I have to say I would hope my new partner would understand that children regardless always come first. They need guidence and direction. I would try my best to accomodate both my child and my new partners needs. All I would ask for is a little understanding and commpassion for myself and my son.
Thanks for all of your replies folks, the response quoted above, from carebear, caught my eye as being well balanced, thoughtful and above all, mentioned the term compassion, which is sadly lacking in a world of changing values, dominated by the almighty dollar or pound for that matter.
I think the debate may go on Charlie, one of the interesting responses came earlier on, in relation to how children from previous partnerships play to the gallery and how they dealt with it.
It is, and that is the cause of many an upset in a new relationship where there are children from a previous partnership are involved. Conflicts of loyalty in other words.
It sounds as if you handled the situation extremely well, but how many other relationships have been wrecked without the sage and considered fashion in which you personally took it upon yourself to act in? Not many I’ll wager.
My relationship with a partner would come first....
That's a perspective which would gain trust and shows lateral thinking in many people's views..he or she would be well advised not to undervalue that answer.
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In a new permanent relationship, who comes first, your children by your first partner, or your new p
Agreed, without prejudice or reservation....