Snuggs09 Forum Posts (2,615)

RE: Getting my stuff back after trusting a man online!

I completely agree with you SV but I know from my experience he doesn't have a conscience. If he did he would have sent back the gifts I sent and he would have told me not to send anymore money if he knew he was going to end the relationship.

My situation is so much like Symbols. The man I dealt with is from Florida. I wonder if she got taken by the same man. If it is the same guy Symbol can stop waiting for a courtesy phone call.

RE: Getting my stuff back after trusting a man online!

I went through the same thing. He never asked me for a cent. I am the one who made the mistake of sending money and gifts. I paid a very heavy emotional and financial price for falling in love. I'm sorry that you did to.

If you want legal advice, SensualVixen is the best person to ask but my guess is you don't have a leg to stand on because he didn't sign a promissory note, and there probably isn't anything in writing to show that he intended to make a life with you.

My situation happened almost five years ago and I'm just starting to get over it. The baggage is heavy to carry but I'm on my way to recovery. I wish you the very, very best to easing your painful heart.

RE: Hi, I’m building myself a wimman, can you donate something?

Oh crap.....I didn't see that Polarbutterfly donated her eyes. Sorry.

I'll donate my butt cause it's big and you'll always be able to find me

RE: Hi, I’m building myself a wimman, can you donate something?

I'll donate my eyes that will pierce through your soul

RE: Why it is okay to be a bad parent.

Dru, my husband threatened me too when we were separated. I had left him four times and had to go back to him three times cause each time I was afraid he would get custody. I am divorced 39 years and back then I didn't know the laws. I didn't know that with him being an alcoholic he would have never gotten custody but he had money so I figured he would buy his way in the court.

So was I a good parent cause I went back to live with my husband who was an alcoholic in fear of losing her. I didn't care what I had to deal with at the time. All I wanted was for my dauther to be with me under my supervision and not an alcoholics.

RE: Why it is okay to be a bad parent.

Sommer, my father's refusal to not go to my graduation was because he was a selfish B.

And even thought I didn't play board games and I tried to rush through the bed time story, my daughter turned out very well. I am completely proud of her. We have our momements but show me a mother and daughter that don't have words once in awhile.

Even though she is an adult, she will ALWAYS come first in my life. You are always a parent no matter how old your child is.

RE: Why it is okay to be a bad parent.

Hi Sommer. I wasn't necessarily a great parent but I was a good parent because I looked out for my daughter's welfare since I was the only parent. Now that she is 44 years old I am no longer needed to look out for her because she can take care of herself and she has a very good husband. But every so often she will ask my opinion of something.

To be honest, when she was a little girl, she wanted to play board games and I didn't. I hated board games. I even hated having to read to her when she went to bed cause I had worked all day and I was tired. It's funny when I think back. I would try to skip around the story and she would say "you missed the part...." and then I'd have to go back and read from the beginning.

Those were the times I was a bad parent because I didn't want to do the things that little children want to do.

As she grew older I was able to relate to her better and I went on camping trips with her with the Girl Scouts, always went to school functions, PTA meetings, wherever she needed me to go, I would go WITH her.

My parents were bad, very bad parents. I was an obligation to them. My father didn't even go to my high school graduation. He thought the diamond bracelet he bought me would make up for his abence.

RE: Ladies, do you fall for those "smooth talking" men?

RE: Ladies, do you fall for those "smooth talking" men?

RE: Physical Attraction (kinda for men, but women are welcome of course)

Very, very well said Captain

RE: Physical Attraction (kinda for men, but women are welcome of course)

Stress, I do think that Hollywood, magazine advertisements, TV commercials dictate what we should look like.

TV commercial: sensuous music playing, a long haired beauty with her hair flying in the wind, long legs up to her ears, tight jeans, skin glowing, and a smile to kill for....and then you find out it's a car commercial.

I agree to a point that we are attracted to beauty but I think it depends on your age. When I was 20 years younger I was looking for a handsome man but as I got older I realized that what I needed, more then what I wanted, was a man that could make me laugh.

