I am going from the perspective of since I cannot hear the nuances that accompany the spoken word, that being straight forward ensures that I understand what is being said and eliminates confusion.
There are things that do not translate well with Lip-reading.
There are sounds, inflections in the voice that cannot be picked up by hearing aids, it depends upon the Loss of hearing involved, mine is at the bottom of the scale. So even with hearing aids, I am still in the deaf spectrum of the scale.
I never said I did not want excitement. I said I wanted straight forwardness. Meaning what you say, saying what you mean. There is a big difference in what I was referring to and what you interpret
Besides, Who said we Engineering types were not exciting?
Yes, it can be. But that depends on the people involved. My Parents put 150% effort in on each side, not necessarily in the same areas. It takes much effort to make it successful and to be able to compromise is very important.
No, I do not feel like any mouse bc I do not think in double meanings. I only write exactly what I mean. My Parents taught me to do and say EXACTLY what you mean. If you have to use double meanings, how could you ever expect anyone to take you seriously?
They also said to use double meanings makes you look untrustable. If you state precisely what you mean and do precisely as you say, you will have no problems. Following this advise has never gotten me in trouble.
Erm, No I don't know you. I am very well educated, though, I rely very heavily on the written word, in part bc I am deaf and by my parents having me write essays when they were trying to ensure I understood something, I have learned that you can give a negative impression very easily.
Therefore, my advice is to be careful when you write something. It will probably go very far in eliminating that "dismay".
Um, I got that from your earlier posts in reply to Sommers. You are the one that made the comments about analyzing being an art requiring practice and the way you worded it was negative in its impression.
I'm sorry, I was taught that it is best to think and think completely before you speak. To analyze all possible angles. This was drilled into me by my Father. To be truthful, it serves me well and keeps me out of trouble. I enjoy Sommers well thought out posts. the mind does not have to go into overdrive at all, just be logical. This does not need practice except in being sure that we are respectful of all.
I have done this, in my younger years. Now, things have changed and I have actually had a guy tell me that to do this today constitutes teasing. So what to do? I have emailed to see if the guy was interested in being a friend then let things go from there.
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