I was pondering the last little bit. When we have a relationship with someone that we love, and we lose that relationship...we grieve because of the loss. But sometimes I think that in actuality, it is the illusion of what we thought it was, or could have been, that we are really grieving. We grieve the loss of what we wanted it to be...not what it actually was. And then if and/or when we realize it was an illusion, it somehow makes the pain more bearable. Does that make sense...kinda sorta???
Hmmm...I had one after my husband left after 26 yrs. of marriage. I recoverd and I was ok for about 6 yrs. then I said Hello to someone and that started a relationship that was doomed from the get go! I probably knew better, but I did not listen to that still small voice inside. Soooo...almost 4 yrs. of that relationship...my heart is pretty shattered I would say. Sometimes Time can be your Friend or your worst enemy it seems. Lately, it does not feel to much like a friend.
Yanno what? I think you should do what makes you happy. If you enjoy coversing with this man, then keep conversing, but keep your options open. Meaning, if someone else comes along...then by all means talk/date them. It is very difficult to have a relationship with someone that is so far away from you...and until you have met face to face...and spent some real quality time together...I would not say you are in an exclusive relationship. just my opinion.
RE: Roll Call
Hi Lela...I am Dayna. Nice to meet you.