always called on it (as if Christians are somehow supposed to be perfect?) but when atheists or agnostics, or Buddhists or Taoists, or Spiritualists, or Wiccans, or ...well..anyone non-Christian does something bad, they're "excused" from it (or their religion isn't mentioned in connection with it?)
Christians are just as fallible as is anyone else. There are good Christians and bad Christians, they are good Atheists and bad Atheists ...there are good PEOPLE and bad PEOPLE.
If you want to find a non-Christian, that's your prerogative, of course, but don't think that just because they're not Christian that they're going to be any better than a Christian is, necessarily.
They have cards now but anyone can use it. But they also don't allow certain products to be sold. You cannot buy a whole lobster, for instance, on a food stamp card.
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RE: Wounds That Will Not Heal....
I think that one of the best ways to deal with personal tragedy and to facilitate healing is to realize that we're not alone in all of this. Suffering is just a part of life. Granted, some people have been through more than others.It has been said that God doesn't allow us to take on any more than we can handle. I used to question this, but then I realize, I'm still alive, I'm still a functioning, relatively healthy, happy human being, for the most part.
And, also, even though I'm not especially a religious person, I do believe in God and Heaven and know that one day all this suffering and sorrow will be replaced by joy and triumph.
Take life as it comes and deal with it on a day to day basis. There is a reason for everything that happens in life, whether good or bad, though we may not now understand why.
When dealing with the negative, it also helps to try to focus on the positive. Scars may run deep but all wounds eventually heal. Each of us has a purpose in this life to fulfill and I think that those who suffer the most those who are better-equipped to deal with it, though it may not seem like it.
Consider how strong you must be to have made it through some horrific and terrifying events! We are only as weak as we perceive ourselves to be, and we are only as strong as we perceive ourselves to be. Our minds are very powerful and they can build us up -- or they can destroy us. It took me some 30 years to realize this. And I'm just now getting to where I'm quite satisfied with who I am as a person and what I've endured and accomplished in this life.