Fear of rejection???....hell no!!!!...I am totally fearless, and welcome the challenge of seeeing how woman handle an invite to chat (I'm not talking about a date here...).....I do it all the time...I don't fear it, simply because I have no other agenda than seeing if I can have interesting conversation with a stranger...I have absolutely nothing to lose.....sometimes I specifically pick out the most stunning woman in the room, I love to see how she deals with it...
I have to say, in terms of breaking ice with strangers, I live in the most challenging society in the cosmos....most expats I know live in rank fear of women here....no wonder they're all bachelors!!....If you can't handle being blown off by strangers here (Switzerland)...you'll either die a quick death, or you'll never meet anyone outside of your workmates...
Yeeeh...I think I'll be spending it alone....but I'll cook as if I'm expecting royalty, and I'll drink some incredibly expensive wine....the only thing that I really really appreciate about being single over Xmas is, I don't have to do any stupid shopping!!!!!....what a blessing!!...
This is a prime example of a test that’s not really meant to be one. Since there is no longer a clear rule for this type of situation, it can be very awkward if you don’t have a plan of action. Likely, she honestly feels that it would be rude not to at least pretend to offer to pay her half. But what’s tricky is the way you handle it because judgment of your behavior will swing widely depending on her personality -- some women will be very insulted if you go Dutch, while others will be appalled if you insist on paying it all yourself.
Pass the test: Go for compromise. Let her know that you’d love to treat her to dinner and make sure you pay, but joke that she can pay the next time the two of you go out. This makes it even -- hypothetically. You can even make cheesy jokes about why you want to pay (think “the pleasure of your company is contribution enough” or something along those lines).
The perfect way to tell wether a woman is with you for the right reasons is to pay the first date, and tell her that the second date is to her account.....(it's been a long time since I had a second date....)
I never like to pay for the woman on a first date, because I'm afraid she'll feel obligated to sleep with me.....if she pays, maybe she'll expect me to sleep with her to get her money's worth!!....yippeee!
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...I think I'm in the poo now....(quietly sneaking out the back door again...)...
RE: Cheer me up.......I think I have been dumped.
If I was a woman, and a guy would stand me up once on a date, he simply wouldn't get a chance to do it a second time....end of story...