Why do we fall for the same (kind of person) over

It often happen that we fall for certain type of man/woman. Some sort of different-person-same-character type of man/woman. Some will say it's your type. Some will say you're a masochist, if you now what I mean wink

A beautiful song by Koop, an electronic duo from Sweden, may explain this.



Sorry for not knowing how to upload the video, can somebody help me with this? I'm too stupid for this kind of thing laugh

And please share your opinion on this.
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I thought about it ( in my younger days )
never really figured out why... as if we have some rechargeable cells in our mind which won`t accept different kind of impulses
i fall for those who fall for meblushing show much respect for their feelingslaugh smitten
as to video, go to blogs formatting (down the blog window) and use same way as with images...just instead of img put there youtube
Boban, you mean we have to change our cells to avoid this? I surely need to fix mine then

Rox, well I felt for those who don't, I love chalenge rrrrr used to, hope not anymore laugh
call me a dream galblushing laugh i always say that men want me togrin laugh
any luck with videos?
Rox, talking about dreamer, no one beats the dreamy pisces laugh video no, I wish at this hour virgo is still awake, he's the king of music videos laugh
There ya go....
virgo s sleep i guess, its nite time there around his place... i'd show you with symbols how to post but it always comes as encoded...dunno okay step by step
in blog window type "youtube" in square brackets []
then copy and paste URL of ur video (the link itself)
this one : (without any spaces)
and then the same youtube in same brackets but with slash (between the first bracket and the word youtube)
kinda [/
try it, good luckwave
Sara wave

yay thumbs up


professor Somewhere I heard: People are not attracted by the kind of people, who want to fall in love, fell in love with the person, that our emotional needs, allow us to fall in love! dunno


bouquet teddybear
Elmo! You're my man! I think I owe you this kiss

Boban, if you were given that kind of opportunity, would you take that?
Sara, I think you're right, I always fell for the guys with the same background/same job. Good point is, they were good guys I was happy with for years. On the other side, job priorities and attitude never made for an "forever", so I'm actually consciously looking for a different kind of partner this time. Not easy I can tell you...uh oh
Rox, thanks for the instruction, I will try in my next blog as El has been a gentleman doing this for me.

ITZ, my friend! You're not faceless anymore yay I know falling in love is our need, but fall for the wrong person again and again? dunno confused
Sara bouquet


mumbling Humans are the only animal that stumbles, two or more times, with the same stone! moping


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KNenagh, I know taking a different path is not easy. I heard somewhere that there is a big different between knowing the path and walking it. Well I used to get attracted to bad boys, they were such a chalenge for me. But I'm not gonna spend the rest of my life baby sitting, so I need to change. But you know, good guy is boring, so I'm gonna go for retired bad boy, if that such type exist laugh anyone? wink
Good luck with it Sara, I was never into the bad boys myself, but that's still not a guarantee for things to work. hug
Would I be want to hear what women think???

Have to say no
at first it would be probably great ,fun and easy to score but that gift would soon become a curse,
KNenagh, good luck to you too hug

Elmo, such a hard lesson to digest at this sleepy hours of mine sleep ok, I will keep that for another day, or maybe you can post that subject? peace
Boban, I see lesson learnt from the movie. Besides knowing everything is no fun, there's no surprise wink
Every next time I fall for the improved version of my type laugh Now I think I have found the perfection smitten
Dear Sarasvathy , We are all social creatures ( well most of us are ). Being that way we are subject to not only our desires but the peer pressure of those around us . Our thoughts, actions, and desires are shaped by the people we grewn up with and also the ones we live and deal with now .

As we grow and hopefully mature most of us learn from past mistakes and can finally make an intelligent desission , or as intelligent as our emotions will allow at the time .

It is sometimes difficult to seporate old feeling from present choices . You just have to learn to stop and look hard at what you are about to do . You would never buy clothes or food or even shelter without at least some thought on the matter . Why would you only make an emotional desision on something that is going to effect you in a most provacative way .

Just tell yourself that you might have to live with this desion for the rest of your life . That in it's self would warrent some closer inspection .
Sara.....OR an easier way (I think)

Go to YouTube
Copy the URL
Go to where you want to post it
Type [
Type youtube
Type ]
Paste the URL
Type [/
Type youtube
Type ]

I had to show it vertically otherwise CS wouldn't show all the commands. You should type it horizontally without any spaces. Good Luck to ya.
Ariel, No one is perfect but I must say that you rate higher than anybody. . .hug kiss
Ariel, nice to have you back! The improved version... hmmm why didn't I think of that? Thank you for your thoughtful comment handshake
Frank, of course there are society, families, friends, but hey they say love is blind. You can't think when you are emotional. And why such an emotional decision? Because falling in love is emotional. In my opinion. Correct me if I'm wrong.
Monte, thank you for the info, I will try another time handshake
Frank, it's a lifetime learning, I supposed. Otherwise, we wouldn't be here, single?
Frank thank you teddybear hug kiss

Sarasvathy, probably we can t escape from a certain type (types) who attract us. But we can try to search for a "version" with less cons and more pros. It comes with the experience, alas laugh handshake
Ariel, that was a priceless thought. I always believe the best teacher is experience, and experience is expensive! It took your time, money, age, emotional damage laugh so the cheapest way is to learn from someone else's experience. Thank you for sharing yours hug
wave sara,

With me I have noticed that opposites really do attract. Not saying 'm bad but I tend to find and connect to real goody goodies. But thats just medunno handshake
Hi Sstony wave good for you! Now you got me thinking, was it because I'm the goody-goody? confused
laugh rolling on the floor laughing --> was laughing at myself blushing

Nice song thumbs up

I think so, mbak Saras, at least looking back a bit to what I've gone through, yeah keep falling to similar person with similar trait or habits, no wonder my friends were mumbling Anyway, I learned my lesson although I am not really sure if it would make any difference, hopefully so for the better bouquet

Sara

i told u heart is meant to be wounded otherwise it is no heartcool
same bullet or different one, the result will be samewink
Hi Sara: Like the saying goes, fool me once shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me. comfort
Sara

I am confused as i am supporting both the ways
1, being shoot out by the same bullet again and again by a different individual
and
2, being shoot out by a different bullet by a different individual

one thing is common for me is GETTIN SHOOT OUT.

but as i said in my earlier post that we have weakness of getting attracted to the similar sort of people again and again
frustrated

Have we changed??? oops no!!! we just got better by telling ourselves that it is the same old hole with a different address and then go away to a diff. addresshug

Some do get successful in remodeling their weakness!!!handshake
Studies show that we do tend to fall for the same types of people. For men, it's often someone who was like our mother. For women, it's often someone like her dad. In my case, I broke the mold, because my second wife was totally opposite of the first wife. I learn real fast! rolling on the floor laughing
Some,

I feel you, matte. I've been there, I WAS like you. But no more this time, no more... hug


Hug,

So the second was exactly the opposite of the first. Makes me wonder, what failed it? If you don't mind answering. Totally none on my business but I wanna learn from your experience handshake
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