Hi Yamadog. I've done as you asked, & can offer some advice that may be helpful. But first I want to address this fallacy about "nice" guys being losers. The problem is that many, both men and women, equate "nice" with weak. In the case of women, this means "nice" does not attract them. I do not believe it need be so. What's missing rather is self-confidence, something the "bad" boys have in overabundance.
Like I said, I looked at your profile. I'd switch the pic with the motorcycle to your main pic. Who cares that you no longer have the bike? It's still a picture of you, right? Then, in the "About Me" section, you dwell too much on Who You're Looking For. As you noted yourself, that belongs in the "Who I'm Looking For" section. Then, in general tone, there's a lot of bet-hedging and second-guessing. We see this in your Post here as well: "I'm terrible at this..." Maybe so, but need you point it out yourself? Also, you might edit the whole to make it more concise. For instance, this, from your Profile:
"I just moved here from Wisconsin and am new to the Mesa area. I'm looking for someone that can be a friend as well as a person that I'd like to start a relationship with. I'm 28 years old and not getting any younger."
Could become this:
"Hi! I'm new to the Mesa area, 28 and single. I've just moved from Wisconsin and would like to start a relationship."
Notice how 44 words becomes 22 without losing any key information. Also, we've replaced the rather downbeat conclusion with an upbeat, friendly Hi!
In sum, it's easy to project self-confidence, even if you don't feel it so much. What have you got to lose? Good luck!
First, Bruce, my compliments on being so well-kept. From a glance at your photo I would not have judged you to be old enough to have been married 23 years.
Second -- and not to misread your post -- but you spent some good chunk of that 23 years raising 2 children, yes? If as you say you would be an awesome Dad, I should think you already are.
Third -- not to be dense, I did understand what you meant -- you should never ever give up on your passion, whether that be biological fatherhood, a beloved, a career choice, imported beer, whatever. It's YOUR passion. If that's what you feel your life is about, never give up.
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Emigrate?