And that is still the case. I don't care if he is handsome. I do care if he is tall and makes me laugh. If he has a beer belly, no big deal. If he has a big beer belly I can overlook it as long as he makes me laugh.

Sorry for ranting on and on.

RE: Nostalgia.

You got your hair cut

RE: Why on a first date do people have to

I do the same for two reasons: I know he's not for me so why should I get in a discussion with him; secondly, even though he's a narcissist, I don't want to hurt his feelings, so I go with the flow and get out of there as soon as I finish my coffee.

RE: Why on a first date do people have to

I have a few I can add to that list.

RE: my bf is a handsome deaf...

RE: Looking for girl in my area.

I wasn't seriously hitting on you. You are young enough to be my grandson. People on this forum kid around in many different ways.

When I was new I made a food of myself because I didn't know how things worked here.

You're cute, you're young, you'll find someone.

May I suggest you enjoy the ride while you are looking.

These are fun people and won't intentionally hurt anyone. Sometimes something is misinterpretated, like you did with Krisha and me.

Have fun Ben. Love will find you.

RE: Looking for girl in my area.

Nah, he's telling us to buzz off unless we seriously want to date him.

You should look for my guy with the hints I gave you. My guy doesn't have an attitude.

RE: Looking for girl in my area.

I'm serious With that attitude, you're going to be looking for a long time.

RE: Looking for girl in my area.

Ben, all kidding aside, I read your profile. You have your phone number in there. It's none of my business, but you might want to think about deleting it or you will get all kinds of crazy people harassing you.

Good luck to you

RE: Looking for girl in my area.

You betcha Krisha. Let's take some beers with us.

Ground Burial, Masoleum or Cremation

Hi girl.....oh I want them to say how wunaful wunaful I was which makes me laugh cause when I was here on earth nobody gave a damn about me. And I want three flower cars. Let them spend their money on me when I die so I can see the flowers rot, assuming I will be a ghost and watch over it all.

Oh my, that sounds so evil.

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So many of you have told me your story and it has helped me tremendously. My daughter will send you her thanks

Now I just have to decide what I want to wear when they burn me up And I think I will try to get a pine box cause I can't let myself spend all that money on a mahogany casket only to be turned into ashes.

Ground Burial, Masoleum or Cremation

Hi Sharon, my father's funeral was a little over $9,000. My father had left his estate to me. He was in an assisted nursing home which means he had medical attention. Medicare would only pay for 21 days in the nursing home. If he lived past 21 days I would have had to sell his house to pay for the nursing home, doctors, etc. because he didn't have any money after I paid for his funeral in advance. He lived 20 days so I didn't have to sell his house at that time.

RE: after hours of chatting he does not want to meet me

You only talked to him for hours...how could you be head over heels for him?

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I will probably do what my daughter wants for these reasons:

She doesn't want to be burdened with knowing that I expect her to go to my gravesite so why do something that will make her unhappy. Here is a perfect example of when you expect something of someone you leave yourself open for disappointment.

Also, when she retires she is going to move. Right now we both live in New Jersey, 4 miles apart. If I was to die tomorrow, and she buried me in the ground, in New Jersey, when she moves, the grave will be here, but she will be in another state.

It's pointless and wasteful to buy a cemetary plot.

Ground Burial, Masoleum or Cremation

I think the laws do depend on the state. In some states you can't bury your dog in the backyard.

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Thank you

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The rule you speak of is a tradition for most people in America.

I call it a party and am 100% against it. I've seen these gatherings after a funeral and all they are is an easy way to get free food and liquor. People sit around in their black clothes and drink to the point of stuper and you're supposed to think they are being sorrowful.

My dauther knows she better not have a "party" for me or I will come back to haunt her

Ground Burial, Masoleum or Cremation

CONGRATULATIONS.... I don't have any grandchildren and never will because my daughter married a man 11 years older than her. He has three grown children and didn't want to do the diaper thing again.

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Someone else made a point about the body being toxic. Is that a good idea for her to carry around his ashes in a locket. No disrespect to her cause being a mother I understand.

If my daughter died I would want a gravesite to go to but since she wants to be cremated, all I will have are memories and photos.