hollandgirl Forum Posts (4,464)

RE: Thank a lot to connectingsingles for helping me to find wonderful partner

Very happy for you two.
Wishing you lots of happiness and congratulation on the wedding plans.

RE: hi everyone.

Welcome to this forum abbive, many nice people here.
Just jump in and enjoy yourself.

The many lies told in profiles ....................

Latest guy we got on fabulous on IM, phone calls followed emailing etc.
I want to meet you Jenny. Great!
Noticed several lies over time and not little ones either.
Made a big thing in his profile about honesty, loyalty etc.
So things did not add up.
Told him I had changed my mind about meeting.
He told me he would always keep me in high esteem.
That was nice to hear, but my trust was gone.
Plain and simple.
I was disappointed as it had looked very promesing.

The many lies told in profiles ....................

Yeah love to wear mens shirts.
My problem is I am too trusting have been often told this.
Naive is the word really.
Trusting until it hurts yes and then the disappointment hits me worse.

The many lies told in profiles ....................

You would have had to meet him as it was clear he was much older then what his picture showed. It took me aback at first but thought okay I am here now and lets go for a walk.
My heart was no longer in it as it waa clear he had lied big time about his age.
I don't understand this as the truth comes out soon enough and then my trust is gone, so yes;

Next.

The many lies told in profiles ....................

Take your pick
Years silly man

RE: I dont know what is going on here???????

So sorry to hear Joanne for Eric losing his dad.
You have not had a good week.

Rejection is very painful for sure....................

XDS

There will always be some who don't like me. Yes, as you said; it is there problem.
You can't win them all, not all the time right?
That kind of rejection does not count.

Rejection is very painful for sure....................

It is great that your not passing your hurt on to your daughter and treat her the way a loving mother should.
You will see the rewards in your daughter. Besides it is healing for your self at the same time.
Knowing that you are capable to love, regardless what has be done to you, perhaps because of what was done to you.

RE: I'm getting indecent proposals here

Are you bragging or complaining?

Rejection is very painful for sure....................

I guarantee, you will be a great dancer if I put your feel upon a hot plate

Rejection is very painful for sure....................

Hi sis;
I am surely not even considering this sort of rejections, no, they are not included at all.
This kind we experience all the time, and this will be until the day we leave this planet.

Rejection is very painful for sure....................

Jenny, I am glad you were able to forgive. Not for them, for your own peace of mind. Very often rejection is not about rejected:

‘Balding, skinny, can dance a little,’ they said of Fred Astaire at his first audition.

Albert Einstein’s parents feared he was sub-normal.

Beethoven’s music teacher declared him ‘hopeless’ at composing.

... so on ....[/quote

Rejection is very painful for sure....................

You are very wise for someone that young

Rejection is very painful for sure....................

That is good and the way it should be.

The public toilet the experiences of one woman..........You?..............part one

Do you think so? Could have been a guy in drag lol

Rejection is very painful for sure....................

I think what helped me a lot was finding a boyfriend at 14.
I spend a lot of time with his family, the mother more nuturing

Rejection is very painful for sure....................

This is all in the past now tipaly, dealt with and forgiven.
It is good when later I realized what my mother's upbringing was, making forgiving easy.
When I realized that my first husband cheated to bolster his ego, as he had low self esteem, it was not so difficult to it go.

When you have been able to deal with the big ones, then the little ones are mere little bumps in the road.

Rejection is very painful for sure....................

I agree and that is why I told Ken that I
wanted to feel the pain so not to become desensitized.
I want all my feelings to stay awake, alert.
Nothing is that kind of trouble in my life now, but where it
to happen again, well I will deal with it then.

Rejection is very painful for sure....................

I would never wished it too do to others as I know how it feels.
All through my childhood I would feel it more then once.
One reason I left home early and for good, at twenty when coming to Canada.
Yes later you learn how to deal with it and it prepares for what is furher coming down the pike.

Ship I don't want to think, is this or that person trying to get the
better of me all the time.
It would just make you suspiscious of people.
I don't even want those thoughts in my head.
I am a happy person and don't need negative stuff in my heart.
I am free of all that.

The public toilet the experiences of one woman..........You?..............part one

You mean it is elevated a bit?

Rejection is very painful for sure....................

The learning is never done until your last breath.
You have just learned how to deal better with the punches.
I had a great respite for 21 years and 20 days with a great husband.
His mission in life it seemed, was to make sure his Jenny was happy, he
succeeded doing that.
He was such a loving and caring person.You could not help but love him.
As did everyone he ever came in contact with.

Rejection is very painful for sure....................

There is rejection and there is rejection.
It depends who is doing it and how close you are to that person.
Those you don't care about in the first place, could not ever hurt you, as they don't mean a thing to you.
Those you just scrug of.

Rejection is very painful for sure....................

Not today I don't either hugz, as i told I dealt with that.
Am happy to hear when people were able to forgive as this you do
not for the other person, but for yourself.
Of course those who do not wish to be in my life, keep moving on.
Lol, you can't win them all, not all the time anyway.

Shucks so many things happened to me if I had let that get to me everytime, I would have a miserable life.
It has just made me stronger.
I will not give anyone the power that they can hurt me.
I am quite happy with my life and enjoy it to the fullest.

Rejection is very painful for sure....................

Right!

For kisses I was looking for a man

Rejection is very painful for sure....................

That was good to have had so much affection from your dad.
Another good thing is when your not living with guilt or regret but still could love the party that at one time had hurt you.

I wonder if I am soo affectionate now is because I did not get it when young?
Well I am not going to analyze this one but will just enjoy it when I give and have someone to return it to me.
Bring it on darling, bring it on!
My favorite indoor and outdoor "sport"

Okay step forward one at the time, who needs kisses and hugs.

Rejection is very painful for sure....................

At times the past does come into play again.
Like when talking to family members.
Not allowing it to let me hurt again as it is not
brought up for that reason.
99% of the time we talk about the possitive things,
suprising there is a lot of that in our memory bank.
My dad had sooo many wise sayings that I use still today.

Rejection is very painful for sure....................

It is nice to have good friends.

Rejection is very painful for sure....................

Kisses and hugs? Foreign language at my home.
My mother never had any of this when she was a child.

I am grateful that eventhough not having learned this at home, I can love with all my heart and soul.

I was out of the house at 16 by "request" of my dad.
Got my "revenge" by going to Belgium. Long story.

Years later my second sister told my mom, you know what I always
loved mam? Your having tea ready for when I came out of school.
My mom was touched and said; I did that?
She could not pass on things different then what she had experienced herself.
I know that in her heart she wanted too.
As adults we did kiss and hug our mother.

Rejection is very painful for sure....................

The fixation with having to answer unanswerable questions will keep you stuck in a sea of resentment and negativity and leave you with the inability to heal and move on....

For myself I have learned to accept these rejections and dealt with it.
No resentment or negativity here, as I have forgiven a long time ago because I learned to understand where it was coming from.