PB, like I said, you are interested in older men, that is different.
What if you are 50 and interested in a man 30 years old. Could you be as trusting knowing there is a 20 year age difference.
Having a relationship is more then just saying you want it. Two people need to work at it especially if there is a big age difference.
When you are both in the age range of 25, 30 or even 40 love is easy because you have many things in common, otherwise you wouldn't have even been interested in each other.
I used to be a romantic like yourself. It was fun and I was a happy as I ever was, but life had something for me .....
Some don't move on as easily as others unfortunately.
But you do have a point that you may wonder if you should have taken the chance. I have learned to be very, very cautious because of my last breakup. No matter who may come into my life I know it's a chance for it to work, but have to believe that I have given serious thought to all the parameters.
PB, you are less likely to have a problem with age because you are older and want an older man.
If you wanted a man say 15-20 years younger, you would probably have a problem when he reaches your age of 50 and he is 70 or so.
Don't get me wrong folks. A younger man for me would be the time of my life. But it wouldn't be fair to him or to me unless we both knew that it wasn't a "forever relationship".
I am older...not old as in senile...at least not yet.
I can be cranky, moody, depressed, overweight, tired and not on my best behavior.
But there are good days when I'm upbeat, losing weight, feeling energetic, laughing and the arthritic pain isn't too bad.
Suppose a wonderful man meets me on a good day and the good days last for days and goe into months and maybe years. But then comes the day when it is all downhill for me and he wants to go to a concert. His eyes are opened to a situation that makes him think he needs to move on because he wants someone who can keep up with him. Meanwhile, we've been in a relationship for a long time and I'm thinking I have met the last man I had to go on a first date with. But that's not the way it turns out as I will be back on CS, or just growing old by myself.
But when you want to go to a function and he says, time after time, I think I'll just stay home tonight, the relationship will suffer. Whichever partner is much younger, they will go astray and that is the end of what you thought was a beginning.
You yourself said that there isn't much time when you are older to find someone to create memories with.
Do you test the waters with everyone no matter who they are, how old they are or what you have in common with her.
I get email all the time from men younger then my years. I have no doubt that if I entertained the idea of dating them it would be a waste of time because he will eventually get tired and bored with me and then I will be alone again. Why should I put myself in a situation that has a small chance of surviving.
Ain't it the truth. I envy those who celebrate their 40, 50 60 year wedding anniversary. They have so many memories.
When Nancy Regan kissed the coffin of her husband, it was more then sad that he died. I felt sadness for her...how is she going to go on without him. But I guess she is doing fairly well.
Desperation was in my life many years ago and all it did was match me up with the wrong men. Now I am cautious, for many reasons, and if there isn't a Mr. Wonderful for me, I will live out my years believing that it wasn't mean to be. In all truth, it is lonely, but lonliness isn't a reason to get involved with someone.
Snuggs09: Hi Dru. We all show our true colors....some sooner....some later. You got lucky.
I was stood up and I was angry. I waited almost 45 minutes for him at the diner. When he didn't show up I called him. He said I was the one that never made it clear the date was still on. I think you know me well enogh that I am a detail person and would have made it clear the time and place for us to meet.
Certainly wasn't hurt. Just mad as hell that I went out of my way for a jerk.
You implied that you will tell him off if he calls. Will you really do that or will you listen to his reason and if it's a sensible excuse, will you make plans to meet him again? They say everybody deserves a second chance. Does he?
Hi Dru. We all show our true colors....some sooner....some later. You got lucky.
I was stood up and I was angry. I waited almost 45 minutes for him at the diner. When he didn't show up I called him. He said I was the one that never made it clear the date was still on. I think you know me well enogh that I am a detail person and would have made it clear the time and place for us to meet.
Certainly wasn't hurt. Just mad as hell that I went out of my way for a jerk.
You implied that you will tell him off if he calls. Will you really do that or will you listen to his reason and if it's a sensible excuse, will you make plans to meet him again? They say everybody deserves a second chance. Does he?
And I would imagine you also struggle with the question...why would God let those children die and let say Charles Manson live. Life really isn't fair and I gues that's why we dump so much on God. Not saying you do, but it seems from this thread that many are on their knees quite a bit.
I should explain.....Believe in God, for me, is a comfort. It's not to get this or that, it's just a comfort to believe. I don't use my faith as a crutch.
Yes, I feel that God is within me, but what I don't do is expect Him to solve all my problems because if I expected that of Him, it would be a selective process for Him. What I mean is, He would have to choose, do I give her the car or her the baby. Do I keep this one alive or make sure that one gets the death penalty.
Like someone said, He doesn't answer all prayers and that in itself his His way of answering.
So why botherig praying if there's a 50/50 chance it will get answered. And when it doesn't get answered, what do you do?
I was going to write you. I didn't know that you lost 2 grandchildren recently. I feel so bad for you. Being a mother myself I can imagine how much this hurt you and especially to know how much your daughter/son are hurting.
He's right. The 2nd Amendment to the Constitution allows "the rights of the people". A bunch of B.S. as far as I'm concerned. Just another way for gunslingers to have power.
Oh boy. Wait until you see the response you get. I am against the average citizen carrying guns and did a gun control thread awhile ago. It turned into 9 hours of posts against my belief.
Truthfully, no, I didn't ask my parents for anything. If I did, I would have been slapped, chastized or ignored. It's a long story Harry. I was lucky to get out of that life alive.
Apostrophe is a nice lady. NOW I know she didn't mean any harm. But since I see the glass as half empty rather then half full I took her comment to be abrasive towards me.
This wasn't my thread and I apologize to the OP for destroying it. I hate it when people do that and now I have.
I'm guilty of taking things to heart way too much. Very thin skin. I always think I'm not good enough for this or that and then when someone says it....as I thought AP did..... then I start to believe it.
It'll never change Harry. Never. No point in discussing it any longer.
And don't think you're going to push your willie through my computer screen. I'm at work and I'll get in trouble
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RE: Age Range for dating?
PB, like I said, you are interested in older men, that is different.What if you are 50 and interested in a man 30 years old. Could you be as trusting knowing there is a 20 year age difference.
Having a relationship is more then just saying you want it. Two people need to work at it especially if there is a big age difference.
When you are both in the age range of 25, 30 or even 40 love is easy because you have many things in common, otherwise you wouldn't have even been interested in each other.
I used to be a romantic like yourself. It was fun and I was a happy as I ever was, but life had something for me .....