There are American Families that do arrange marriages believe it or not. It is just not all that well known. My parents are 1st and 2nd generation American decent of Jewish Immigrants.
How about those that have arranged marriages? The success rates there are often higher than, ours.
Many have often never set eyes on oneanother before the day of the wedding. Others have met and/or talked under chaparones up to the day of their wedding.
Yet the level of committment between those that have had no choice in the matter blows me away. The depth of their Love is astounding. Many have said they would not have chosen the other if they had been doing the choosing. I admire them for doing something I could not do.
My Mother wanted to arrange a marriage for me from part of our Old World family. I refused. I do not regret having refused bc I feel I will make my own mistakes in life. Yet, on an occasion when I think of the friends I have whom have had an arranged marriage and how very happy they are, I can not wonder, if perhaps my Mother could have done a better job than I.
Whom says any one is rushing? If you read my profile, you will find that I am a proponent of having a Solid Friendship in place before, ther is any thing more.
Also, There ARE some whom know from the instant they meet. My Late Husband and I did. I do not think I will be so lucky to have that a second time, but I do know Love at First Sight DOES exist.
I also did not know that was possible. It usually goes hand in hand with those of us that have fair skin and cannot be controlled at least in my experience. It happens from emotional responses and it CAN hurt when you blush. I does me if my skin bushes too fast, I hurt, burn and itch. Why anyone would want to fake it boggles my mind.
This is a Connecting Singles site for many venues. It just happens to be that the majority of us fall into one venue, that is looking for Love and a Mate for Life and not a fling. Have you checked the appropriate box on your profile? Just wondering. JMO it seems to me that many cities have a E34th street where you can fing your Fling for the night. It will cost you- hopefully not your life though.
Not only can they meet on the internet, theu can have a very successful relationship. I posted this to another thread and have copied it for here b/c it seems appropriate:
It can and does work. It takes a TREMENDOUS amount of Work. It is definitely NOT for the faint hearted.
You both have to be willing to communicate, Communicate and then COMMUNICATE. This goes even double when there are language differences, it is very easy to misunderstand some thing one or the other has said and feelings get hurt. But then sorting it out takes Communication......+......+ to infinity.
Also, Trust IS Essential. Broken Spirit posted a wonderful demonstation of trust- He and I have adopted that as part of our vast tools on working on our relationship, b/c it reflects how we see all things with each other. (I will see if I have her permission to post it here.)
There has to be compromise willing to be taken in to consideration, on many things in the spectrum.
But the bottom line is if two people want it badly enough and are willing to work harder than they normally would, anything can work with commitment.
Note too, you have to be realistic. We do realize that: bc we get along in IM, Phone, Chat, IP-Relay and email, it may be a totally different story when we meet in person.
We do believe in Love @ first sight and are hopeful that it carries over into when we meet in person. This involves planning and is always open to be ing retuned due to eachother's lives.
Hope this helps, Best of luck to all of us involved in these relationships.
I am so sorry. The Senseless things never have an answer. Two wrongs a right do not make. My heart goes out to you. Are you in a safe place? You are in my prayers. There is nothing that any one can say that would give much comfort.
This is happening in too many places in the world. My bf had to go home to India after the things that happened there. I have friends all over the world and I worry about all of you.
If you need to just vent, feel free to email me. I know we dont know oneanother yet but, I am friend any time you need one. I may not respond right away, bc I do not have email/phone @ home. But I will respond as soon as I go on campus or to the local library.
The fear of God comes from the knowledge of God, which is from knowing God. The Bible tells us that the beginning of wisdom and knowledge is the fear of the Lord. The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom, And the knowledge of the Holy One is understanding.” (Proverbs 9:10) As God’s presence is revealed to us physically and spiritually we stand in awesome respect of His power and majesty.
Acceptance of a person is important. Communication always is the most important. If the affection in a relationship has diminished, communication MUST be pursued to understand why.
Any emotionional or physical problems should be checked out if they are medical. A person whom is sick physically is going to have the physical illness affect the emotional and mental.
If the one partner has fallen out of love, then the two need to communicate and decide if they wish to save the relationship. If so, what steps they must take including counceling. If not, then there still has to be effective communication to negotiate letting each other go.
Diminishing affection, does not bode well for any relationship.
If there is not much affection to start with, that is a indication that both must recognise and decide if they can live with it. Personally, if ther is nott much affection to start with, would tell me, that this is not the right person for me.
I am glad. I have many friends from other cultures, as a result of attending CWRU. Two of my closest gf are from the United Arab Emrates. They are like sisters to me. I was hoping some of the more understanding memebers of the culture would post on here to teach all of us. You thread is a vaild question.
RE: Since when did dating here and IRL become....
I have never seen this myself but it does sound interesting.