If you choose a smoker, put up with it or find someone else If they like spicy food, same advice. Not nice to tell someone how or what to eat. Isn't it really up to him? Just tell him.
You have a choice to stay with him or find someone else.
He has the same choice.
"ok, i'm interested in you...but...i must solve some problems you have?"
Ya might have some problems with what is going on with him, but you don't... 'must solve his problems'.
Attitudes that sicken the heart are epidemic around the world.
The underprivileged everywhere must grovel and scrimp to merely stay alive, while the few in power protect and increase great hoards of cash, lie on sheets of silk, and each morning twist bathroom fixtures made of gold. And as emaciated children of ribs and skin die in the arms of weeping mothers, their country's "leaders" engage in political corruptions which keep donated food stuffs from reaching the starving masses.
No one seems to have the power to alter these conditions, yet the truth is, power is not the problem. No one seems to have the 'will'.
And thus it will always be, so long as no one sees another's plight as his own.
We simply don't care. It's lack of caring. The entire planet faces a crisis of consciousness. We must decide whether we simply care for each other.
We do love members of our own family. We simply have a very limited view of who our family members are.
We do not consider ourselves as part of the human family, and so the problems of the human family are not are own. Changes:
In order to eliminate more of the pain, more of the suffering...
By eliminating all separations between us.
We must begin to see someone else's interests as our own.
God (if you believe in Him) gave us all 'free will'. Now, if He were a God of judgment and punishment, He certainly would not allow us 'freewill' I can't see Him even getting pissed off at any of us - even if we don't believe in Him.
Again, the way I see it... Is that some people took it upon themeselves to set up rules of judgment for mankind. (helps to keep people in line and in fear and good at controlling things to their way of thinking.)
I think this highest of all specialized intelligent super energy - (easier to say God) watches and experiences the good and the bad of things, and ultimately hopes for the Best.
So, if, "alot of people are f*cked", then perhaps mankind, with our free will, do it to ourselves.
Heaven forbid...
Humor, humor is a good thing.